'supporting each other through really tough times'

kidcat

ginnyknit wrote: »

Its raining here too. Think we may all be coming down with some lurgy or other, not been feeling grand at all today and DGS wasnt too good when we took him home.

Good news though DGS has decided to speak :j:beer::T Im so happy I could cry, well I did a bit, he is 2 and 7 months and stopped talking about a year ago. He had one session with the speech therapist and must have thought 'Oh well better get on with it they obviously want my opinion':rotfl: He still does the sign language he taught himself and now talks to his Daddys laptop, he does number games on it :eek: Right better not bore you all with it now

We had lamb shanks for tea, £1 each frozen off the local market and Oh my they were yummy. 2 did tea for 3 of us so must sort out the freezer tomorrow and make room for more.

:j:j:j:j:j I cried when DS14 started to speak again last year after three months of silence so I appreciate your joy - of course there are now some days I miss the peace :rotfl:

savingqueen

[QUOTE=VJsmum;57665789]Me neither - it isn't the money, I just can't be BOTHERED. Bothered to think about what to buy, bothered to go and buy it and bothered to try and find somewhere to put the stuff that gets bought.

Moan moan, grumble grumble - Bah Humbug!![/QUOTE]

That's exactly how I'm feeling. You are not alone!

kidcat - thanks for your suggestion re family contact.
ramble alert...

I'm not brave enough to do that plus my mum isn't IT savvy (she can email at a push but not confident and struggles with writing anyway.) My dad is on the frail side since he recovered from cancer, nearly 77 with a pacemaker and I would hate for my family not to be able to reach me in an emergency. I do love them but I currently don't like them at all - their actions (mum, dad and sister) have been very hurtful and upsetting this year and I feel completely pushed out. Every conversation makes matters worse as they cannot understand how I can be upset despite my explaining why - they like to sweep everything under the carpet and keep up appearances. I probably sound cold and heartless to an outsider, I know some friends don't understand but friends with comparable situations totally know how I feel.

sorry I have go on for ages - please ignore. Just needed to get off my chest some uncomfortable feelings.

ginny - can't do emotions but yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!! great news about DGS

daft thought re thanks button - all those who want to on this thread could make a pact not to bother with the thanks button??? Ignore me, it's 11.40pm and I've had a whole glass of wine ha ha.

Tomorrows another day. Night all

sq:)

kidcat

savingqueen - ((hugs)) thats what we are here for, could you maybe screen your calls and then only return the call when you feel string enough?
Family can be the biggest stress in your life at times and as the saying goes you can choose your friends but you cant choose your family.
There are some days I will screen my mums calls - she seems to choose a time when I actually have an hour to myself and then call to have a moan/meander type call and stay the whole hour, and some days I just want the time to myself.

D&DD

aw ramble away SQueen Thats what we're all here for to listen when others need a shoulder XX

Ginny there'll be no stopping him now hun you'll be asking how to knit a pair of ear defenders next lol really chuffed for you all it's the little things eh?? XX

Its pertiddling down here rain and freezing cold no snow

I always forget the thanks button on here I usually remember on the SHTF thread but I'm still catching up on there and use it to mark where I've read up to too but I always enjoy reading everyones posts on all threads so no-one be offended if I forget you!

savingqueen

kidcat wrote: »

savingqueen - ((hugs)) thats what we are here for, could you maybe screen your calls and then only return the call when you feel string enough?
Family can be the biggest stress in your life at times and as the saying goes you can choose your friends but you cant choose your family.
There are some days I will screen my mums calls - she seems to choose a time when I actually have an hour to myself and then call to have a moan/meander type call and stay the whole hour, and some days I just want the time to myself.

thanks D&DD & kidcat - need a hug. I try to screen calls but DH picks the phone up without thinking. You're right my biggest source of anxiety/stress other than DS2's problems is my extended family followed by DH's. Why both sides? I know this sounds so awful but I actually feel envious at times at other people who have supportive parents, siblings etc - even though I don't for one second begrudge them their supportive families - if that makes sense. I feel like we have no-one to turn to, familywise at least in a crisis. The good friends I have - and I am very lucky here - are friends who have more than enough on their plate. I think this is why Christmas makes me anxious - all the happy families stuff advertisers ram down our throats. I am extremely lucky though to have my DH and our boys. I will be ok tomorrow, dust myself down and carry on.

ps kidcat - you are a remarkable woman. Be as kind to yourself as you are to others.

night
sq:)

