Still living at home and redundancy pay?

tea_lover

janninew wrote: »

He's great round the house, spends Sat morning cleaning the house (will make an excellent husband!) Mum does the cooking as she enjoys it, yet he will clean the cars and sort the garden, they both do an even share. He does his own washing as she tends to ruin clothes by putting them on a very hot wash then sticking them in the tumble dryer for house!

He can move in with me for just 10% of his redundancy pay .

janninew

tea_lover wrote: »

Has she said what the 25% is for? Is it something specific or does she just want some security?

She hasn't said what its for, nothing in particular.

I found it a little strange to be honest, when we were discussing it on Saturday night he told me when he was a kid, him and his siblings had to pay 25% out of their paper rounds wages to Mum and Dad, this was when their were around 13 years old!

I had a Saturday job at the same age and my parents didn't take anything off me!

samuela66

janninew wrote: »

Thanks she is retired. I think she has a reasonable pension as she worked for the NHS. The mortgage was cleared when her husband passed away.

He pays half the bills and they take it turns every week to pay for the food shopping.

If an item in the house needs replacing they also split the cost. I know they bought a Dyson Ball a couple of weeks ago and they paid 50/50.

TBH I think that she is being a bit greedy and selfish:(, and she would soon feel the pinch if he did move out!!!

samuela66

tea_lover wrote: »

He can move in with me for just 10% of his redundancy pay .

I'll do it for 9% :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

spike241

If he will still be paying his share of the bills then no chance.
Take her out for a nice meal or something but he doesn't know how long it may take him to find another job. That money may be very useful in the future

janninew

samuela66 wrote: »

I'll do it for 9% :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Heck have we got a bidding war going on?!! He is a lovely lad though, and single!!

WestonDave

There are some people in the world who will always look at what they can get and others that will always look to give - sounds to me like "Mum" has always looked for means of improving her lot even if that's the kids pocket money. She's having a laugh and if she doesn't get a grip she's going to end up living alone in a house that she can't afford or emotionally blackmailing her own son to prevent that. Either way not the actions of a reasonable parent - on the basis of the information given!

londonsurrey

Unless there are major expenditures upcoming on the house, it sounds like she's fallen into a habit of treating him as a semi-substitute husband, whom she would ask for this kind of money.

She should take a look at more independent means of raising this kind of spending money. Does she own the house?

janninew

WestonDave wrote: »

There are some people in the world who will always look at what they can get and others that will always look to give - sounds to me like "Mum" has always looked for means of improving her lot even if that's the kids pocket money. She's having a laugh and if she doesn't get a grip she's going to end up living alone in a house that she can't afford or emotionally blackmailing her own son to prevent that. Either way not the actions of a reasonable parent - on the basis of the information given!

These are my own thoughts as well. She is always very nice to me, but when I hear about some of the demands placed on her children I'm a little shocked. She is the type of lady that has to be right and is never in the wrong - very frustrating! She really needs to sell her house, its 4 bedrooms and to big for her needs, but her husband built it so I can understand her reluctance to. Difficult situation really and I have a feeling its going to come to a head very soon.

londonsurrey

PS 8% from me.