Anyone else not got anywhere to go new years eve?

Crowdpleaser

Omg I need some motivation! I just seem to be succeeding in moving things around!

MetalMand

My DD and I are going to the movies then it will be nibbles and Jools...I've done the whole going out at NYE when I was younger. It seems to me from experience that we make the whole thing a bigger deal than it is in our heads, and then end up a cpl of hundred quid out of pocket and feeling disappointed when it doesn't live up to the TV/Movie version of NYE we think we should be having. Best advice I can give is spend the day doing something you actually like doing be it reading, baking, watching movies or something constructive like tidying or mending it's always nice to go into the new year feeling like you accomplished something even if its just cleaning the bath

BettiePage

Think I've only ever been out twice for NYE. One of those was the Millennium one while we lived in Italy so had a whale of a time!
I'll be at work NYD from 8am so definitely not going out this year either.

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Miss_Havisham wrote: »

I'm single and live alone. My siblings and their partners always go out (separately, siblings haven't talked to each other in over 17 years). I'm never invited and by the time I find out what they are doing it's "too late" to get me a ticket or take me along to a party. Every year I try to get involved in their arrangements but they always say they haven't really decided yet.......next thing is, they've decided and it's too late to make arrangements for me to join them.

So, I stay at home and listen to Jools Holland. I can't describe how hurt I feel.

Miss H

Really sorry to hear how you're feeling. (In my experience, unfortunately, it's families that can hurt us most). Maybe for next year try to arrange something with friends instead? Or a treat for yourself during the day, plus something nice to eat in the evening, and don't rely on them - they sound completely unreliable. Just give up.

And personally, I've found that Jools Holland's show plus a nice glass of something is a really comfortable way of spending NY !

MatyMoo

I like staying at home for New Year, I think it is the Scot in me!

Our local rugby club throws a party, suitable for families, every year. At £5 per adult ticket it seems quite reasonable to me.

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MetalMand wrote: »

My DD and I are going to the movies then it will be nibbles and Jools...I've done the whole going out at NYE when I was younger. It seems to me from experience that we make the whole thing a bigger deal than it is in our heads, and then end up a cpl of hundred quid out of pocket and feeling disappointed when it doesn't live up to the TV/Movie version of NYE we think we should be having. Best advice I can give is spend the day doing something you actually like doing be it reading, baking, watching movies or something constructive like tidying or mending it's always nice to go into the new year feeling like you accomplished something even if its just cleaning the bath

We're also going to the cinema (to see Life of Pi in 3D) then it will be home for something really nice to eat and a bottle of something fizzy before watching JH. During the day we'll be talking about what we want for the year ahead and setting some goals. We'll also be tidying up so we can get up NY Day to a tidy house and go straight out for a walk (the sun is forecast to shine!)

For YEARS we went to various NY parties and they were always flat; and people were tired and full of cold, and I ended up drinking too much just to get through it (or occasionally falling asleep). Totally overrated. The only nice NY Eve i can remember is when I got together with my husband

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michelle2008 wrote: »

Maybe spend this year trying to extend your circle of friends? All this waiting around for invites that never come is a very strong sign that you are not connecting well with existing crowd?

Wise words and good advice !

bossymoo

I'm staying home with the little ones. New year is sad for me. My MIL and FIL are coming to stay. We lost my DH to cancer last year so it's the start of another year without him. We'll muddle through it together and hopefully have a reminisce and the kiddies will keep us in smiles.

gibson123

Corona wrote: »

Wise words and good advice !

Yes I agree, I got in a bit of a rut last year and was not going out much at all, too much effort, one night I realised i had not been out for 3 months and I rarely saw any friends. This year I decided to make an effort, I started looking up old friends and made some new ones, this New Year everyone is coming to me and then on New Years day 18 of us are going to another friends.

You have to work at having a social life. You can't depend on family.

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gibson123 wrote: »

You have to work at having a social life. You can't depend on family.

True at any age. I used to work for a charity for the elderly and the loneliest people I came across were those who sat at home waiting for family to come round (they rarely did). It was a lesson I've never forgotten.