Bets time to have a baby with respect to schooling

Greener_Grass

What a totally ridiculous thread.

After almost 3 years ttc I wish I had your problems.

Be greatful if you get pregnant regardless of when it is and then worry only about carrying it to term and it being healthy.

plumpmouse

Greener_Grass wrote: »

What a totally ridiculous thread.
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I think that's a bit harsh.

I well remember feeling like I would concieve immediately and didn't want an August born child. However like you you I found that what we think may happen doesn't always.

I did manage to conceive twice. First time naturally (just as I was being sent for tests)an October baby and second time after fertility treatment and 6 years trying, an August baby.

As others have said when my children arrived I was just thrilled to have them and school months became unimportant.

However I don't believe we should feel that someone is ridiculous for asking a question simply because we have had troubles conceiving. The OP is entitled to ask this AND feel it is an important thing for her.

I for one hope that the OP has no problems conceiving and having a baby as following my experiencesI wouldn't wish infertility on anyone.

bylromarha

plumpmouse wrote: »

Greener_Grass wrote: »

What a totally ridiculous thread.
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I think that's a bit harsh.

I for one hope that the OP has no problems conceiving and having a baby as following my experiencesI wouldn't wish infertility on anyone.

Ditto.

I well remember the dewey eyed joy of having the pregnancy test ready to go at the end of our first month of ttc. Months became years...you presume infertility happens to other people at the start of your ttc journey.

I truly wish all those ttc who have contributed to this thread the very best and hope that 2013 will be their year...and remember that be nice to all money savers may sometimes mean closing a thread rather than replying on it.

Janepig

bylromarha wrote: »

Ditto.

I well remember the dewey eyed joy of having the pregnancy test ready to go at the end of our first month of ttc. Months became years...you presume infertility happens to other people at the start of your ttc journey.

I truly wish all those ttc who have contributed to this thread the very best and hope that 2013 will be their year...and remember that be nice to all money savers may sometimes mean closing a thread rather than replying on it.

You put it in a nicer way than I did :).

Jx

bylromarha

pinkshoes wrote: »

Actually, it's not b*llocks at all!

Just finished my dissertation on the attainment gap, and isolating other criteria, then month of birth is actually quite significant up to the end of KS3 (Y9), although the difference is then wiped out at KS4 (GCSE).

August is the best time of year to have a child for financial reasons if you plan to go back to work, as they will then start school in the September after they turn 4, saving you potentially 12 months of nursery fees!

He he. Another example of academia proving what they want to hear. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Not too easy to isolate the life experience from the date of birth in reality though, is it?

Hence the government chucking the pupil premium at those on FSM, not Summer borns.

Attendance is the biggest factor which plays its part in attainment, then poverty. Summer born comes further down the list than those two.

loveasale

My son was born on 31st August.
He started school on 5 Sep (5 days after his 4th birthday) two kids in his class were already 5 !
To begin with I would say you could tell there was a whole year apart.
Not in a intelligent way but an emotional way.
By the end of primary school he finished I would say in the top 7 out of a class of 30!
Now he's just about to take his GCSE's and again is the brightest amoung his pals, 3 of them born sep oct and nov.
So really I don't think in the end it matters, :j

marisco_2

No particular month of birth gives a child an advantage over another academically. It also has little effect on how they get on with their peers. Every child is different and unique in their interests, social skills and abilities.

I do believe that children benefit greatly from attending nursery from about 2 1/2. Structured play, learning, socialising and eating with their peers is really good for them.

Some children will be more than ready for school at just turned 4, others need that extra time. Being in a class with other children who are slightly older is no bad thing and can help to bring on a child in lots of ways. What is vital is an experienced teacher that can nurture each child in their class and bring them on individually and as part of a group.

One of my cousins was September born so one of the eldest in her year group, another was December born. My sister and I were April and my brother August. All of us did well academically and have gone on to lead happy, succesful and fullfilled lives.

My parents always said that to instill manners in a child and bring them up in a calm and happy environment is the best thing you can do for them. Helping them to be as self sufficient as possible, such as being able to get dressed and undressed by themselves and to eat with a knife and fork, before starting school is also a good idea.

Education is only a small part of a childs development. The examples and influences they see and hear in their home lives and the love and support they have from family all contribute to how they turn out as adults. Date of birth has very little to do with it in my opinion.

jaxjax123

My July son is due to start at Grammar school in September. He is top set in his class and does extra maths to push him further. He has done very well so far.

marisco_2

Janepig wrote: »

But heaven forfend that we might upset someone struggling to conceive by asking a simple question about schooling .

Jx

The poster you wrote this in response to made a fair point. In a debate it is only right that everyone should share their perspective. Life experience will effect how you view things. You may not agree with the persons point of view but there was no need to mock their opinion in the way you did.

If you have struggled for years to concieve and perhaps fallen pregnant but then suffered loss, then your view on dates of birth effecting schooling will be different. You wont see it as being significant, which in the great scheme of things its not, going by the repsonses of other posters on here sharing their experiences.

Janepig

marisco wrote: »

The poster you wrote this in response to made a fair point. In a debate it is only right that everyone should share their perspective. Life experience will effect how you view things. You may not agree with the persons point of view but there was no need to mock their opinion in the way you did.

If you have struggled for years to concieve and perhaps fallen pregnant but then suffered loss, then your view on dates of birth effecting schooling will be different. You wont see it as being significant, which in the great scheme of things its not, going by the repsonses of other posters on here sharing their experiences.

IMO I don't think posting "what a ridiculous thread" brings anything to any debate.

Jx