'supporting each other through really tough times'

mardatha

Weather finally calmed down here but what a day this has been. Floods everywhere. Tomorrow is to be 4C and sunshine, thank god.

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It's a toughie BYATT, if you flag up a possible problem to DD's support what action would they take? Would she know you had been the one contacting them? and if so, how would that affect her attitude to you? You need to keep communications open with her or you'll worry even more if she stops telling you what's going on. Perhaps this older lady is just a bit lonely and wants your DDs company and when she's been there a while and met some more people your DD will be less close to her? Don't do anything in haste, do you have contact with a social worker re your DD they might be able to give you some sound advice as to what action to take - sorry I can't be more help, here if you need me, Cheers Lyn xxx.

shegar

Byatt, oh dear me this is a difficult one, if you say too much you will push her further towards this woman and yet you cant just sit back and hope for the best.............

You can only tell her that you worry about her welfare and dont want to see her come to any harm, and be there for her when the friendship goes ti.s up.......How old is she ?

I fully understand how worried you are , but cant see what else you can do right now, apart from keeping a close eye on things to see how it pans out...........Sorry,.....

The weather well its suppose to rain heavy overnight and Friday, its still windy now............Sheila

oldtractor

BYATT write her a letter expressing your love for her.Tell her what she means to you and how much you need her.
Then explain that, as a mother, you will always worry for her and that you see her lurching into an unsuitable relationship. then explain why its unsuitable-this is important. Say you'll always be there for her then sign off. Then itas up to her what she does or doesnt do. you have tried your best. if it all goes wrong for her be there but she must sort it out for herself. the only way people grow up i'm afraid.
((((((((HUGS)))))))))

kidcat

Byatt - I think I would attempt to get the support to be the bad guy whilst you play good cop, sympathise with her that they are sticking their nose in etc, then show an interest in the neighbour, have coffee with them etc knowledge is power, and it will enable you to judge the motivation and intent.

((hugs)) to all those affected by the bad weather, stay safe

ginny - am so pleased that your OH got a good hospital result even better that the doctor seems more supportive

katie - hope you are managing to rest with all the neighbour drama

am dropping with exhaustion having two nights in a row up with DS8, he seems a little better today though so am hopeful of some sleep. We had our group today and a new lady came, we were able to offer her a cuppa and a chat, gave her loads of advice and info and she says she will be back next week. She is trying to get a place at DS8 school which will be good.

Weather here is extremely wet and windy - our solar lights all blew away and OH had to go on a hunt to find them, dad had to remove the weather vane from the little house.

Cats are still attempting to kill each other and its starting to get old - fur everywhere, these two have never been good together but these last few days they are fighting to the death.


ETA - Byatt its her auty side that means she wont be able to read peoples intentions its not that she doesnt want to listen to you.

Pooky

Kidkat- my older two cats are fighting silly amounts too, I'm thinking the weather is spooking them. Going to plug in a feli-way to try settle them.

kidcat

Thanks pooky was beginning to worry

ginnyknit

Have completely lost the plot tonight, did someone post an easy pud recipe the other day where you make a mix then pour a tin of fruit over the top and it rights itself in the oven - I have scrolled back pages and pages and cannot find it !!! I did however mis read lots as I was scrolling, ie that someone was having badger for tea and so on....told u I had lost it :rotfl:

ps hugs to all.............wanders off to look under couch for missing brain cell ......oh and the batteries for the remote.......

fuddle

Byatt, all my friends are 10, 20 and even more years older than me. I prefer it that way so I wouldn't be too bothered about the age. Maybe this lady needs to be wanted too and they've struck up some common ground. Non of my friends are heavy drinkers though so all that is a bit alien to me, and yes, a little bit alarmist.

Do you think the drinking/meds/hospital combination frightened DD at all? I mean, would she be wise enough to not get in that state again?

Possession

Was it this Ginny (not my recipe)

Fruit Cobbler Recipe

In an oven proof dish add in 1 mug of self raising flour, 1 mug of granulated sugar and 1 mug of milk. Mix it all up so it's thoroughly mixed together and then add 1 tin of value tinned fruit of your choice on top. Bake in the oven on gas mark 4 until golden. The flour mix will rise up above the fruit.