Am I right to be angry?

katie_saver

I won a pair of first class tickets to Paris via Eurostar. Iasked my ex-housemate if she would like to come with me to Paris. I arrangedall the booking and booked us accommodation (which she paid me back for). I haveto Paris lots of times with work so I know it pretty well. I showed her around,did all of the ordering (I speak French and she doesn’t), asked her what shewould prefer to do etc.

She didn’t buy me a coffee or a drink or anything in factthe whole weekend. She also had the cheek to tell me I owed her €1.50 from hersettling the bill after our breakfast.

Am I right to be p’d off?:mad:

pawsies

This is unclear. Did you pay the rest of the meals out?
Or did you split everything between you?

If split then I don't see the problem, after all, you did invite her to come along and she probably sees you as a friend who invited her on holiday.

However I wouldn't let that come between you, don't let 1.50 be the cause of a loss of friendship! Forget about it.

SandC

Well, I don't think it warrants getting het up about to be honest. After all it was a prize so you didn't treat her.

But, if it were me then i would most certainly have bought you a drink or gift or treated you to lunch or something, definitely. She probably didn't even think about it but you never know if she's got a little something for you after the event or failing that I would imagine she has you first in line if something similar ever happened to her.

For the sake of your own peace of mind, I'd just let it go as being angry often causes you stress and doesn't affect the other party whatsoever! And remember, we don't give something just to receive back, we do it cos we want to share our fortune with someone else.

McKneff

You should have done something at the time, like saying

'It's your round'

She maybe thought the win was all expenses paid, lol

katie_saver

We split the meals and accomodation costs. I just think buying me a drink to say:
a - thanks for inviting me (she did travel for free in first class both ways)
b - thanks for organising it

Isn't asking too much, it's basic manners!

katie_saver

McKneff wrote: »

You should have done something at the time, like saying

'It's your round'

She maybe thought the win was all expenses paid, lol

I did actually say it's your round once, but she asked me to go to the bar because she couldn't speak French so I ended up paying too...:(

SandC

Did she say thank you? I'm sure she did when you invited her and possibly when you said goodbye.

You didn't pay for first class travel, you won it. Big difference between treating someone to a weekend away.

Any

I don't see any problem?

Are you p'd off because she got free train ticket and you were expecting some appreciation for it?

I don't think opening your mouth and talking in a language you speak anyway is something to pay you/owe you for... not if you are friends. I would leave that aside.

But yes, if my friend had invited me along for journey free trip I would offer to pay for at least 1 dinner. But if I invited less well off friend with me I would refuse it on the grounds that I got it free myself and she would struggle if she paid for me.

Mojisola

katie_saver wrote: »

We split the meals and accomodation costs. I just think buying me a drink to say:
a - thanks for inviting me (she did travel for free in first class both ways)
b - thanks for organising it

Isn't asking too much, it's basic manners!

In her situation, I'd have wanted to thank you in some way. After all, you didn't need to invite her, you could have taken someone else.

Any

Reading your replies, I think it was lesson learned..
Insight into a friend if you like, what is she like put into certain situations..

Tropez

To be honest, if I invite somebody to go somewhere with me I'm asking them because I enjoy their company. Whether I pay for the tickets myself, or whether they are a competition gift (my luck isn't that great) or some sort of corporate kickback is irrelevant. Providing any expenses that I do require paying (such as a hotel) are paid, then that's fine and dandy.

I wouldn't expect anything in return. If they do buy me a drink, great, if not it doesn't matter because it isn't why I invited them in the first place.

And this is a trip she wasn't expecting to have. Perhaps the cost of accomodation hadn't been budgeted for and she felt she needed to watch the pennies.

But yes, for me, it wouldn't matter. As I say, I'd invite someone because I wanted to share the experience with them. Anything they choose to give me in return is a nice gesture but wholly unnecessary.