I witnessed a christmas act of kindness

Person_one

January20 wrote: »

Well, congratulations to the cynics and doubters! You have ruined a perfectly good thread with your bad feelings! I hope you are happy and can now spend the rest of the year merrily wallowing in your self-pity because you weren't the one getting the 10% discount (which of course you would have refused because it was theft!).

I think some of the posters on this thread should go and live in a cave somewhere where the rest of us can't bother them with our lose morals and false ideas about generosity.

And yes, this sarcasm is necessary. It's my revenge as I started reading this thread thinking it was going to be a positive one, only to discover it has been spoiled by you lot!

Why can't some people just be happy for others? Or just happy?

It's strange that you think the only reason we might not love the idea is out of selfishness. That's not the case at all.

January20

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Why can't some folk accept not everyone has the same opinion ?
Nothing is 'spoiled', if you see it as you see it, then who cares if others don't?

Oh I would normally really agree with you and there is nothing I like most on these boards than to either get into a good discussion (as long as it doesn't descend into nasty arguments) or to read a good discussion, with all the different points of view.

However, I felt for this thread there were people who were deliberately trying to find something wrong with what the cashier did: It was unfair. It was theft. The management couldn't have approved (really people are that naive?) Head office would find out. Could the store be outed so they wouldn't go and shop there?
Sheer nastiness I felt.

But, as you quite rightly said, just my opinion


Person_one, I know you said you are a big fan of fairness and you didn't think the supermarket was fair in picking this couple because others might have been "more deserving". were you there to decide this couple didn't deserve the discount? What would you have the supermarket, or cashier do to make sure only the deserving ones receive a discount? Check people bank statements at the till? Anyway, who would be the deserving ones? Would those people shop in that supermarket?

You may be a big fan of fairness, but life is not fair. Look around you. You will find plenty of examples. Denying somebody a good thing because you believe in fairness? So what, nobody gets a discount because otherwise it's not fair? it may not be selfishness, but it's just pettiness, the kind you would find between 2 competitive siblings, who always want what the other has got.

In the RE department of a school I visit, they have a poster that says: "Life is not fair. Sometimes it's not fair in your favour."

Dunroamin

January20 wrote: »

Oh I would normally really agree with you and there is nothing I like most on these boards than to either get into a good discussion (as long as it doesn't descend into nasty arguments) or to read a good discussion, with all the different points of view.

However, I felt for this thread there were people who were deliberately trying to find something wrong with what the cashier did: It was unfair. It was theft. The management couldn't have approved (really people are that naive?) Head office would find out. Could the store be outed so they wouldn't go and shop there?
Sheer nastiness I felt.
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I don't think that people were trying to be nasty but I did think that many people were being rather sentimental about the issue.

The fact is that, if the cashier didn't have permission to do this then it was dishonest (if not actually theft) and if it was done on the instructions of the management then it was hardly a kind individual gesture.

In either case, the money wasn't actually coming from her pocket so it really isn't true to say that she, personally, was being generous.

LEJC

Dunroamin wrote: »

I don't think that people were trying to be nasty but I did think that many people were being rather sentimental about the issue.

There were some posts overnight and earlier this morning that were indeed very nasty....those have since been removed and so the original level of januarys post in my opinion was justifiied....at that point the thread had indeed sunk to an unacceptable level.

Person_one

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Did anyone read about the Happy Monday envelopes that are/were floating around London?

Basically blue envelopes have been dotted around London in really odd places and they contain £10 notes with a sticky wishing the finder a Happy Monday.

Would certainly make my day if I found one!

Now this I like. If the tills did randomly trigger a 10% discount and it wasn't based on who the cashier liked the look of, I could easily get on board with that too.

LEJC

Person_one wrote: »

Now this I like. If the tills did randomly trigger a 10% discount and it wasn't based on who the cashier liked the look of, I could easily get on board with that too.

But then to avoid any marketing ploys etc it would need to be "inclusive of all supermarkets"....and not specific to a particular location...

You probably still couldnt please all of the people all of the time...at least I saw 2 people happy for a short time!

maybe there is a very wealthy individual out there who could take the idea on board......

Treevo

LEJC wrote: »

There were some posts overnight and earlier this morning that were indeed very nasty....those have since been removed and so the original level of januarys post in my opinion was justifiied....at that point the thread had indeed sunk to an unacceptable level.

January seems to be under the impression that the nasty posts were made by those of us not being giddily sentimental about the issue. When in fact they were made about me. I reported the abusive posts and they were removed.

thorsoak

What a pity that a nice little piece of reporting of a seasonal kindness by a supermarket should be "hit upon" by the bah humbug brigade!

I for one was heartened by it - and thank you LEJC for posting it - and Merry Christmas to you all xx

HalfPint

Hi,

I haven't read the whole thread but just wanted to add something. I like to view this as an act of kindness, not of theft as I have no way of knowing the whys and wherefore of why the cashier decided to do what she did.

on the flip side....I have just had to write of £150 which I could ill afford to lose, for a 2nd hand fridge that didn't work when I got it home (fickle things they are:mad:!) despite it being in good working order when I bought it. Rather than get fed up, I decided to look at it another way, I've just given someone £150 to help pay their credit card debts at a time of year when money is tight. I see it as my act of kindness.

Maybe said cashier has won the lottery, or is already leaving her job and decided to give something back in some way.....who knows.

Too many people see something bad, instead of looking for the good.

HP x

Dunroamin

HalfPint wrote: »

Hi,

I haven't read the whole thread but just wanted to add something. I like to view this as an act of kindness, not of theft as I have no way of knowing the whys and wherefore of why the cashier decided to do what she did.

on the flip side....I have just had to write of £150 which I could ill afford to lose, for a 2nd hand fridge that didn't work when I got it home (fickle things they are:mad:!) despite it being in good working order when I bought it. Rather than get fed up, I decided to look at it another way, I've just given someone £150 to help pay their credit card debts at a time of year when money is tight. I see it as my act of kindness.

Maybe said cashier has won the lottery, or is already leaving her job and decided to give something back in some way.....who knows.

Too many people see something bad, instead of looking for the good.

HP x

I'm afraid you also seem to have missed the point. There's been no suggestion that the cashier in question was handing out fivers of her own money.

(Sorry about the fridge, by the way.)