Still living at home and redundancy pay?

Loanranger

2.5% and he does do his own washing

Amanda65

janninew wrote: »

She has emotional ties to the house though which make it difficult, her children were all born at home and her husband passed away at home.

Another 'no' vote here for handing over the money. What has also rung alarm bells is that he has siblings so how would that work, heaven forbid, if anything happened to her in the near future? The 25% would become part of her estate and be split between anyone who was a beneficiary to her will.

I think it sounds as though she has relied very heavily on her son and although up until now it has been a mutually beneficial and from what you say happy co-habiting arrangement it may be time for him to move on. Having said that, he will find it difficult to get a mortgage / rent somewhere until he is back in work! What do his siblings think? Could one of them not have a word and try and let her see how unreasonable she is being?

londonsurrey

Amanda65 wrote: »

Having said that, he will find it difficult to get a mortgage / rent somewhere until he is back in work!

He helps around the house and pays his way - have you not seen the bidding war for him?

Amanda65

londonsurrey wrote: »

He helps around the house and pays his way - have you not seen the bidding war for him?

Haha - assumed he might not want to move in with a stranger from MSE, but who knows

And was going to throw in 5% but had already been outbid before I could post :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Bigmoney2

He should tell her that JC+ have told him he's not allowed to give away his redundancy as he is meant to live off it till he gets another job, and no-one knows how long that will take or how well payed it will be.

Infact maybe he should look for a live-in house keepers job, or start charging mum an hourly rate for the jobs he does.
Seriously though maybe he should think about cutting the apron strings and look for job some distance away.

*max*

1.5% and I'll teach him French in the nude.

janninew

Loanranger wrote: »

He really needs to get out from under his domineering mother and make a life for himself.
How old is he? Edited: Sorry, I can see he is late 20s

I think the way things are heading is going to result in him moving out, he's very sociable with plenty of mates to house share with. I know he feels torn though as mum couldn't afford to run the house without his contribution.

He's 29 by the way.

BitterAndTwisted

Someone needs to remind his mother that his redundancy money is not a windfall or a ruddy lottery win. Perhaps he should tell her that once he secures another full-time permanent role at a similar salary he'll think about it.

His mother sounds straight out of the same mould as one of my grannys.

Fire_Fox

He can't just give it away, DWP will want to know where it has gone. Time to move out: nobody should live at home after 25 unless it's temporary/ emergency, their parent has care needs or the like. By 30 it's getting creepy, he will be a singleton forever if he doesn't escape mummy's clutches.

janninew

Fire_Fox wrote: »

He can't just give it away, DWP will want to know where it has gone. Time to move out: nobody should live at home after 25 unless it's temporary/ emergency, their parent has care needs or the like. By 30 it's getting creepy, he will be a singleton forever if he doesn't escape mummy's clutches.

Sorry what do you mean the dwp will want to know where its gone?