Bullying at the school gates by parents

marisco_2

What a very unpleasant situation for you to find yourself in. It seems to me that the first mum to cut contact with you suddenly, has some issues she needs to get a grip of. If something was said to her about you that upset her then she should have had the inteligience and maturity to discuss it with you. Not behave as she has. Pardon the pun but that is the kind of approach you leave in the school playground as a child. Not the way you carry on as an adult. Very sad that other mothers are now blanking you too. See this as entirely their problem and that they are looking ridiculous carrying on so.

I dont much care for the school run either to be honest. Thankfully I drop my kids off early in the morning at breakfast club and dont see any of the other mothers. In the afternoon I keep it to a polite acknowledgement and a quick 'hello how are you'. My take on it all is the only thing I have in common with these people is that we all had babies within a few months of each other.

Just like you I have a good circle of friends not associated with my kids school at all and that suits me just fine.

barbiedoll

Oh OP, you mean to say that you have all of her secrets and yet you're feeling bad because she is now ignoring you? Why not play to your strengths and try breezing into the playground tomorrow whilst asking her in a VERY loud voice something like............

"So is your husband still sleeping with his secretary/suffering from erectile dysfunction/wearing your clothes when you're out?"

Or...."Did you get appointment at the STD clinic/did you decide to end the affair with hubby's brother/get your piles sorted out?"

It will make you feel so much better!

building_with_lego

Bad Barbie!!

Mayflower10cat

My gut feeling is telling me she now regrets confiding 'secrets' for whatever reason, and is afraid her confidences might betray her in some way - she has distanced herself, just in case (and not because of you) she might be 'found out'... Not nice, I agree, and bewildering to you. Don't let it hurt you, carry on being 'outwardly friendly' as if nothing had happened. I hope you can rise above this petty nastiness and maintain a nonchalent, slightly removed, dignity.

nickj_2

instead of wasting time thinking about what you've doe or the reasons why you could be making new friends , move on , forget about it , it's her loss

marisco_2

Mayflower10cat wrote: »

My gut feeling is telling me she now regrets confiding 'secrets' for whatever reason, and is afraid her confidences might betray her in some way - she has distanced herself, just in case (and not because of you) she might be 'found out'... Not nice, I agree, and bewildering to you.

If I had confided my 'secrets' in someone I would not treat them as badly as the OP is being treated. Nor would I be going out of my way to turn every gullible Tom, !!!!!! and Harriet against them. People in glass houses want to be careful who they throw stones at!