My kids will only ever own a property if their g/parents leave them massive amount

olly300

miss_bargainmad wrote: »

Phirefly,

To be honest if we get saving hard enough we'll be able to help them out - I am even thinking of doing more hours at work as it worries me that much. I don't know whether I am being daft though - maybe everything will sort itself out in the future.

Why worry? Enjoy your children and let those around them enjoy them as well. For all you know tomorrow something terrible could happen to any of you.

One of the best things you can do for your children, and the grandparents is make sure they spend more time in each others company. That way if the grandparents did die, whether they left the children anything or not, the children would remember who their grandparents are and their relationship with them.

Phirefly

I agree with olly 300. My Mum worked part time while I was growing up so she could play as big a possible role in our care and my parents struggled financially. She couldn't afford a contribution to our house purchase but I would prefer that any day of the week than if she'd not been around when I was growing up because she was so worried about squirreling away money for me.

miss_bargainmad

That's precisely what we do do with the grandparents - my children love them to bits.

My side are such a shower of *****, extremely dysfunctional and don't understand the meaning of the word family.

miss_bargainmad

Anything extra I did would definitely be within school hours - my children are my top priority.

Bestthingsinlifearefree

I think it is best to assume you (and all of us) will get no inheritance and then anything will be a bonus and nobody will be disappointed.

For all any one knows that "rich" uncle, parent, grand parent etc may have debts up to the eye balls.

I can just see the Bargainmad clan huddled in the solictors office, have already spent in their minds "their" inheritance.

and the solicitor suddenly announces "grandparent Bargainmad, have left all their worldly goods to Oxfam or NSPCC"

the shock, horror on their faces as they scream at the solicitor but we NEED it more than the starving......we want to get that holiday home in France etc etc

susy_2

miss bargainmad, I feel soooo sorry for you BIL. You say in your opening post

My husband only has one brother who owns two properties outright (plus a massive amount in the bank) and him and his wife have very good work pensions and they do not have children (they are in their 40s).

A little later you add

Maybe he would feel very resentful that they got anything left to them specifically as he has no children as they can't have any.

So actually, it is not that they choose to have cash and not children, but that they actually couldn't have children.

Not only do you appear to have no compassion for your BIL, but you seem to want to further punish him for his, (probably heartbreaking situation) as you also add

I think he resents his brother for that.

I think you should count your blessings and leave BIL well alone.

I think this post is an epitome of a lot that is wrong with this country.

miss_bargainmad

No, I wouldn't want to spend their money on anything.

Only worried about my children's future - don't want it spent on "luxuries".

At the end of the day if there was any money there for them (either from us or g/parents), they will never know about it. It will only be given as a last resort I think.

I saved from the age of 16, even borrowing to my mum at that age as she was so bad with money. If you have to earn it you are a lot more careful about spending it.

And if they can sort themselves out in life then brilliant. We can then go to town on all year round luxury holidays, cruises etc, etc.

Bestthingsinlifearefree

Miss Bargainmad you have to remember it is THEIR money not yours and they can do what they like with it (just as you do with your money).

You talk about THEIR money as if by right it is yours.

I bet you never thought your innocent thread / moan was gonna be so controversial ???:D

miss_bargainmad

The fact is he does resent his brother for having children - I can't do anything about that.

Maybe it's common I don't know.

Phirefly

Bestthingsinlifearefree wrote: »

I bet you never thought your innocent thread / moan was gonna be so controversial ???:D

heheh its certainly made for good crack during an afternoon at work when the servers down and I can't get anything else done!!