I'm alone a Christmas!

Boots888

Been looking for the other threads but they date back a week or two so starting this thread.

I'm alone this Christmas, I have been for the past number of years but this year I feel lonely for the 1st time.

I have my cat and I've just cooked up a huge bubble and squeak for the next few days.

I've found myself in a situation where I've moved away and tried to start my life afresh, things haven't gone completely to plan and though I'm healthy physically (??) my head is in a spin.

I know it's only Christmas and I shouldn't put pressure on myself but nevertheless it is a milestone that I'm finding difficult to see myself come through without a scratch into the next year. I was hoping the world Would come to an end on Friday, but alas no aliens are going to take me away nor knock on my door for a sherry or a game of cards.

I'm trying to keep positive but I know it's not just the time of year.

I just wanted to share that and send my thoughts to those in the same boat. Maybe ours will come ashore next year.:)

McKneff

My best wishes to you.

Some would envy you your position, do what you want, when you want. No hassle.

Hope your Christmas day is enjoyable in the way that you want it and best wishes for your positivity for next year.

Come on here on Christmas day if you want a chat or not, just as the day takes you.

cupcakeprincess

Hi Boots,

Seasons greetings to you! I was in the same position as you a few years ago after a big family feud and came across Crisis at Christmas; have a look and see if they're operating in your area, if they are muck in! You'll be surprised at how many people are in similar situations and can relate.

I'll be here on Christmas day so feel free to PM me or have a chat on here, it'll help pass the time and stay positive!

DUTR

Boots888 wrote: »

Been looking for the other threads but they date back a week or two so starting this thread.

I'm alone this Christmas, I have been for the past number of years but this year I feel lonely for the 1st time.

I have my cat and I've just cooked up a huge bubble and squeak for the next few days.

I've found myself in a situation where I've moved away and tried to start my life afresh, things haven't gone completely to plan and though I'm healthy physically (??) my head is in a spin.

I know it's only Christmas and I shouldn't put pressure on myself but nevertheless it is a milestone that I'm finding difficult to see myself come through without a scratch into the next year. I was hoping the world Would come to an end on Friday, but alas no aliens are going to take me away nor knock on my door for a sherry or a game of cards.

I'm trying to keep positive but I know it's not just the time of year.

I just wanted to share that and send my thoughts to those in the same boat. Maybe ours will come ashore next year.:)

Nowt negative about it you make of the season what you wish, I'm going to my Mum's for dinner, but I'd rather stop at home on my own. Got a 3 bird roast to cook and at the supermarkets there are bargains galore, goose fat spuds £1, sprouts 50p, I didn't look at the meat, making my own port and brandy mnce pies :cool:

aliasojo

Just try to remember that everything passes. It's one day and soon we will be into a new year and the lead up to Spring starts. (Yeah ok we will probably have loads of snow first but never mind. :D)

Try to not build the Xmas period up too much in your head. Unless it holds specific Religious meaning for you, then it's really only one day like any other, it's just that we eat more,drink more and likely grumble with or about, the rellies.

Get yourself on the couch with a cosy cover and a plate of nibbles and don't think about things too much.

Just come back on here on Xmas Day and moan about how bad the telly is, with the rest of us. :D

Hopelass

Hi OP

I second McKneff, please don't feel lonely, there are many in your position and also many who might envy your position - I personally am not looking forward to Christmas day and would much prefer to be cuddled up with my kitty, eating and watching what I want but can't.

Maybe you could look to an animal shelter or another charity that might be crying out for volunteers to help out over the holidays then you wouldn't be alone? Just a thought.

Keep up your positivity and maybe take the time to think about what you might like to change in the new year?

Wishing you all the best and remember you aren't alone, take care x

Own_My_Own

I'll be on here for most of the day. Am not alone but ds has asd so I have to treat it like a normal day or his stresses.

I used to feel very lonely thinking of families together, but when you think of all the people HAVING to spend the day with relatives that get on their nerves, I now feel quite lucky.

The police have more domestic calls on this day than any other of the year. I now feel grateful to be here, and not in on of those homes.

If you really want company, ask one of your local churches if they are doing anything. I am not religious, but I do know our church lays on a lunch for the elderly in our area, and are always glad of help.

vegasvisitor

I was thinking the same thing about a charity. Might be too late now, but I'm sure they need volunteers for things like meals on wheels etc on Christmas Day. May also lift your spirits a bit.

Boots888

I think the sense of isolation increases with "everyone" being on facebook and twitter and other social networking sites. I don't do any of that but am posting as I think it probably is important to have people in your life.

Most of the time I don't want to participate, but sometimes i want to be heard. You can't have it both ways so I'm compromising and I really am pleased to have had the response I've had after only just posting.

I will curl up in my PJ's with my lovely cat, eat what i want (Crisps!!) and do what I want in the knowledge that (again!) I can and I'm fairly incognito this time of year, ie everyone is preoccupied!!

I'd love to want to want to do charity work, but I don't. Not right now.

I also would like to salute those carers out there for whom there is no break, any day of the year. That's one thing I would like to get involved in, giving people care or rather their carers respite.

coshboy

I know what you mean. I would like to participate more but I just can't.
I know my limitations.

Boots888

coshboy wrote: »

I know what you mean. I would like to participate more but I just can't.
I know my limitations.

That's it though, at some point you and me and "people like us" are going to have to participate in order to gain some kind of fulfillment in our lives. I thought I could but you can't hide away forever, time is so..... loooonng!

I have heard many times of people with loads of money that don't spend it, even on food and heating as they are so reclusive and give up completely. I'm getting frustrated with the memories I have, they are so few and far between.

I'm gonna have to kick a*s and commit to something soon or I'll stagnate myself to the grave. Maybe I'll enquire about electric convulsive therapy because it's just not right, at my age, (44) to be so indifferent about EVERYTHING!!! (all the time!)