anyone fancy a chat?

sured

i dont know,
i just cant figure out whats going on in his head,
i thought we would be together forever,
so i'll have to start picking up the pieces,
if theres anything good come out of it,
he has proved he has no respect for me,
and i have some closure, rather than not knowing,
so i should be able to start moving on with my life,

sured

just too add,
he will never be able to hurt me again,
so that has to be a good thing too.

jimsmum

i need a dentist

Storm

Hi sured,

Only just read this thread, so apologies for coming in so late. My personal favourite when I'm down is to watch Breakfast at Tiffany's - simply because no matter how messed up my life is - Holly Golightly is FAR more screwed up!

Otherwise, favourite CD on extremely loud and SCREAM those words out!

BTW - I think some time away by yourself is a fabulous idea - try Martin's flightchecker to get the cheapest flight anywhere!

newleaf

Just back from the Doc's and catching up on your thread sured.
Well, what can I say? I think deep down you knew this was coming didn't you? But I am really very sorry to hear it happened in the way that it did.
You will have quite a lot of practical stuff to sort out between you, so try to stay calm and keep things as amicable as possible - although I'm sure that's not how you're feeling right now.
I think you said earlier that you put money from your house sale into his property, so make sure you get legal advice quickly. You must make sure you get back everything you are entitled to.
Draw up an action plan. Where will you live in the short term? How will you spend your time? Have you got friends who will support you through the next few weeks? It's important to have someone to talk to, and something to do in the evenings in particular.
Try not to dwell on thoughts of 'wasted years'. This was a bad relationship for you, and it sounds like you are well rid of it. Be positive, and in a few weeks time, things will be much clearer and hopefully you'll be feeling much better.
And of course, let us know how things are going.

sured

maybe we should have a new thread,
how to pick yourself up when you have hit the bottom.

Becks_in_Debt

newleaft am I glad you are here, that is what i needed, you have your head screwed on, you sound like you have been there, i have only ever lived with 1 bloke and still there so I dont know the in ands outs of sorting things out like the house etc.
Do you work as you may be entitled to free/discounted solicitors fees? Is the mortgage in both of your names?

newleaf

Your joint finances really need sorting out pronto - especially if you think he might try taking more than his fair share. CAB might be a good place to start. You didn't say whether you are employed, or whether you also have a personal bank account, but if not you need to open one quick.

Becks_in_Debt

If i was in this situation I would ring up the mortgage people and see if they can help, even if it is 1 month holiday period, the money will come in use at the min and 1 less stress, Mortgage lenders are normally quite good if you are honest with them, they have been brill with us in the past,

sured

thank both for the advice,
i will have to read them again later,
i'm not thinking straight at the minute.