D&DD

Things always look brighter in the morning SQ I'm glad you have some good friends around you I have a small but trusty lot who much like yours have their own daily battles to deal with but we all support each other in times of need as we know what its like I suppose we empathize more than others maybe??
Onwards and upwards sweetie XX

bluebag

VJsmum wrote: »

Me neither - it isn't the money, I just can't be BOTHERED. Bothered to think about what to buy, bothered to go and buy it and bothered to try and find somewhere to put the stuff that gets bought. Plus, I was going shopping with a friend tomorrow to make a start and now I can't as I have to cover for a colleague who has had a bereavement. I have been moaning all semester about not having much to do and now I am stupidly busy!! I am thinking there may be a lot of cinema vouchers bought this year! Which in itself is tricky as everyone has different companies where they live so i will have to trawl round them all to get people vouchers they can use.

Moan moan, grumble grumble - Bah Humbug!!

There are other voucher types you can use that can be spent anywhere from food shops to electronic gagets and all in between, I use them all the time and they are available on line too.

The post office also does a similar thing. Save you having to research all the cinema stuff.

[Deleted User]

fuddle wrote: »

Mrs Veg Plot? Why have you thanked every single posters posts today but not thanked any of mine? You know what everyone. It's time to hang up my MSE OS boots. Bullying via thanks button is getting beyond a joke.

I won't be logging back in now. Thanks for the help and support you have given me over time. Byeeeeeeeee

Its not like you fuddle, don`t be petulant . I used to do what mrs VP might have done, ie just run down the posts thanking left right and centre and not always reading if I am honest. It felt like I should be using that button, to stay in the group and it was easy to miss a couple. It was mrs chip who gave me the courage to stop and now I thank no-one as thanking can indeed be divisive

Has anyone got a recipe for a nice dahl? I have lentils and channa lentils. It`s another nice comfort food but I don`t have a particular favourite recipe

I was very wakeful last night, after 2.30, don`t know why but I was good and stayed in bed to doze. Maybe it was spending a few hours on the allotment in the sunshine, it was energising. My mind was whizzy as dd has been offered a good new job, after weeks of `in depth` interviews. It looks as though they will be going the smallholder route in a year or two as she will be working in a more rural area, her dh is a house husband and he is doing a grand job of making a home, the children are so much happier, although it was a huge decision for him to give up work

elisamoose

Approved foods site now working ok.marmite all gone though- which was th whole point of ordering!

Regarding the latest probs on here..........I rarely thank ...find it all a bit meaningless tbh. Most posts on here are interesting to read and some are useful tips but I don't want to get into a 'who is friends with who'

We all need to remember we are anonymous on here.We could be anyone.We could be deliberately trying to wind people up,upset each other and sit back and get some thrill out of it.
There may be some who like reading about others misfortune from a position of comfort themselves.
Some may have a serious mental health issue or personality disorder.
Some may be a totally made up persona!

In fact there are many reasons why people could read and contribute to this thread.We don't have the real life clues to make our decision about posters.In real life, like it or not we make immediate judgements based on looks, clothes, tone of voice, body language etc.We use what we already know to make our decisions.
On here that is impossible and we sometimes misinterpret people's tone or words.We can't see their reaction to what we do either.

meme30

Come on Fuddle, pull your self together pet. Your going to feel really cr*p about that post this morning. Don't look at who thanks you, it's just feeding into your sensitivities and you have enough going on at the moment. :grouphug:

Personally I thank when I remember or if someone says something I am interested in.
Don't feel like you are walking on egg-shell everyone, it's not important to thank everyone all of the time. The important thing is to be here for each other.
Just knowing that someone will read your high's, or lows, moans and joys is like getting a warm cuddle. I am constantly amazed at everyone's capacity to chip in and help and support those of us who need it. I have been the recipient of this feeling when things have been very dark and I can't tell you how special your comments were to me, and how they helped me square my shoulders and be able to get on with the next day. :A

Ginnyknit:- Your DGS brought a tear to my eye too. Things like this just make your heart swell. :T

Savingqueen:- It's really hard juggling families at the best of times, but with your Dad being so poorly it must be very hard for you. :grouphug:

VJsmum:- Would magazine subscriptions be any good to you? They can be organised on-line so even better! :j

Kidcat:- Yes, I've done that with my Mam too, sometimes you just need a bit of space.

We have a couple of inches of snow this morning, just soft stuff, brushable I hope. Going to sort the Grandchildren in half an hour so the wellies are to hand. :rotfl: