*The Holly and the Ivy* and the You Know What 2013 Chatter Thread.

pinknfluffy28

fiesty - sorry to hear your sad news, dogs ARE family too x

thanks for all the links & advice re dh's 40th. looks as though im better to wait a couple of months, as booking later seems to definatly work out cheaper!!

have really enjoyed my first stay-at-home day with kids back at school! got soooo much done - even had time to bake cupcakes, which the girls loved decorating when they were home!!
going to get the card making stash out now, and try a few ideas for 40th bday card, thinking maybe a big 1973 with events of that year written into numbers, but not got any further yet!

have a good evening everyone

PetuliaGristle

Feisty sending hugs
Nic take care of yourself, some good advice on here

Trendyjenny

Welcome zend x I newbie too

Can't remember who had puffy eyes but I also get them if I stroke cats or dogs x I'm not allergic to them but think it something to do with their dander.

Nic - I also suffer with anxiety and depression . I had really bad bout 6 months ago and in my darkest moment contemplated the worst . Previous to this I had periods of depression and can now spot the symptoms and ask for help. Medication is helping and taking each day at a time. Remember you are loved and friends and family will help. Your not on your own. It amazing how many people suffer but feel it has to be a secret. I have found telling people has helped me slot. Hope this helps you.


Msgigglewick - nieces into 1d I got some stuff from hmv so if sale still in might be worth a look

Feisty fidget - so sorry to hear your news .

Amy turtle - wow what a long to do list. Hope you get some of it done. To scared to write mine lol x


Well first day back for new term and kids straight in x not a good combination but on the whole we all settled back into routine quite quickly. Amazed at gifts they had. They only 7 and 8 and they had mobile phones iPods iPads wii etc . Just wish some of the parents would give children their time instead of trying to buy them.

Linda-Lou

Evening all!

Feisty - so sorry about you dear dog, it is heartbreaking when we loose a pet, they are definately part of the family. I lost my wonderful Lucky (Lab / Staffie cross ) over 10 years ago, and I still miss her every day. I still have her collar , can't bring myself to throw it away. Sending hugs x

Nanamia - not long to go now, bet you're getting excited! Are you packed yet? Glad to hear DSiL is still improving.

Sorry to hear lots of you are feeling low, please take care of yourselves. Lots of people on here with help and very useful advice. How good it is to feel everyone supporting each other. I have no personal experience of depression or anxiety attacks, but understand they can be totally debillitating. Just hope it helps for us all to be here with a virtual shoulder, and a listening ear. Hugs to all who need them x

First day back at work today, so I am pooped! Bed time I think. Night everyone, take care xxx

freespirit66

FeistyFidget wrote: »

Freespirit, so glad your daughter had a nice time Have you tried taking an antihistamine? That could reduce some of the swelling - if this works, you should pressure your gp into a full spectrum allergy test. If you can find out what it is, then at least you will be better equipped to deal with it?
Night all x

No i havent i always say i will try them, its one of those things when they arent swollen i forget all about it until the next time it happens! I will actually mention it to my dr, at least i would know what it was causing it (i just hate going to drs hospitals etc because of my dep and anx ) but i think its time to find the cause, thankyou;)

chickywiggle

hi all,

made a start on the prezzie box for this year in wilkinsons half price sale. always good to have some 'bits' in now DS1 is party age.
got a little pressie for dads new girlfriend (as still waiting for them to come get christmas bits) and she choose most of mine so my dad didn't need to go shopping.(as CSC girls will know she was the only one to get me cross stitch bits) she got a lovely cloth purse with room for cards and my phone - it's been a godsend for quick trips to the shop so I don't need to take a proper bag.

2 memory games - 1x mike the knight, 1 xhello kitty? (he has a little girls party on sunday).
2 doctor outfit sets for their birthdays.

***goes back to lurkdom***

bhatti3000

hi all
bhatti again,

BIG QUESTION

HOW MUCH WOULD YOU PAY FOR A FULL BODY MASSAGE?
that inc, full legs and feet, buttocks, back, tummy, shoulders, arms, hands, neck, chest, neck, face and scalp, & is 1 hour long.

i wanna start offering massages from home and i don't want price to put people off relaxing.

also i want to start doing gel and acrylic nails from home, what girls on here pay?

many thanks

freespirit66

Nanamia wrote: »

Freespirit it defo does sound like an allergy, a referral from your GP to an allergy clinic would show what it was you are allergic too tho then you could avoid it or take an antihistamine and be prepared. I'm asthmatic and have notice that the aircon in our car sets me off weirdly it could be something as simple as that!

