*The Holly and the Ivy* and the You Know What 2013 Chatter Thread.

lizalloareds

Fiesty sending you hugs

nic2075

Pinksteps wrote: »

Please think of your health first. I've had depression , anxiety and OCD since I was fourteen and I'm 48 now. It has only been in the last six months or so that I have thought s0d it. I spent days fighting the demons trying to be super mum (I've 5 children although only my DS still at home). I home educated them all and tried to paint a rosy picture for everyone looking in. I burnt myself out, and I am now on lifelong medication. What I have found now is if I have a bad day then just go with it, don't try fighting it because you will only feel worse when it takes over. I even think my DS looks forward to my bad days because it means curling up in bed and reading the kindle instead of school work.
I know it's easier said then done, especially when there is a family involved and a wage needing to be brought into the house but think of yourself.
How far South are you moving? Maybe nearby, you can always PM me and we can put the world to right. X

Thanks for your wise words. It's difficult to put yourself first isn't it? I'm like you and want to appear as supermum, but in reality I'm falling to bits. I'm a natural worrier. I'm even worried that DD (age7) will be in danger as she will be in the room on the bottom floor of our new house. It's a 3 story house with 3 beds on top, living room and kitchen on the middle floor and a another lounge and bedroom on the ground floor. I worry about how she will get out in a fire and what if someone broke in. My Oh thinks I'm being unrantional, but it seems practical to me. But it's made me think that we should of chosen another house. Just thought like that, that seem to bring me down and pile on more anxiety.

The move is adding a lot of stress. But I'm also looking forward to it. I'm moving to SW Scotland. Ive been up near Aberdeen for 2 years. And moving back close to home.

bunbun2

feisty so sorry to hear about your dog. pets are so much part of the family. think ing of you.

nic I can fully understand about your concerns with your dd sleeping downstairs. our ds1 moved into what was the garage and it is understandable to worry but men don't seem to. I said to my OH that we should be a key in an accessible place in case ds needed to get out - I don't think it had even crossed his mind. But, now he has been there a while the worry has gone.

well I made it through the morning with only an apple and a few raisins/cranberries as a snack. But now all I want to do is eat. i am not hungry as I have just had lunch it is just habit...but so hard.

when I go back to work tomorrow I work lunchtimes so won't get my lunch till about 1.30. I will have a snack before I go and was wondering if any of you on here can suggest healthy snacks that I cn eat as part of my healthy eating/weight loss plan.

*Louise*

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that Feisty

Snugglebunny8

Feisty Im so sorry to her about your dog they are members of the family and it's totally understandable for you to be so upset, same with your step dad, we love our pets and its terrible to lose one, sending you lots of hugs xxxxxx

Nic Im so sorry you are sufferning badly at the moment with anxiety and depression, its such a horrible thing isnt it? Ive been so lucky not to have depression, although been through some very dark times, but I do really suffer with anxiety and get so cross with myself as some of the things Im anxious about seems daft to me, but you can't help how you feel. One thing really worked for me, it was a Paul McKenna book, with a cd in it, listening to the cd before bed on the ipod really worked for me, I must dig it out and start listening again! I will let you know which book/cd it is when I find it, but it really did help with my anxiety *sends you a hug too*

Nanamia I will see if the tree is still on the JL website and post a link if it's there, I think it was with their Christmas trees ...Im in denial and insisting its not a Christmas tree so I can have it up all year! xxxxx

SugarSpun

Sorry to hear that Feisty

:grouphug: nic, grief isn't something you can rush through. Wishing you all the best.

Happy nearly holiday day Nanamia!

My DD came home from kindergarten with a black eye. One of the kids hit her - I am *fuming*. She is THREE YEARS OLD and was hit in the eye by a five year old. GRRRRRRRRRR.

Ameyturtle

Okay I need a kick up the bum!

