What right does someone have...

SmallL

I reccomend home baking as a treat, the whole process is rewarding and the recipe can be tweaked to make it healthier. I often make low-sugar and fat fruit muffins for a treat.
OR if im feeling really naughty il do cookie coated oreos, where you make cookie dough and wrap it round an oreo!

thistledome

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Just realised... You sound like one of the people in my OP... :rotfl:

HBS x

And you sound a bit like a girl I used to work with who was constantly moaning about looking fat and being on a diet and telling everybody whether or not she'd been "good" today or not, etc etc yawn yawn, yet if anybody tried to be helpful when they saw her scarfing down a cake 5 minutes after a large lunch, she'd bite their head off.

heartbreak_star

I repeat:

"funnily enough, all my colleagues know is that I've embarked on the crazy workout plan as a training scheme for the Spartan Race. Maybe they assume I should diet too?"

Not social group, work colleagues, and I don't think I've ever complained about my weight there - just stated I'm trying to get fitter. They all seem to be in some sort of crazy self-deprivation competition though...none of them want to exercise but they'll happily live on porridge.

Thanks SmallL - might look up some healthy recipes, I know some of my friends find baking therapeutic but I've always stayed away from it as a reforming emotional eater.

Thistledome - I think it really depends as what you class as helpful...it was pretty cool when some friends joined me working out so we could spur each other on - that was helpful, but tutting at me (or anyone else) and treating us like we're stupid is not helpful.

HBS x

heartbreak_star

I do think it's always going to be an argument between those who sit in their ivory towers denouncing the "fatties" and those of us who are either a) fat and happy or b) fat and trying to get fitter like me.

I know there is a possibility that my colleagues genuinely think they are helping my fitness regime (though some just like being a pain) and I will have a gentle word with them. Any snarky comebacks will be met with "well I hope you never struggle with anything because I'll be just as helpful to you as you are to me". I think some will understand though.

HBS x

thistledome

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Thistledome - I think it really depends as what you class as helpful...it was pretty cool when some friends joined me working out so we could spur each other on - that was helpful, but tutting at me (or anyone else) and treating us like we're stupid is not helpful.

HBS x

Fair enough, but people often act stupidly even when they're rather intelligent types.

HBS, I'm not explaining myself very well but it can be a bit irksome when somebody at work is banging on about losing weight/getting fit or whatever and then eats unhealthy/fattening garbage and gets annoyed when somebody comments.

Imagine you have a colleague who is always bending your ear about having no money and terrible credit card debt and every lunchtime he/she comes back from the shops with bags full of expensive and unnecessary nick-nacks that you know they can't afford. Wouldn't you feel like saying something?

I don't know you or your colleagues but either:

1. They enjoy baiting you and being mean because they're not very nice people

2. They are trying to help you stop eating junk as they know you are trying to get fit

3. You're emotionally connected to food/weight issues and they don't realise how much it bothers you for them to comment on your eating habits.

Not sure why I've posted all this, tbh....

Good luck with getting fit anyway.

EDIT
I wrote all this before you added the post above btw.

heartbreak_star

Never mind if you weren't sure why you put it up, I like that post

I think a lot of them just like having something to grumble at/about if I'm honest. I am emotionally connected to food but que sera sera, they don't know that! "The Real me is Thin" by Arabella Weir really struck some chords with me, I recommended it on a few Good Reads boards including the one at work, hehe.

And thanks - I will probably post up how broken the Spartan Race makes me

HBS x

thistledome

Please do. I'd be interested to hear how you get on.

I once read a book called "When Big Boys Tri" (i think that's correct) written by an obese man who trained for a Triathlon. They have an overweight category called Clydesdales, which he competed in. AFAIK he still does them. Not a bad read if you like inspirational books, although you can read inspirational blogs on SparkPeople for free if you want to be MSE.

heartbreak_star

Cheers, I'll go look at that

HBS x

Person_one

thistledome wrote: »

And you sound a bit like a girl I used to work with who was constantly moaning about looking fat and being on a diet and telling everybody whether or not she'd been "good" today or not, etc etc yawn yawn, yet if anybody tried to be helpful when they saw her scarfing down a cake 5 minutes after a large lunch, she'd bite their head off.

Helpful?

She's already eating it, can't turn back time. She knows she's on a diet, she knows the cake isn't healthy, she's decided to eat it anyway. How is pointing out all the stuff she already knows helpful?

floss2

heartbreak_star wrote: »

... over the past few days I've eked out a box of apple Pop-Tarts that I bought on cheap from Asda - at 200cal a pastry it's scary! ...

... I do eat healthily most of the time, the Pop-Tarts are a treat, not a staple, and I've budgeted for them calorie-wise.....

custardy wrote: »

If you want to eat them,fine
however don't hide behind "they are only 200cals"
they are 200 cals of empty calories
If you are serious on losing weight then theres far better treats to have

AFAIAW the OP is not eating them all the time and has taken into account that they are "empty" calories