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In-laws vent!
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pulliptears wrote: »Not so bad afterall?
An hour and a half late, uncontactable and thats not so bad after all. Are you a parent Ognum? Because I am and I have to say if I couldn't contact the person looking after my child and they were that late I'd be climbing the walls with worry.
That would be the last time they looked after my child I'm afraid.
I am a parent and if as a parent this is the worst someone has to deal with then they have done well.
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tryingtocutback wrote: »You say they had "previously said they had no life jacket for him" - did you actually check whether they had one this time? Perhaps you could buy him one for future trips?
I must say that your posts do come across as if you were a bit ungrateful but perhaps thats just your frustration.
I'm glad that he is okay.
I had no idea they were taking him on the boat, given they know he hates them! I thought they were just taking him out for lunch somewhere!
I (usually) wear a life jacket on the boat because I'm not a strong swimmer!
I'm not sure if "grateful" comes into it, as I had a perfectly good option of a childminder, so it's not like I needed any help!! They wanted to look after him instead of going to the childminers, and in theory there's no good reason why I should say no, given they have been given "instructions" many times!So in the end despite the need to vent no real problems, just a nappy change an hour and a half late.
Not so bad after all!
Do you actually have children? Do you know how much a fully sodden nappy weighs?? Quite a lot, so it can't be pleasant for a 2 year old! They can do a LOT of weeing in 6 hours!
If I'm looking after someone else's child, then I would NEVER leave their nappy unchanged!pullipitears wrote: »That would be the last time they looked after my child I'm afraid.
They do a marvelous job of babysitting once every couple of months, and DS loves playing with them, so I don't want to burn bridges. They're perfectly capable of looking after him for short periods of time, and enjoy, but just perhaps can't be trusted taking him out!
I'll get my OH to have a word again with them next time about nappy changing.
Oddly, they'd taken his backpack and coat out of the changing bag to take with them, so had deliberately left the nappies, wipes, drink and snacks!Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
I had no idea they were taking him on the boat, given they know he hates them! I thought they were just taking him out for lunch somewhere!
I (usually) wear a life jacket on the boat because I'm not a strong swimmer!
I'm not sure if "grateful" comes into it, as I had a perfectly good option of a childminder, so it's not like I needed any help!! They wanted to look after him instead of going to the childminers, and in theory there's no good reason why I should say no, given they have been given "instructions" many times!
Do you actually have children? Do you know how much a fully sodden nappy weighs?? Quite a lot, so it can't be pleasant for a 2 year old! They can do a LOT of weeing in 6 hours!
If I'm looking after someone else's child, then I would NEVER leave their nappy unchanged!
They do a marvelous job of babysitting once every couple of months, and DS loves playing with them, so I don't want to burn bridges. They're perfectly capable of looking after him for short periods of time, and enjoy, but just perhaps can't be trusted taking him out!
I'll get my OH to have a word again with them next time about nappy changing.
Oddly, they'd taken his backpack and coat out of the changing bag to take with them, so had deliberately left the nappies, wipes, drink and snacks!
Maybe they took ONE nappy rather than a whole bagful? That's what I usually do with a 2 year old for that length of time out of the house. At that age, I very rarely carry a changing bag for them, and never take drinks and snacks with me. Just about everywhere I am likely to take my children sells bottled water, and even at 2 I would rarely give a child a snack when out and about and if I did it is just as easy to buy a banana or some rice cakes as it is a mars bar or bag of crisps.
I'd be peed off about the lifejacket which would be a deal breaker but I think making a fuss about the remainder is a bit precious.
I have 3 kids who have all been 25 months at one point in their lives, as it seems having children is a pre-requisite to being allowed to express a contrary opinion0 -
I am a parent and if as a parent this is the worst someone has to deal with then they have done well.
How old are your children?
What has the age of my children got to do with anything?
It still remains that had my inlaws been that late and not answering a mobile I would have been worried sick. Most parents I think would.
Most inlaws would have the common sense to pick up the phone and say "im sorry we are running late" and thats before we even get to the nappy issue or the life jacket.
Its completely disrespectful to pinkshoes and neglectful of their grandchild.0 -
Maybe they took ONE nappy rather than a whole bagful? That's what I usually do with a 2 year old for that length of time out of the house. At that age, I very rarely carry a changing bag for them, and never take drinks and snacks with me. Just about everywhere I am likely to take my children sells bottled water, and even at 2 I would rarely give a child a snack when out and about and if I did it is just as easy to buy a banana or some rice cakes as it is a mars bar or bag of crisps.
I'd be peed off about the lifejacket which would be a deal breaker but I think making a fuss about the remainder is a bit precious.
I have 3 kids who have all been 25 months at one point in their lives, as it seems having children is a pre-requisite to being allowed to express a contrary opinion
Nope! No nappies taken!
The snack thing was for their sanity - my son is HUGE for his age, has a humongous appetite, and gets SO grumpy when hungry, hence snacks are essential!
And obviously it's not the end of the world not having a drink with him...
Either they're really forgetful, or they just think that they know better than me when it comes to my son, which I think is rather rude.Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
pulliptears wrote: »What has the age of my children got to do with anything?
It still remains that had my inlaws been that late and not answering a mobile I would have been worried sick. Most parents I think would.
Most inlaws would have the common sense to pick up the phone and say "im sorry we are running late" and thats before we even get to the nappy issue or the life jacket.
Its completely disrespectful to pinkshoes and neglectful of their grandchild.
The age of your children probably reflects the amount of drama you have been through with them! Believe me for many people a wet nappy and one and a half hours late would be a walk in the park.0 -
The age of your children probably reflects the amount of drama you have been through with them! Believe me for many people a wet nappy and one and a half hours late would be a walk in the park.
Put it this way, we are long past nappies......and yes, I've been through dramas the most memorable of which was not knowing where my then 5 year old DD was for just half an hour. Now fair enough she had wandered off and wasn't with anyone so I was right to be worried, but that half an hour was the most sickening experience of my life, which is why I can imagine the stress and upset caused by being that late and uncontactable.0 -
You're quite right, how rude and in fact stupid of them, you need to be clearer with them about what happens when they have him, if they still carry on disregarding your basic wishes, don't let them have him.0
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pulliptears wrote: »Put it this way, we are long past nappies......and yes, I've been through dramas the most memorable of which was not knowing where my then 5 year old DD was for just half an hour. Now fair enough she had wandered off and wasn't with anyone so I was right to be worried, but that half an hour was the most sickening experience of my life, which is why I can imagine the stress and upset caused by being that late and uncontactable.
I can imagine how horrific that would be and I am sorry it happened, and it doesnt in any way compare with the OP who's admits her child's grandparents are good with him and good at playing with him and she is aware their time keeping is poor.0 -
I can imagine how horrific that would be and I am sorry it happened, and it doesnt in any way compare with the OP who's admits her child's grandparents are good with him and good at playing with him and she is aware their time keeping is poor.
Poor timekeeping is 15/20 minutes not an hour and a half, I'd be thinking the worst, imagining car crashes etc especially with them not answering the phone.
To be that late isn't normal to me, in fact I can't think of any situation I've been in through my life where I or anyone I've had a need to meet has been THAT late.0
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