I need to meal plan,
I need to phone the doctors and book in the appointments for mum's medication review,
I need to properly store my large amounts of Lush
I need to sort my large amounts of Lush
I need to sell a whole heap of things that are of no use to me
Charity shop the rest of stuff
research more things for work
and generally take better care of myself
Maybe write a list of cleaning things to be done each day my house is looking disgusting!
I need to phone the credit card people and make them change my payment date back.
I also need to phone art of knitting as they seem to be grumpy with me.
Write to premium bonds to find out what my numbers are.
Also needs to sort my wardrobe and get more black and white outfits ready for work.

My plan to prep for Christmas is to using the receipts from 2012 put onto relevant cards that money for the Christmas food shopping for next year.
So say like £50 on a Aainsburys card £50 on an Asda card and maybe £50 in a sealed jar for Aldi they don't do cards see. I may also put an amount a month on a Lush giftcard and then I'll have enough for a big hatbox for myself for Christmas

Anyone got any good recipes that use pork mince?
All I can think of is meatballs and burgers, pork mince is the Aldi special at the minute £1.49 for 500g of pork mince seems good to me.

Anyway thought I'd best check in feeling very blurgh at the minute.
I am also very aware that I will be told off at the hospital tomorrow because my boots that I could fit my insoles in broke the other day right in the middle of a shift at work and my others shoes don't fit my insoles in and do make my ankles give out so grr at that

so that is really why I need a kick up the bum I have become a right moping myrtle :eek: and that is not me:o

Peppapig

Feisty - so sorry to hear your sad news and I don't think she was just a dog she was a living being that you loved a lot. I've been through the deaths of two of my dogs and three cats over the years - fortunately all but one of them lived to a ripe old age but it's still a real loss. I still miss them all and will never forget them and their funny little ways. Be kind to yourself and cry when you need to.

Nic - sorry that you're struggling at the moment. I've never suffered with depression or anxiety myself but my Mum has on and off for as long as I can remember and so does my husband so I do understand a little bit about it. Sometimes we put ourselves under such a lot of pressure to be superwoman or supermum but very few of us actually feel like that inside. You're still grieving for your mum too - it's still a very short time so please be gentle on yourself, you've been through a lot.

Sending hugs :grouphug: to you both and anyone else that needs them.

FeistyFidget

Ameyturtle wrote: »

Okay I need a kick up the bum!

I need to meal plan, Buy a wipe clean board that you can use to write meal plans, items for shopping and freezer/fridge/cupboard foods that can be used for the next weeks meal
I need to phone the doctors and book in the appointments for mum's medication review, Post it note on the front door - you must book before you leave the house. Always helps me
I need to properly store my large amounts of Lush Treat yourself to this, http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/8331317.htm we have similar in my bathroom and it's a life saver!
I need to sort my large amounts of Lush See above
I need to sell a whole heap of things that are of no use to me ebay offers free listing for items started at less then 99p - yes it is a lot of work, but the money will be worth it!
Charity shop the rest of stuff Anything that doesn't sell on ebay or carboot sale, donate. If you have lots of stuff, they may even collect
research more things for work
and generally take better care of myself
Maybe write a list of cleaning things to be done each day my house is looking disgusting! I have a mental timetable - hoovering once every other day, dusting, bathrooms and floor mopping once a week, general and kitchen tidying daily
I need to phone the credit card people and make them change my payment date back. Pick a day within the next week that you have time to do it and set a phone/computer reminder. Stick to it!
I also need to phone art of knitting as they seem to be grumpy with me. See above
Write to premium bonds to find out what my numbers are. If you're reading this, you're at the computer (or phone :rotfl:) do it now!
Also needs to sort my wardrobe and get more black and white outfits ready for work. Use your ebay money to buy these, if your squeamish about second hand clothes, you will be surprised at the amount of new stuff they have too!

HTH - I am now tempted to buy that storage box from Argos as mine is on it's last legs - I shall blame you x

*edit* Hope that didn't seem too pushy? All my friends come to me for motivation x

Hanley25

Hugs for nic2075 - Moving is a very stressful time. Look after yourself.

So sorry to hear about your dog Feisty. Hugs for you too. :grouphug: