Bullying at the school gates by parents

FBaby

Something significant must have happened. People don't normally go from being good friend to actually avoiding without a real reason. Have you thought really hard at what it could be? It might be something that would have upset you but souls have upset the others very much?

poet123

When you say she has been spreading rumours about you what do you mean?

LannieDuck

Normally I would ignore it, but since it's affecting your DD (who comes to her party), I think you do need to try and find out the cause. I agree with having a quiet word with the mother that's still friendly.

Nicki

It is possible that you did not do anything to this mother, but that there is something in your life which they learned about and don't wish to be friends with you any longer as a result. Whilst I've never been part of this kind of thing, I have seen it happen where it has become known for example that a mum has been having an affair with a married man, or been seen drink driving with a child in the car.

I don't understand school gate cliques to be honest. I've never seen anyone be ostracised by the whole of the parents in a class. The mums who complain about cliques, are usually those who only want to speak to what they see as the more popular mums, and themselves fail to speak to whole swathes of ordinary mums and grandmas at the school gates even whilst making no headway with the glamour group.

Dinosaur_Train

Nicki wrote: »

It is possible that you did not do anything to this mother, but that there is something in your life which they learned about and don't wish to be friends with you any longer as a result. Whilst I've never been part of this kind of thing, I have seen it happen where it has become known for example that a mum has been having an affair with a married man, or been seen drink driving with a child in the car.

I don't understand school gate cliques to be honest. I've never seen anyone be ostracised by the whole of the parents in a class. The mums who complain about cliques, are usually those who only want to speak to what they see as the more popular mums, and themselves fail to speak to whole swathes of ordinary mums and grandmas at the school gates even whilst making no headway with the glamour group.

I don't think I mentioned cliques, did I? And I'm not being ostracised by all of the parents from the class. I don't think that generally happens really does it? I do have people to talk to at the school, although in all honesty as I said upthread I don't really go to the school to socialise, but it's nice to see a few faces and say hello each day isn't it?

And nope, no married man affairs or drink driving here. Very boring life I'm afraid. Really baffled as to what they could have possibly discovered about me. Perhaps there are skeletons in my closet that even I don't know about?

Dinosaur_Train

Thanks everyone! I just needed to vent really! I'll get over it, hurtful though it is. Just wish that if I have done something to upset them they would have the guts/decency to actually tell me what it is rather than all this childish not talking lark but hey ho.

SuzieSue

Dinosaur_Train wrote: »

Thanks everyone! I just needed to vent really! I'll get over it, hurtful though it is. Just wish that if I have done something to upset them they would have the guts/decency to actually tell me what it is rather than all this childish not talking lark but hey ho.

I used to speak to a woman on the train on the way to work and then suddenly she started ignoring me for no reason that I could understand.

I think you should speak to the woman whose child came to your party as she seems to be the only decent one. Please let us know what she says.

Mojisola

Nicki wrote: »

It is possible that you did not do anything to this mother, but that there is something in your life which they learned about and don't wish to be friends with you any longer as a result. Whilst I've never been part of this kind of thing, I have seen it happen where it has become known for example that a mum has been having an affair with a married man, or been seen drink driving with a child in the car.

I've seen it happen for a completely different reason. The mother who became the outsider had helped out the ringleader when she had had problems and had been told things about the ringleader's life.

It seems the ringleader got scared that the other Mum would pass things on to other people (which she wouldn't have done) and set about making sure no-one else would talk to her. Very unpleasant situation!

Dinosaur_Train

Mojisola wrote: »

I've seen it happen for a completely different reason. The mother who became the outsider had helped out the ringleader when she had had problems and had been told things about the ringleader's life.

It seems the ringleader got scared that the other Mum would pass things on to other people (which she wouldn't have done) and set about making sure no-one else would talk to her. Very unpleasant situation!

Oh gosh that's a bit scary isn't it? The mum in question has told me a lot of things about her life and her unhappy marriage so maybe it's something like that in my case? Nowt as queer as folk I suppose!

mambo69

lets be honest they are not friends they are just parents of your kids friends, so you chat and natter, and at the end of the day we all like to be popular.
I am lucky as when I occasionally go to collect my 2 from school I only know 2 parents to say hello to, so am quite happy to have my headphones in and listen to my music