Being blackmailed

OldMotherTucker

ragdoll1924 wrote: »

Think I will keep fighting, I havent done anything wrong, someone just told me that you are allowed to have someone stay 1 or 2 nights a week as long as they are not contributing money, and he didnt even stay every weekend. He had 4 holidays abroad this year with his dad! Not Im not going to let him take anymore from me, think for once in my life I will grow a backbone and not let a man walk over me anymore. If he takes me to a solicitor then so be it. If he goes to benefits I have plenty of people who know he never lived here and have nothing to hide. But I do remember one thing when he was on JSA I know he done some work for a building company and they paid him by cheque which he didnt declare to JSA and paid the cheques into his dads bank account because they have the same name, so maybe I have to lower myself to their level and threaten that, but that is not something I like to do.

The 'signposts' for deciding if a couple are co-habiting are not as straightforward as that - its very difficult to to prove or disprove how many nights someone stayed over - and you might have a friend or neighbour who casually tells investigators 'Oh yeah - his car was parked there all the time . . '

Live and learn!

If he is sending you horrible texts - why not get a new sim for your phone?

Alternatively do you have some big burly bloke- friends? If so, arrange for them to be there invite him to come and collect his telly;)

Dunroamin

How have you been claiming all these means tested benefits when earlier this year you had a 1 bed flat that you were planning to let to your babysitter?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/51557943#Comment_51557943

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And a shop - " I will be covering most of her bills ie , phone/internet, water, insurances as I own the shop below and the flat above, all she will need to pay towards is electricity and buy her own food."

bestpud

Dunroamin wrote: »

How have you been claiming all these means tested benefits when earlier this year you had a 1 bed flat that you were planning to let to your babysitter?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/51557943#Comment_51557943

Hmm! :think:

Looks like he may have a whole lot more on you than you are letting on.

I'd definitely give him the stuff back if there is more to this than you are letting on.

MissMoneypenny

Dunroamin wrote: »

How have you been claiming all these means tested benefits when earlier this year you had a 1 bed flat that you were planning to let to your babysitter?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/51557943#Comment_51557943

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And a shop - " I will be covering most of her bills ie , phone/internet, water, insurances as I own the shop below and the flat above, all she will need to pay towards is electricity and buy her own food."

Ragdoll, how are you claiming income based welfare payments when you have all of the above?

It seems that you might need to give him his stuff back asap and hope he doesn't report you if you haven't declared all of this.

EDIT:
Have you declared the rent you receive, to the taxman, tax credits and the council (HB and CTB)?
Carried out your legal duties as a landlord i.e. gas safety certificate, EPC etc?
Got permission from the lender/leaseholder to let out the property? Insurers love 'get outs' to avoid paying on a claim.

paulmapp8306

Ooops - bag of worms.

paulmapp8306

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Explains how the OP gave this man all that money.

princessdon

Op also posted about having a male friend move in as a lodger it seems they did just that.

plum2002

paulmapp8306 wrote: »

(I hate not being ablke to edit from this computer)

Explains how the OP gave this man all that money.

I'm just confused.com If the OP owns property how are they able to claim HB, for that matter how are they able to claim means tested benefits when they own a shop and rent out a flat. I'm starting to see why so many people get so 'Daily Mail' about seemingly innocuous (yeah i know sp) postings. I'm starting to get sympathy fatigue!

bestpud

Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!

meg72

ragdoll1924 wrote: »

This is a bit of an odd one im afraid but could really do with some advise. I left my husband 3yrs ago due to domestic abuse and now live on my own with my 3 young children. Im a working mum er and manage to work around my childrens hours but thankfully get help with my rent (housing benefit, council tax benefit, working and child tax credits) to which I am extremely grateful for but live on a very limited budget. After living on my own for 3yrs I met a man last December and started going out with him, at last I thought I had met a decent man and he use to stay over most weekends (didnt want to live with him as Im still recovering from domestic abuse and have learnt to live happily on my own but appreciated company at weekends). Anyway he wasnt what I thought he was and I ended up in yet another abusive relationship, not physical but mental if you understand. I then caught him on dirty dating sites and chatting to women on line etc. Basically he finished the relationship 5wks ago, but because in the time he was with me he sold a lot of items in my house, tv, kids wii, tv stand and other smaller items but let me have his old tv and xbox. Now he has gone he wants it all back, I would willingly give it to him but he sold my stuff and it would leave me and kids without a main tv or a xbox which my children play on. I have also given him money over the months from sales of other items, he has had hundreds out of me! He is now saying that if I dont give him these things back he is going to ring up benefits and say he lived with me permanently!! He wasnt registered as living anywhere else as he lived at his dads, im so frightened its making me ill but dont want to give into his threats as he has taken so much from me and cost me so much money, he is also saying he is going to get a solicitor involved to get his things back??? Any advise would be greatly appreciated :-(

Is this the same man you were considering taking as a lodger?