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In-laws vent!
pinkshoes
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So my in-laws kindly offered to look after DS this morning as I had a couple of exams.
As usual, I provide them with a change bag containing nappies, wipes, his drink, snacks, spare clothes etc...
I go to pick him up at 1pm as planned, and they're not there - they've taken him out to lunch and have been out since 10am. The change bag is on the table and not with them, and they're STILL out 4.5 hours later!
My OH has told them TWICE to take the bag with them, as the last 2 times he's come home with either a very full wet nappy, or new clothes (as nappy became too full and leaked) plus really bad nappy rash (which he NEVER usually gets!!).
Grrrr. How on earth do I get them to listen and learn that nappies need changing BEFORE they leak (and they can hold a serious amount of wee!!)? It's getting quite annoying now.
On top of that, he's got some friends coming round to play in 20 minutes, and he's not here. If he turns up in time, I'll bet my life savings he'll have had no sleep and be REALLY grumpy!!
Vent over. Thank you for listening!
As usual, I provide them with a change bag containing nappies, wipes, his drink, snacks, spare clothes etc...
I go to pick him up at 1pm as planned, and they're not there - they've taken him out to lunch and have been out since 10am. The change bag is on the table and not with them, and they're STILL out 4.5 hours later!
My OH has told them TWICE to take the bag with them, as the last 2 times he's come home with either a very full wet nappy, or new clothes (as nappy became too full and leaked) plus really bad nappy rash (which he NEVER usually gets!!).
Grrrr. How on earth do I get them to listen and learn that nappies need changing BEFORE they leak (and they can hold a serious amount of wee!!)? It's getting quite annoying now.
On top of that, he's got some friends coming round to play in 20 minutes, and he's not here. If he turns up in time, I'll bet my life savings he'll have had no sleep and be REALLY grumpy!!
Vent over. Thank you for listening!
Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)
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I wonder why they would do that ? Do you have anyone else to look after him ? Whoever you leave him with, they don't always do things the way you would but I must admit it sounds bad to not even change a nappy !0
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They clearly have a blatant disregard for your son.
I simply wouldn't leave him in their "care" again."Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?" (Douglas Adams)0 -
So they have done this before a few times and you still made the choice to leave the baby with them!
Of course babies need their nappies changing but it sounds like you are using your in laws for your needs and not understanding theirs. they wanted to go out for lunch, they may have changed the babies nappy before they went. You must know how they behave and maybe inviting people round on a day the baby was going to your in laws was not a great choice on your part.
Sorry but there seems to be a lot of what you like in this and little thanks to your in laws for helping out so you can do your exams.0 -
I wouldn't leave my children with someone who left them in a wet nappy for hours, especially if i'd already spoken to them and asked them not to do it.Overactively underachieving for almost half a century0
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It's uni holidays at the moment, and I'm paying 50% retainer for the childminder (he'll go to nursery Tues-Thurs whilst I get on with my uni work), so normally he would have just gone to the childminder today for the morning whilst I did the exams. The in-laws said (insisted) that they could look after him instead.
They're good playing with him, but not taking his drink or healthy snacks (they give him crisps and biscuits against my wishes!) or nappies or wipes is really annoying. Plus not being in when I get back is even more annoying, and I'm going to be SO mad if they don't drop him off before his friends turn up!
DS is 25 months.Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
So they have done this before a few times and you still made the choice to leave the baby with them!
Of course babies need their nappies changing but it sounds like you are using your in laws for your needs and not understanding theirs. they wanted to go out for lunch, they may have changed the babies nappy before they went. You must know how they behave and maybe inviting people round on a day the baby was going to your in laws was not a great choice on your part.
Sorry but there seems to be a lot of what you like in this and little thanks to your in laws for helping out so you can do your exams.
That's a little unfair. I would have paid to leave him with the child-minder, but they insisted on having him, so I was put in a position where I couldn't say no.
If they wanted to go out to lunch, then I could have taken my son to the childminder, as they know I have afternoon plans for him.
I invited people round at 3pm. He was supposed to be back at 1pm. I think that's a reasonable time frame!Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
"That's a little unfair. I would have paid to leave him with the child-minder, but they insisted on having him, so I was put in a position where I couldn't say no."
When it comes to your child, you are never in a position where you can't say no. Whether you say yes or no is up to you and no-one else. Your in-laws have had their turn at raising their own children, it's your turn now to raise your children as you wish, not as your in-laws wish.
Have you rung them to check they haven't been delayed by an accident or something?Overactively underachieving for almost half a century0 -
#1 child was left with my Dad whilst my husband went to collect me and newborn #2 from hospital. When I arrived home his nappy was round his ankles. It never occurred to my Dad that he might need changing because of wee although he said that he would have changed him had be pooed.
Next time I gave him very specific instructions to change every 3 hours and when he pooed and it was fine. So maybe you need to be more specific too.0 -
Plus, they can't "insist" on having your baby. They can "request" but they can't "insist".
Is this your first child OP? Coz you're gonna have to set some ground rules with the in-laws unless you want to carry on like this for years. Set some boundaries now in order to foster good relations all round in the future. The last thing you want to do is fall out with your childrens grandparents, honestly, its really unpleasant.Overactively underachieving for almost half a century0 -
I assume your husband came out OK after being looked after by the same people?"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." -- Red Adair0
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