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downsizer3

I'm a single mum of one and can only say not to worry about holidays, just you and the wee one.
I've done it for a few years now and we have a great time, camping or visiting friends - it does help to have another adult around for grown up chat ( and wine after their bed time ) but if its just that your OH is a workaholic - don't let that stop you having a good time!

threemuttleys

I think I need to have a chat with the OH when DS has gone to bed. I am going to try and remain calm...but I am feeling very worried about this ;-(

art_for_arts_sake

My OH tends to have some pretty strange holiday dates allocated so it's sometimes easier to have separate holidays - give it a try. Far from being the kiss of death to a relationship, it can sometimes do the world of good too. We have taken turns going away with the DS and to be honest the break from each other did us both good, sometimes you can tend to take each other for granted.

sweetilemon

Didn't want to read and run just thought i'd say goodluck with the chat. It could be an underlying problem but it could be just he doesn't realise what a big deal this is to you. It may be he doesn't want to take time off as this will irritate his employer and he needs the money to support his family? I know this shouldn't need to be a worry as he is entitaled to leave but it doesnt mean its not. Sometimes it just doesn't cross peoples mind that although its not solid holiday plans its just as nice to relax with loved ones at home as it is away on holiday.

System

Back in 2007 hubby bought a brand new 26ft caravan with all the mod cons for us to site near the beach and take our dogs on holiday.

The caravan hasnt been taken off the site more than once and we dont have the car to tow it now and if we have used it twice a year since he bought it for a long weekend thats as much as its been used.

When he is working he cant get the time off work. When he's unemployed he cant afford to use it.

Its a gorgeous caravan but its been a total financial distaster.

barbiedoll

Maybe he's just not keen on doing "toddler" days out? To be fair, taking toddlers anywhere is a bit of a trial and lots of people, (not just men) aren't very interested in zoos, playparks and kiddie stuff. And if he's at home with your child at weekends whilst you're at work, he may just want a break from the baby.
I'm not saying that he's in the right but I know how men can be.

When my kid was a toddler, I used to go on the cheapy "£9.50 Sun Holidays" at a caravan park with my mate and her two kids. We'd take a load of food, bags of toys and a large bottle of gin and we'd all have a whale of a time. OH would appreciate the break from us and we from him. And it was always nice to come home again!

Don't rely on him for your enjoyment, do your days out without him. If he sees that you are having a good time without him, he may realise what he's missing. But do insist that you have at least a couple of days off together, even if it's at Christmas. I don't see why you shouldn't have a bit of a break too!

maman

After Friday, any chance you could get away for a few days to family or friends?

amyloofoo

I hope things went well Muttleys, thinking of you. It can't be easy to keep things relaxed when you're angry, but I hope things were better than expected and your OH appreciated your point of view.

Amy xx

Sambucus_Nigra

Judi wrote: »

When he is working he cant get the time off work. When he's unemployed he cant afford to use it.

He is entitled by law to 5.6 weeks holiday each year. So why isn't he taking it?

threemuttleys

well...apparently I am over reacting :-{ Didnt "get" why I was upset over us not having the whole 10days together

He has "hopefully" got two days off next week...whether that happens is anyones guess.

I have made the planner for Alex and I, and I will be doing as much of the things that we have on the list as possible. If he chooses to come then cool, if not we can go puddle jumping on our own.

I am going to do as suggested by some of you wonderful people, and book some holidays next year (just been googling,Caravan hollies early 2013 for £60 cant be bad) and then will keep a tab on the Sun Holidays. If he chooses to book time off or not is his business I shall go away with DS.

I did say to him last night, that I "get" that he has DS every weekend, but I also have him on my days off. I just dont have the option of being able to drive here there and everywhere.

Thank you all for your help xx BTW...is Cener Parcs worth the money?