Can I claim any benefits if husband wont support me

la_farfallina

Have a read around this site....https://www.terry.co.uk it is a solicitor that specializes in divorce. It also has a free forum where you can register and ask questions.
I don't think it will help with the benefits aspect but you will get lots of info on divorce matters.

Farf x

McKneff

Reassure this is not her fault.

He is just a pig, simple as that.

Poppie68

I think you are right not to go in (yet) all guns blazing, gather information first and get help in place...then go in and tell him what a low life piece of scum he is.
I really hope it gets sorted for your daughter soon and you find some peace of mind. Good luck

[Deleted User]

I think it's important to confirm that the "mental abuse" has stopped. If they are no longer in a relationship then we cannot expect them to share the finances (currently).

There is lots of opinion about the abuse, "cutting off her money", but did this happen before they split or only after. Of course after then this is not abuse, if it were before then I can fully appreciate what is being said.

Clearly there has been a lot of wrong in this case, but as long as this person pays for the children and shares what must now be shared, then I suppose the situation has been resolved.

If they were still together in a relationship then of course things would be very different.

I heard of someone yesterday in the same situation, the problem was that the person earning didn't pay the mortage and I don't know what will happen because it's going to take some time to sort out the situation, will the bank take back the house in the meantime? Just a concern I would have ....

A lot of people have said I would do or say this, but I'm sure your daughter will need someone to ensure that the children can be handed over without any upset, when they visit the father and so on. I don't think opinions really help, there have been some really horrid situations cause by people making a bad situation very worse.

xylophone

Is she going to file for divorce?
If so, then she will need to see a solicitor so that an appropriate financial settlement can be made?
http://www.lawdonut.co.uk/law/personal-law/cohabitation-separation-and-divorce/divorce-and-separation-financial-matters-30-faqs

sniggings

sorry but she is just as much to blame for this as him, there are kids involved here and for her to say I'm not leaving because it's my house too hardly supports she is being abused.

She needs to leave the home or have him leave with a court order, for the kids sakes.

I might sound harsh but I consider the kids in these situations not the fighting adults.

robpw2

sniggings wrote: »

sorry but she is just as much to blame for this as him, there are kids involved here and for her to say I'm not leaving because it's my house too hardly supports she is being abused.

She needs to leave the home or have him leave with a court order, for the kids sakes.

I might sound harsh but I consider the kids in these situations not the fighting adults.

she probbay in all honesty does not know she is being mentally abused, or
she will be made to feel that she must stay for the children and that the worry of how she will cope without him is far bigger then you can imagine. she has probably been made to feel like she is worthless that she is nothing without him. ( i have seen this happen ) its often not big things that are really obvious its small things over a number of years, its the clevelrly timed comment here and there but whatever is said it is always made to be the fault of the victim and never the perputrators fault.

you clearly have no understanding of what domestic abuse can do to a person and how much it affects someone . Yes its easier for us to say life would be so mch better for her if she left him but she won't see it no matter how much you tell her.


As for the op , i feel for you, you need to help your daughter get the courage to move , and to move on , You need to show her that she is worth everything.

robpw2

assj wrote: »

I think it's important to confirm that the "mental abuse" has stopped. If they are no longer in a relationship then we cannot expect them to share the finances (currently).

There is lots of opinion about the abuse, "cutting off her money", but did this happen before they split or only after. Of course after then this is not abuse, if it were before then I can fully appreciate what is being said.

Clearly there has been a lot of wrong in this case, but as long as this person pays for the children and shares what must now be shared, then I suppose the situation has been resolved.

If they were still together in a relationship then of course things would be very different.

I heard of someone yesterday in the same situation, the problem was that the person earning didn't pay the mortage and I don't know what will happen because it's going to take some time to sort out the situation, will the bank take back the house in the meantime? Just a concern I would have ....

A lot of people have said I would do or say this, but I'm sure your daughter will need someone to ensure that the children can be handed over without any upset, when they visit the father and so on. I don't think opinions really help, there have been some really horrid situations cause by people making a bad situation very worse.

He won't have stopped his mental abuse just because they may not be currently in a relationship together and it still domestic abuse if they are living under the same roof.

cattysmum

sniggings wrote: »

sorry but she is just as much to blame for this as him, there are kids involved here and for her to say I'm not leaving because it's my house too hardly supports she is being abused.

She needs to leave the home or have him leave with a court order, for the kids sakes.

I might sound harsh but I consider the kids in these situations not the fighting adults.

Her number one priority is the children that is why she wont leave the home she has lived in and raised the children in.

xylophone

Her number one priority is the children that is why she wont leave the home she has lived in and raised the children in.

Then see a solicitor?