Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

lostinrates

SingleSue wrote: »

It is such a turn around, who would have thought the child who was labelled the slowest in the class (by his class teacher in year 5..and yes, I almost felt like giving him a punch on the nose - how dare he say that in front of a student) because of his dyslexia, would now have the option of at least 3 universities, all of which are very doable with their requirements.

James has worked incredibly hard to get where he is now, has overcome lots of personal battles with things, including having his parents divorce and finding out just before his GCSEs that he had a lifelong condition that would put him in a wheelchair before he was 25.

I am one very very proud parent.

Is the 25 thing set in stone? I know my health isn't great but it's better than the dead, vegetable, wheelchair bound person I was 'meant' to be when they told dh I would not recover?

I am sure you are on to tis, but have you kept up with all the nutrition, lifestyle, etc research with the condition? It's VERY eay to feel overwhelmed by it, and also to rea conflicting advice. I love the nutritional guidance I have to eat plenty of avocados ( yum yum) but hate the one to avoid brassicas. I have brassicas, just not a often as I would like. I feel it when I have sugar, processed food, too little iron or protein etc....mainly in my joints.


What was the well known study with fish oils? was it ADHD? Or was it simething else, I cannot remember.

They don't rid the disease, but if they buy a couple of years then....not a bad thing to try at least?

SingleSue

He should actually be using a wheelchair now at certain times, so if anything, they were too optimistic. James won't though and is determined to prove them wrong, only problem with that is by trying to prove them wrong, he is doing more damage and will make it worse for the years ahead.

Unfortunately, he is like his mother, too blooming stubborn for his own good. If he took it a little easier now and used aids at certain times, he could put off being permanently in a wheelchair for a good while but he will not listen, he prefers to live for today and worry about tomorrow...well tomorrow.

There is not a lot that can be done for our condition apart from supporting the joints and not over stressing them. As for his heart, pretty much the same thing, not to exert himself too much, no contact or very active sports due to the risk at his aortic root, careful with drink etc.

I've tried to get him to take things slower, to use the splints etc but he is 19 and thinks he is invincible....just like I did at that age.

lostinrates

Sue, sent a pm with a couple of very different sort of links. There has been stuff........land if you guys haven't tried it it might be worth trying for six months as seeing if it does offer any support.

Eit..as I said, stubborn directed into fight is good...just not into damaging things!

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

I am one very very proud parent.

It's not just you. I think the NP are collectively proud of James with a sort of feeling of "He's one of our own", IYSWIM.

CKhalvashi

LydiaJ wrote: »

It's not just you. I think the NP are collectively proud of James with a sort of feeling of "He's one of our own", IYSWIM.

I think we're in agreement here!

Sorry I've not been around the last few days, I'm currently in Sweden (I'll leave the regular NP to guess why), my health is rapidly going down the loo, which strongly follows the advice that I shouldn't be working at the moment (and it's not that someone couldn't be found to take my role, it's more that work had been what I've known for the last 10 years, with nothing else).

I'm extremely tired at the moment, increasingly stressed and won't be returning to the London office tomorrow morning, but instead will return full-time on the 18th (probably 2 days a week, as I'm the only signatory on the business accounts that isn't in Spain), so I may be around more, but will probably be around less. I made a mention of the health problems I've faced in the last year, a few months back, and would rather not go through them again!

99 days until the final now, and 85 days until hell breaks loose in Malmo, so I need to make sure I'm better by then, and I'll be fine. I'm just dreading the 800 miles back home tonight!

We have selected Ukraine for the Junior this year, and I'm really looking forward to working with my new boss; Vladislav Yakovlev, and also Victoria Romanova, who has succeeded my position as Head of Ukrainian delegation, which I have held for 10 years now, as I think I mentioned, I'm now a director on the organising company as of January 1st

Sorry if the English in the 3rd and 5th paras aren't correct, I don't know how to word it better

CK

CKhalvashi

zagubov wrote: »

Apparently all the easterrn bloc advisers and diplomats who had to go to Albania used to warn each other to bring absolutely everything they needed. There was a lot of propaganda it was a worker's paradise but the truth was they made the other communist countries look like consumer paradises which tells us all we need to know.

I spoke with my mother about this, and she remembers telling my father the same thing when he was packed off to Albania on various tasks (usually lasting about a week).

I see we have new NP, so I will explain briefly that I am Georgian, and that my father was a Soviet diplomat. :eek: He worked as an advisor to British government from 1992, until his death in 1999.

We used to have a black Volga an'all (ex-KGB), which didn't go down too well on the collapse of the USSR, and I think it ended being destroyed shortly after. First 2 British cars in this family were a Lada Riva and a Lada Samara (both 'K' plate, both cheese yellow), which says how brainwashed by USSR government we really were! :cool::D

CK

misskool

silvercar wrote: »

Bare in mind we don't know the reason, but I read that list out to DS and he said most likely he had an affair with a student. Would that, given that the students must be over 18, enough to be gross misconduct?

If he was teaching the student, then most definitely so.

If the student was just at the university then a bit less so. It's a grey area....

chewmylegoff

misskool wrote: »

If he was teaching the student, then most definitely so.

If the student was just at the university then a bit less so. It's a grey area....

The university may define it as gross misconduct either way - e.g. They may have a policy in their staff handbook forbidding any member of staff from having a relationship with a student. Of course whether or not an employment tribunal would agree with them that it is gross misconduct is a different matter.

IME employment disputes are almost always settled before they reach the tribunal as the employer is very unlikely to be able to reclaim its legal fees from the employee even if it wins the case, so if you know the legal fees will be £30k you might as well offer £25k for the claim to be dropped. Unless the employee is completely innocent and is able to properly clear their name, reinstatement is rarely an option as their reputation is already completely shot by the time they get to the tribunal.

lostinrates

I feel really much better today! I have told dh I want to be outside doing stuff, notably getting wood from the oak which had to come down last year, stacked and that part of the yard tidied up. It was one of the first areas we cleared and tidied up when we moved in and it looks dreadful again.

SingleSue

Just take it easy LIR, you may be feeling better but you don't want to overdo things.

Mind you, one of these days, I will take my own advice!