alone for christmas:(

Hermia

I will also be alone this Christmas as my mum died this year and I don't have any close family left. There are no charity projects nearby and to be honest I have spent the year caring and worrying about my mum and really just want to be selfish for a while. I have ordered a stack of DVDs and some of the foodie treats my mum and I used to enjoy. I am going to spend the day in bed watching films and feeling sorry for myself (hopefully in a cathartic way).

minimoneysaver

Maybe if you do offer to go into work, you may be able to let another nurse spend time with her young children. It can be a positive for you and someone else.

asparagus1968

ps. nearest big town is Preston,lancashire, if anyone has any advice on charities

tessie_bear

hi...have you thought about going into work as u could bank it against next year when u may have more opportunities open to u...u dont need to explain yourself to work just be vague and use the money for a treat for u and ds in the new year....hope it works out for u

gibson123

asparagus1968 wrote: »

thanks all.
i usually relish a bit of time to myself,and its only one day for goodness sake.its just its a time when you should feel thankful for your family etc.
i'm really struggling with how I feel about my family at the moment.
I wouldn't let any of them feel lonely.
I'm always "count my blessings" when i lose track of how lucky I am.
i have the most amazing son
a job i love
lovely little house
afford to run a car
nice friends,though all coupled up with busy lives
my health

think i could do with "widening" my life- new friends/experiences etc
:T

The salvation army always need helpers on Christmas Day, but your final line is the most telling. It is very easy to not reach out because of pride or because you worry people will judge you, frankly those are the people you don't want in your life. Don't fret about your family, you obviously don't like them much at the moment (but do love them), so why would you want to spend Christmas with them anyway. Personally I would work and let, you don't have to give a reason, most people do it for the extra money or because they don't want to be with family or have no choice.

provista_2

is the homeless shelter still on Fox Street give them a try

WantToBeSE

Asparagus- why did you feel the need to explain 'why nobody wants to spend christmas with you and your son'?
You wouldnt be alone- you'd be with your son, building memories and traditions and having fun together surely?
Whats wrong with you and your son spending christmas together?

absoloutley NOT having a go at you, by the way, or disagreeing with your decision to send him to his dads, i am just wondering why you view it this way?

provista_2

The link is below for Fox Street Preston



http://www.foxstreet.org

hope this works and is of some help to you

minimoneysaver

http://www.blackpoolvolunteers.org.uk/p/want-to-volunteer.html
Another local link x

Sagz_2

I've had a few Christmas days on my own (after working the early shift) and used to love the 'me' time. Eating what Iliked, when I liked, enjoying the films and radio progs I liked and slobbing about