PMS again....

sugaJen

I read a thread a day or 2 ago that I totally related to, cant remember who it was by? (sorry) but I think i might be suffering from pms and it seems to be ruining my life.

I realise afterwards that I have been very nasty and very angry towards literally anyone, Good Friday took the biscuit for me, I took my 3 kids to the easter fair, all was well, everyone having a good time til my 8yo son got off a ride, hugged me and said he felt sick, I pushed him away and told him "dont come crying to me" so he went to my Dad who hugged him back and comforted him. Now I feel so guilty about this no wonder my son loves being with his grandad so much 'cos mums a b***h!! My 2 girls (5+5) have also been on the raw end of me a few times

Kids dad and I are trying to sort things out and really get somewhere until THAT time of the month and I always get the blame when it goes wrong (even though it is me but cant help it)

So I need and want to go to the Dr but have confidence issues (this is gonna sound really pathetic) and dont really know what to say. I dont wanna walk in and say "Ive got pms so sort me out....."

I really hope someone has the patience to read this and help me ive never felt so rubbish..and this is money saving for me in the long run because I end up spending money on the people ive been awful to, even if it is just sweets for the kids.

MANY TIA

Jen

sugaJen

Thanks sooo much for replyin so quickly,

Not meaning to sound terrible but I get alot of comfort knowing im not the only one who is worried/scared about going to the Dr's. Im really gonna have to make an appointment in the morning.

Never tried any supplements and to be honest (but i could be wrong) I dont think they would work, my sister is really into aromatherapy and none of it does anything for me, although never tried anything for pms, but things like lavendar for relaxing/sleeping and others that i cant remember have never done nothing to me and to me they are nothing but a scent.

I am gonna have to go and get this sorted out cos its making me question myself, am i really going insane??? but i start crying when i talk about it.

Jen

Fleago

sugaJen,

Sorry that you're having this problem, it's horrible isn't it! Would it be helpful to you to write down your symptoms before you go to the Doctor? Nothing fancy, just some bullet points that you can either just read out to the Doctor or use as prompts for you to describe things more fully. That way you will be less likely to get tongue tied or miss anything out because of nerves. If you can't face saying the things because you're afraid of crying, you could even say to the Doctor, "I don't want to get upset, so I've written down my symptoms" and give them the piece of paper.

Alternatively, you could ask at your GP Practice whether they run a Well Woman Clinic or whether there is one in your area. Well Woman clinics are staffed by females, they deal with all the female health issues and are used to women presenting with the issues you're experiencing.

I do hope you manage to get some help with this and that you'll soon feel much better.

Fleago

crispeater

i have bumped the other thread for you to see if theres any other info on that.
just to add theres is also another one on page 2 of the health and beauty section titled Another Bad Bout of PMS - Hysterectomy or not?

sugaJen

Thanks for all ur replies. Am gonna try writing it down and if when I get there I feel too scared/panicky/worried or whatever it is that makes me get like I do at the docs I can just hand the paper over.

Rang the docs just now and they have no appointments til next week but, if I ring at half 8 in the morning I can get a book on the day appointment? Dont understand that at all, they are booked up now but wont be in the morning Wonder if thats just my surgery that does that?

I could do this over a telephone appointment but its abit hard to give him a piece of paper if I clam up

Jen

Carmina_Piranha_3

mine does that too - they have some appointments that can be booked in advance and others that can only be booked on the day.

my PMS can be terrible, but it always always terrible if that makes sense. i've got PCOS so my hormones are all wonky.

are you getting enough zinc? that has a massive effect on my moods. superdrug sell zinc really cheap, the RDA is also included in most multivitamins. B vitamins are good for moodiness too.

i take a good multivit but i'm still a cow sometimes. but it's better than before the multivit when i was a cow every month, sometimes my OH would put his arm around me and i'd want to punch him just for touching me, i didn't want him anywhere near me. i'd also cringe if my little boy came to give me a cuddle

judyjetson

I know what it's like too - it's been a nightmare for me for years, but I finally found something that works for me, and it was actually as a result of a freebie posted on here. It's called Femal, and although it's not cheap (it's 15.99 for 60 tablets) it's made a huge difference to me. I've just had a look on the pms website and it looks like you can still sign up for a two month free trial.

https://www.pms.org.uk/Menstrual+Diary

pavlovs_dog

i can go for months and PMS/PMT will barely even raise it's ugly head. until i go for the tampons, OH doesnt even know im on :rolleyes:

other months, im godzilla's daughter and an absolutely cow to live with. touch wood, ive been in a good phase again lately, but thought you might benefit from the info in a thread i started a while black... see HERE

shays_mum

Your post bought tears to my eyes, as i am like this with my kids at every 2 weeks leading upto my erratic periods-have pcos as well . The only thing that actually worked for me was a good multi-vitamin & mild gym workout. This coming from a woman who has NOT exercised for 15+ years!!.
The reason i say this is because having been on a weight loss program (lipotrim) & not going to the gym, as you lose 1 stone a month, I am back to being a moody, snappy, mad-eyed b**** , if not that than being in tears for no reason at all.
I am breaking out in acne like a teenager again & the breast tenderness is like when you are pregnant, ouch . I may have lost a stone, but i really feel the gym was the best thing i ever did, maybe its the natural endorphines or whatever, but my periods were not heavy at all & only lasted for 3 days as opposed to 7!!
Ok am going on tooo much, but hth, hang in there girl, goodluck x

sugaJen

Pavlovs_dog Those threads were very helpful thankyou.

shays_mum You werent going on to much, i like hearing about other peoples experiences, makes me feel "normal"

I cant believe how many people suffer with this. Anyway I rang the docs and got an appointment with a nurse practitioner (she does same as a dr im told) at 10.15 this morning, Im sort of scared about going but thats just my confidence, I feel like crying now but also happy at the thought of getting this sorted. Least I dont have that long to wait and I might find it easier speaking to the nurse (female) as all the Drs at my surgery are male.

Hears hoping I dont come across as a total fruit loop-cos thats what I feel like.

Thanks

Jen

Sus1e

There was a TV program where women who suffered from PMS were encouraged to eat an awful lot of cheese. I seem to remember that it cured about 50% but eased the symptoms in all the women who took part.

Apparently a Calcuim definiency can cause some of the symptoms of PMS.