Being blackmailed

northerntwo1

Domestic Abuse aside and the blackmail. How can you have all of his personal and electrical belongings in your home if not living there? I am not judging but if he can prove that he was (and disputes over large electrical items would show this) then you may have an overpayment of benefits and a fraud case on your shoulders.

I work with victims of DV and so am not unsympathetic but wanted to ask the above question.

VfM4meplse

This guy is complete scum and saw you coming! I wouldn't normally advocate revenge, but the best thing you can do is fight fire with fire...is he on benefits when he is sitting on such a fortune? If so, just shop him.

SambaRamba

I understand your reluctance but I think giving them back is a small price to pay to get him out of our life. If this battle continues its just going to cause more stress in your life and I think you kids would rather have a calm and happy mum than one who is at loggerheads with this bully. If he's mentally abusive he could decide to really go to town and make your life hell. It's unfair that the kids are without their Wii but its a bit late in the day to worry about now, he sold it long ago. Like others said you can easily get a free TV and even though you're angry when looking back at how he's taken you for a ride an XBox really isn't worth fighting over. He's a waste of time and energy.

northerntwo1

Is he also threatening anything else?

Keep hold of all emails and speak to your local DV police and ask them to make a MARAC report.

Is he threatening to disclose the house you own?

Did you take in the lodger you talked about last time, can they help at all with evidence?

londonbabe73

Give him back his stuff change your number and walk away it's a tv and a wii it's not a kidney !!! it's really not worth the stress.

outofmoney

I agree about giving the stuff back. Technically it is not yours even if he did sell your things. Surely you agreed to that? Your children won't be deprived just because they do not have a TV and X Box. If that was the case there would be hundreds of deprived children, mine included.

As said a replacement TV would be fairly easy to get.

This man sounds like scum and for the sake of you and your family you need him out of your life. If he reports you, and you have returned the items, he cannot use them as evidence that he was living with you.

dd101

I may be wrong but I have had a close relative in a similar position and she did not have to give the belongings back, in her case it was an expensive gift in his name but I am also sure that those belongings are technically yours..

The husband, soon to be ex husband purchased 2 tickets for a holiday and expensive treat on the holiday. HE left and the tickets went to the wifes house. He demanded them back, she said no because they were for them and she was not going to use them but why should he? Really she did not want to see him or do him any favors. The low life actually went to the police and called her in for questioning. The said he has no right to the tickets back because it was a gift. He had purchased them on his CC so he was able to go anyway but making a claim through the holiday company but even if he wasn't able to do this the wife did not have to give them back.

I understand what you are saying about not giving them back. He swapped him stuff for yours and sold yours in return for his. He received money for his items by way of swapping, then selling your goods. I am pretty sure that these items are YOURS. Imagine if he said to a friend, ill give you my microwave in return for those two chairs and the friend said ok, they swap and the next minute he wants the microwave back but without returning the chairs...you wouldn't be allowed to do that because your leaving the other person out of pocket.

More importantly, do not worry. If he was not living there, you have nothing to hide. I remember reading an article from DWP themselfs saying that there was a rise in bitter people reporting disabled people and single parents for similar offences just out of spite. They may look into his accusation but after you explain they would see he is being cruel and bitter, trying to bully you and that is not acceptable. He stayed there at weekends and did not help you with any bills, so please do not worry. Ignore this man completely and if he keeps on, go to the police, they take this very seriously.

PippaGirl_2

dd101 it's totally different when married

paulmapp8306

Personally Id report him to the police for harrisment and blackmail. What he is doing as actually both, and both are illegal. Bullying isnt actually illegal.


He is persuing you for his own gains, and threatening you with false accusation.

I would maybe put in writing to this guy that TV ad XBox were GIVEN, to allow the sale at his request of the Wii and other TV. Basilcally if he want the stuff back, you want the money that hw got for the stuff he sold.

Is HE still claiming benefits? cos with a £200k inheritance hed have a lot more to loose from any investigations.

bestpud

Much as I hate to say it, I'd just give them back to him as well.

My reasons for this are he is verbally attacking you somewhere and my guess is the children are aware of it.

He is unlikely to stop anytime soon and, believe me, the TV and x-box will not drown out the arguments and distress caused.

I want to applaud you for taking a stand and being determined not to get into this situation again, but you can still do that if you give him the items and save your children from the upset.

Walk away with your head held high - that's my advice. You can replace a TV but you can't easily fix broken minds.