'supporting each other through really tough times'

Possession

Gosh it does look like a Blackberry doesn't it?! He liked the Nokia Asha which is almost exactly the same price.

VJ's Mum I forgot to say, I'm not doing 5:2 at the moment as I think I lose more just calorie counting, but am going to do it if I have a big weekend or when I am maintaining. I've lost 17 lbs in 6 weeks but have a looong way to go.

sevenup01

Can anyone help with some perspective or possibly advice please?
My eldest daughter (18) was diagnosed with depression 2 years ago. She is taking medication to help and has gotten a lot more stable. My little brother (14) is staying with me currently and has a lot of issues with being bullied very badly at school and being treated rather unkindly by his mum. Dad lives in a bedsit and loves little brother a lot and tries hard to help but a bedsit isnt a practical living arrangement. He is trying to get social housing but its a long wait.
Brother has been self harming and daughter is calling him names (the 'c' word!!!) and accusing him of attention seeking. She has been extremely nasty towards him and i am not really sure why. PArt of me thinks that it is too 'close' to her own ways of coping with her own issues but im not sure. ITs causing a lot of extra stress for us all and i dont know what to do for both my daughter who is clearly struggling, and also my brother who is also clearly struggling. They are both very kind and loving young people when apart from each other but put them near each other and my daughter just rips him to shreds.
Does anyone have any ideas how i can stop my daughter from being so horrible? I am jsut so stuck with what or how to help them both.

boultdj

No advice to give you Sevenup01, but I'm sending you [hugs] and a virtual cup of tea.

CRANKY40

They're very close in age sevenup. Sounds like normal sibling rivalry but exaggerated due to their individual problems. My sister and I hated each other at that age, started quite liking each other in our 20s and are now the best of friends (40s).

As to what you do about it I have no idea sorry. My mum and dad had no idea about the time I banged my sister's head on the kitchen floor so were blissfully unaware they had a problem. My sister used to give as good as she got but eventually it just stopped.

Rowan9

Hi SevenUp - sending a (((hug))). Do you live in Scotland or am I getting confused?ha ha
I'll have a look for some links if so
W

sevenup01

Thank you for the hugs i need them badly. I live on london and kent borders.

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SEVENUP without knowing either of them is it possible that she is a bit jealous? as you are HER Mum and he isn't your child but your sibling. She might be feeling that you are giving him attention that she feels should be hers. That may not be at all the case but reading your post it sounds as if it might be part of the problem, Hope that helps more than it hinders, Hugs Lyn xxx.

nuttyp

Morning everyone, sunny here!! Have finally got 2 days off, and meeting DD for a cuppa later on.

Re the phones mentioned, we have tesco contract £7.50 per month and we got the samsung phone that looks like a blaCKBErry. It is an 18 month contract but the big thing is it is capped, so no chance of getting a bill other than the 7.50.

Popps glad your feeling better, i had the flu jab and OH didnt. He got the cold and i was ok. Felt really smug as he always says i dont need one. I have slight asmath so i get it free.

I remember when me and my brother were at home, we fought every day. I remember my parents despairing, and now we see each other, but not very often. I know he is there if i need him, but we both have our own families.

Have decided to try one of the courses that mccolough has mentioned. I think i need something to focus on. Problem is what do i pick??

Have a gd day everyone.

maryb

DD1 has a Tesco contract but she was always going over. Worked out that if they send very long texts they count as MMS not SMS and that isn't included in your free texts. Teenage boys might be OK but teenage girls do seem to send VERY long texts. Now she knows, she breaks them up into shorter texts. Also, sending pictures costs extra.

There doesn't seem to be anything that stops her going over her data allowance either - though that has only happened once as she is careful with that and only uses it to check buses on a route where they don't run very often

sevenup01

Thank you MrsLurcherwalker. I didnt even consider jealousy and that could definately be a good part of the problem.