Day for of DSiLs good days, really hoping that this is it now. I can go on Thursday knowing that she's gonna be alright. Although she did say today "Thursday -noway what am I going to do ?" Bless her. We've sorted FaceTime with another family member so I will still be able to see her

Aah thankyou NANAMIA yes FEISTY said about having an allergy test, i will mention it to dr and let you all know. So glad your DSIL is continuing to improve it will be such a weight off your shoulders knowing this before you go away.

freespirit66

Evening everyone,
ZEND Welcome and so sorry you didnt have a good xmas, hope your mum is recovering
KAYANDY yes PINKSTEPS said about cats fur, i have a husky which is a breed that is supposed to be ok for allergy sufferers, i think i will get tested, thankyou
NIC2075 i am one of the ones who suffer dep & anx, and that is exactly how i get over stupid things, you are not a failure!!! Like you say you havent grieved properly for your mum, and are trying to be strong for everyone else BUT you have to think of yourself, the more you hide it the worse it will get. I have suffered nearly 20 yrs, but last year was the worst, after finding out xmas eve my husband of 25 yrs was having an affair, the shock was unbelievable, but the depression i had never known anything like it, i couldnt control my mind, i couldnt sleep, i cried and cried for what seemed like months, i came close to ending it a few times, my mind telling me the kids would be better off, that i would never be happy again, i felt ashamed a failure. But i just listened to what my body needed, if i couldnt get out of bed, i didnt, id spend hours staring into space, if i needed to sleep then i did. Now i am feeling the strongest i have been for a long time (still long way to go) i have done things i wouldnt have done before. I just need to work on my anxiety now. Plus moving house is one of lifes biggest stresses, we are all here for you if you need us.
FEISTY I am sending you lots of love and hugs, you are not being silly, we lost one of our huskies last year aged 5 she got seriously ill and we had to put her down 4 weeks later, we still cry now, so i cant imagine the shock you felt not knowing she was ill
SUGARSPUN that is awful your poor little girl hope she is feeling ok

kayandy_2

freespirit66 wrote: »

NIC2075 i am one of the ones who suffer dep & anx, and that is exactly how i get over stupid things, you are not a failure!!! Like you say you havent grieved properly for your mum, and are trying to be strong for everyone else BUT you have to think of yourself, the more you hide it the worse it will get. I have suffered nearly 20 yrs, but last year was the worst, after finding out xmas eve my husband of 25 yrs was having an affair, the shock was unbelievable, but the depression i had never known anything like it, i couldnt control my mind, i couldnt sleep, i cried and cried for what seemed like months, i came close to ending it a few times, my mind telling me the kids would be better off, that i would never be happy again, i felt ashamed a failure. But i just listened to what my body needed, if i couldnt get out of bed, i didnt, id spend hours staring into space, if i needed to sleep then i did. Now i am feeling the strongest i have been for a long time (still long way to go) i have done things i wouldnt have done before. I just need to work on my anxiety now. Plus moving house is one of lifes biggest stresses, we are all here for you if you need us.

This is how I was for the best part of two years I spent the first 6 months trying to deal with it on my own before I told anyone then once I had my family's support it got a little better but not much just listen to what your body is telling you you need. I also know a lot of people don't understand so it is always better to talk to people who suffer from it!! Both my mum and dad suffer with depression my dad very badly he has tried to take his life a number of times including last may when he tried to hang himself and ended up in a coma for a month but he is getting help now and doing a lot better!! My mum was pretty hard to deal with as when her depression and anxiety was bad she would lock herself in the house and not go out she only goes out now when she has too so I ha her moaning that I didn't want to end up like her and stuff which didn't help as I felt like I had let her down but once I explained I her she understood and stuck by me!! I still have bad days where I won't get out of bed so I don't but I'm a hell of a lot better and done most of it on my own by listening to myself talking to people who understand!! I still have trouble sleeping but that comes and goes!! I honestly think the best thin to do is talk about how you feel and try and figure out why!! I kept a note book and wrote everything down then read it through and tried to work out why and what I could do to change that!! I still have that notebook!! I'm meant to be on antidepressants but they honestly don't work for me they make me feel like a zombie so I just don't take them ooops!! I'm sure we can all help each other out when we are feeling down and anxious!!