People who never say thank you?

londonsurrey

I don't do thank you letters. I thank people in the next bout of natural contact. Doesn't mean I'm not grateful.

If you don't like them, and don't like the way they react, don't give them things. I used to shower my sister and her children with gifts. I didn't expect anything material in return, and didn't get it, just the occasional verbal "thank you", which was fine. All I ever asked for was for her not to pass any information about me on to my mother. She couldn't manage that, and even tried to excuse what she did.

Ada_Doom

This is the problem with buying presents just because it is the done thing. The boards are full of resentful people at this time of year who either did not get the response they wanted when they gave a gift, or got a gift that was very different in value to the one they gave.

I think gift giving needs to be done because you want to give that person a present. and you need to expect nothing in return. Of course the polite and right thing to do is say thank you, and I will be sitting my two kids down tomorrow to write thank you cards but I think you will always be disappointed if you have certain expectations around this subject. If you cannot give with an open heart (and i'm not sure i would in your situation) then stop giving. Fretting over it is a waste of your energy.

jubilee14

i am one of those people who dont always remember or simply havent got the money to buy presents and often forget to write thank you cards but do always try to phone text or email when kids get gifts. its not to say im not thankful just life runs past sometimes. but appreciate that you should make the extra effort since someone has bothered to send/give a gift. will try to do so next year. We have a big family too 14 nephews/nieces and decided to cancel indivual giving many years a go as kids were getting ever smaller presents so we now do a dip all chip in and then they all get one reasonable present from everyone. Seems to work.

notanewuser

londonsurrey wrote: »

I don't do thank you letters. I thank people in the next bout of natural contact. Doesn't mean I'm not grateful.

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We never get a thank you, and by February all thoughts of DD and xmas have evaporated. I wouldn't wait months and months to say thank you. Even a text would do.

hcb42

I bought for my one and only niece for 18 years, (she is now 21) not one thank you card...in all those years!

Not the way my parents brought us up either, we wrote thank you cards diligently every year.

Blackpool_Saver

STOP doing it, I wouldn't entertain it. Explain to your daughter why

notanewuser

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

STOP doing it, I wouldn't entertain it. Explain to your daughter why

She's only 26 months!!

Mrs.W_2

Why torture yourself with this fuss?

According to the Free Dictionary...
Gift (gft)n.1. Something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation.

Talk with brothers and sisters to agree/scotch gift giving before the date if you are at all in doubt, but don't think appropriate gift giving followed by thank you cards is obligatory simply because that's your take on the issue.

If I am not able to meet with someone within the week a gift is received to thank them in person for being so thoughtful, I'll phone them. There are particular people I know who'll expect a thank you card every time.

About a third of them can go whistle because I'm not about to be insincere on paper just to make them feel social obligations have been met.

Blackpool_Saver

notanewuser wrote: »

She's only 26 months!!

ok, stop doing it and explain why when she can understand

stamina9008

Tell me about it!!!

But why is it, WHY IS IT that men pushing their kids around in the shops NEVER EVER say thankyou when you move out of their way, but women pushing their kids are more likely to????!!!!

HAVE SOME DAMN MANNERS!" THEY COST NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!