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Possession

Well it's the day we find out about secondary school applications - fingers crossed! We're also getting DD's rabbits either today or tomorrow so it's all change here.

Rowan9

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Also took out a subscription child nursing publication at £7.50 per month. I feel it's worth it as I can learn and keep up to date with research, again proving that I'm committed. I have decided on pedantic nursing but even more scared as it's heavily over subscribed. More competition = less chance.

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Hi - it might be worth checking with your local library to see if you can access the publication online. With ours, you can sign up using your library card for ebooks, ejournals, emags etc. You'd be able to read a selection of nursing/ health magazines, journals and articles.
Hope this helps . Handy to know for others to try as well.

GreyQueen

:eek: I've just had my rent increase letter. And have worked out that my rent has gone up 47% since 2005.

Ye gods and little fishes. Don't even want to add up the service charges............. I'll save that for another day when I'm feeling stronger.

My income is 13% higher this year than in 2005, mainly due to changing jobs and working a few more hours a week as haven't been getting any pay increases, not even the most measly ones, for years. But I'm working at the limits of my strength at the moment and there isn't any more oomph to give.

No wonder I was hearing the pennies screaming for mercy whenever I opened my purse. They try to hide in the seams, clinging on with little fingernails for all I know, desperate not to leave the comforting depths.

Ach well, must keep on keeping on.

sevenup01

Thanks everyone. Things kicked off again last night while i was at brownies (i got my holiday licence at long last!-yay!)
By the time i got home, my cousin had packed her bags and collapsed her bed and is going back home to her parents. COusin said she couldnt take my brothers attitude any more. trying to be objective, yes he has been quite moody but he has been severely stressed and he has actually been a lot better now he knows cambhs are trying to help him.
Eldest daughter and cousin seem to egg each other on which doesnt help.
Bluebag i have tried telling them that i expect them all to be civil to each other and if they cant say anything nice to say nothing at all. Brother is obeying that but daughter and cousin just say he is being rude! I cant win!
It is definately jealousy as daugher said last night that i spend more time with him than i do with her. I agreed with her but said i also came over on my own and left the other kids at home to assemble your furniture and take you shopping, i have been calling you in the mornings to wake you for college, i have been calling the energy company and arranging meter changeovers for you. I keep trying to arrange with you to come over during daylight hours so i can decorate your flat as you asked me to but you have been busy. There isnt really anything else i can do if she is busy.
and just to add to it all i have grounded my 15yr old as she 'forgot' to take her phone out last night and then strolled in 40 minutes late and thought it was ok because she was having fun and needed a life!!!!! I have also confiscated her phone.
I think i am going to crawl back into bed - i am shattered!

Possession

Sorry to hear that GQ. : (

DS got into the school we wanted, so that's great.
Am v worried about DH though, his panic attacks and anxiety have started up again big time and it's affecting his work. He doesn't think his contract will be renewed and is worried it might get terminated (although I don't know if he has reason to think that). I'm concerned as it really isn't much of a stressful job in comparison with others he's had/could have, and I don't understand why it's happening - obviously anxiety is a disorder and doesn't need a reason, but that doesn't help with paying the mortgage. My salary alone doesn't cover all our outgoings even if I stop contributing to my pension. He has found a local therapist and had 3 sessions of CBT but so far he seems to be getting worse not better, and it's costing us £45 a time. He doesn't want medication and reading up I can understand why, so I'm not sure where we go from here really.

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Good on you POPS I an certain that having purchased Bovril that will mean you don't actually catch another cold for the rest of the year, that's how it usually works!!!!!! I'm another one that finds gilets very useful, I've picked up three of them really cheaply by buying them in sales in the height of summer, OK the shop assistant regards you with pity and amusement but, come December I know who's laughing then!!!!! Have a good one, Cheers Lyn xxx.

SEVENUP now you know why, you've got a starting point to work from. I'm not sure that a jealous 18 year old can be reasoned with as the emotions kick in and they revert to three year old mentality, there will be a way through your problem but it won't be easy. Is your brother also likely to be magnifying his needs to get more of your attention and feeling a bit jealous of your daughter? Not unheard of in his situation. Hope so much you can find a way back to a peaceful household.

POSESSION Hugs and more hugs, not an easy thing to deal with, but so very pleased for you that your DS has his place at the chosen school, a little bright spot to make you smile, yes? Lyn xxx.

VJsmum

Spring is sprung, the grass is riz, I wonder where the birdies is....

March the 1st - woo bl00dy hoo. (I am, of course, ignoring the weather ) Dydd Gwyl Dewi Sant Hapus as my Welsh ancestors would have said

Possession wrote: »

We're also getting DD's rabbits either today or tomorrow so it's all change here.

White ones?;)

Glad DS got into the school you wanted. Always stressful. We are waiting to find out about my niece. Ours was straghtforward as the best local school for our 2 was our catchment school anyway, which has just achieved a "Good" OFSTED rating and only just missed "outstanding" apparently :T

It is my first proper day off for weeks so I am planning a proper housey pootle and lunch with my friends.

Have a nice day everybody

fuddle

Aw possession. Oh no. No expert but been there and suffer myself. I suspect the sheer thought of being back in the situation that he hated and knows how difficult it is to get out of (and no control over the situation or how he can get out of it) it will no doubt be worse this time round because he's already been there and felt it. Search for live well, I think from memory it's a free CBT programme and might just help. I will be honest though, it didn't help me. There's counselling service on NHS with CBT but it didn't help me. You're not going to like this but since beginning the anti-d's (citalopram is used for anxiety disorders and panic) I haven't had a panic attack, even all that issues with getting not getting the new house at Christmas- visiting the whole issue that set mine off in the dirst place. I've been free of them for 3 months now and still haven't had an episode.

Edit: it's live life to the full CBT in the search. Think llttf.com

I will say I hated being on the medication and coming off it was so difficult. It is addictive in the sense that you have to wean yourself off them very slowly in order not to have the withdrawal effect you physically, imagine flu 3x worse. Never just stop seretonin boosters.

My brain didn't work properly and began to behave in a way unacceptable to me in times of stress. What I needed was the medication to fix the connections in my brain, calm my brain down and give it rest so it can re-learn how to 'behave' properly in times of stress.

I have a love/hate relationship with with the medication and because of that I think I came off it too soon and too quickly but... I'm alright and I'm better. I would go back on them again, in a shot, if I got to the point of needing them again.

CBT fascinates me but I just don't think I needed to do it because I knew how I should behave in the situation, wanted to behave that way in the situations but just couldn't act rationally. I know CBT has been superb on helping a friend of mine but our situations were poles apart.

I'm not trying to convince your or Mr P to head on medication but I needed 8 months of the stuff to calm so my brain could relearn. Hope he's alright Possession. Well done on the school results. That is a load off.

Thank you wmf. I will look into it, just getting the hang of the library service here. Will do that today feeling really bad about signing up now and think I will be cancelling. I knee-jerked yesterday.

Does anyone know how to stop neighbourhood cats pooing on my front lawn? I don't want to cause the cats distress, just try to not have them leavin their mess on it.

Peanut2013

Hello all, can I join? Things are tough here and we've realised we really need to economise.

After rent were left with about £400 to pay for all bills and shopping etc. Not easy

There are times when I get so scared I won't be able to give my LO the life he deserves, but then I remember money isn't everything. The good things in my life are a loving family, an amazing group of friends and we can provide LO with lots of free activities and lots and lots of love.

So we can't go on holiday, or spend much on Christmas etc but I know we'll get there.

As long as we cover the bills I guess we're ok.

Thanks for listening xx

Possession

Peanut you're in the right place. Have a really good read of lots of the threads on the OS board, particularly ones where there are lots of tips on feeding a family for less, as often food is a bill that can be cut most easily.

Fuddle I don't have a problem with him going on medication, but he's very against it as he's had a bad experience with valium and has quite an addictive personality. It's interesting that anti-Ds have helped though. I'll get him to look at that website.
When we had foxes doing nightly rounds of our garden the only thing which stopped them leaving a nightly present was a few used teabags dotted around with a couple of drops of olbas oil on. You have to renew the olbas oil every night but the teabag lasts a while. Some people say leave citrus peel out but that didn't work for us.