Can I claim any benefits if husband wont support me

princessdon

She has to "leave him" if she wants benefits. In otherwords they need to separate, separate bills, separate lives etc.

Living together and proving you are not a couple is always an uphil struggle (as it should be as otherwise open to abuse).

First step is legal separation - removing joint PR - informing the schools (yes they DO contact schools sometimes to ask) and gaining back some independence.

Once she has this and I say IF (and I think they only pay out for a short time if living together - as they expect it to be a temporary situation), the she needs to look at getting herself back on herf feet and confidence back

Can she go out to work and buy him out? Is she likely to lose the family home when they divorce?

Any financial ties betweeen them will always impact her benefits.

BigAunty

I'm sure that I've seen threads in this forum where a claimant has lived in the same property as their ex and still managed to claim benefits and/or tax credits. I could be wrong. Certainly I can't see why it would be easy to get them.

faerie~spangles

Presumably you daughter has access to the child benefit?

Has she incurred debts that you know nothing of?

Does she need a car or think she's entitled to have one. More to the point can they actually afford to run two cars?

Her wanting to stay in the family home and the reality of her being able to afford to are miles apart.

It seems odd that suddenly after only two years since they got wed this has reared its ugly head.

Why did she marry him if he was always such a tight wad towards her?

Are they paying off the cost of a lavish wedding?

princessdon

BigAunty wrote: »

I'm sure that I've seen threads in this forum where a claimant has lived in the same property as their ex and still managed to claim benefits and/or tax credits. I could be wrong. Certainly I can't see why it would be easy to get them.

I think you have to show separate lives - which in THIS instance will be hard. From what OP has said I assume all bills in his name and that due to the element of control gaining evidence may be harder. How can you show you are separated if all bills are in their name?

MONEYMAKINGMUM

Though neither of them in the relationship may recognise their behaviour as abusive it is always easier to see from the outside looking in. Control and saying or doing anything so one person is constantly controlling the other (emotionally/financially/physically etc) is what makes it different from a relationship 'blip' and a pattern of behaviour which is unlikely to change.
Please look at the links the previous posters have put on this thread. Your daughter is not the first person to realise the situation cannot continue and something must change.
May I recommend 'The Freedom Programme' to liberate her mind from the residual brainwashing. (Living with the dominator is a book that accompanies TFP)

princessdon

MONEYMAKINGMUM wrote: »

Though neither of them in the relationship may recognise their behaviour as abusive it is always easier to see from the outside looking in. Control and saying or doing anything so one person is constantly controlling the other (emotionally/financially/physically etc) is what makes it different from a relationship 'blip' and a pattern of behaviour which is unlikely to change.
Please look at the links the previous posters have put on this thread. Your daughter is not the first person to realise the situation cannot continue and something must change.
May I recommend 'The Freedom Programme' to liberate her mind from the residual brainwashing. (Living with the dominator is a book that accompanies TFP)

I teach the FP and until OP's daughter is ready to acknowledge control (if indeed it is there - as it may be a case of an OH who isn't aware as opposed to EA), it's not worth attending - more beneficial when they come to that realisation.

PippaGirl_2

The atmosphere in the home will be toxic for the children right now. I would advise talking to Womens Aid and perhaps considering moving in to a refuge while the court case continues to gain occupancy of the house which will force him out. When I was in the refuge both of the other women in my house were successful in court forcing the man out so they could move back in. So moving out does not mean she will lose the house. Unfortunately though all this needs to happen at her pace and when she has got the strength to do so, it took me 19 years but I wish I had done it sooner as I have very damaged children.

sniggings

cattysmum wrote: »

Her number one priority is the children that is why she wont leave the home she has lived in and raised the children in.

no her number one priority seems to be not to be kicked out of the house and who is to say she is going to get to keep the kids.

If you think living in a house where the husband is abusing the wife, that it's good for the kids , then you are not fit to be giving advice.

princessdon

Can I just re-iterate that the OH is getting a hard ride right now. Who knows if they are aware of how their wife feels! Many workers (male or female) will be the breadwinner and budget holder and are not psychic as to the needs or their partner.

It's almost trial by abusive partner. An innocence as to how their share money is not emotional abuse!

helpfulperson

The DWP can treat people as separated for benefits purposes even if they are still living in the same house. So can the HMRC for tax credits. They may need a bit of convincing. Your daughter's local Citizens Advice Bureau can help her out with that, and will probably be better at it than a solicitor (see http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/index/getadvice.htm to find out where they are).

Your daughter should try to stay in the house, if possible. Information on housing rights can be found here - http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/relationships_relationship_problems_e/ending_a_marriage.htm#housing_rights_at_the_end_of_a_marriage
She will definitely need a solicitor to help with that.