whose fault, me or my freinds?

valk_scot

Well, you're lucky, your DD could have been halfway out the car with her legs in front of the door and been hurt. At nine she should know better tbh and I hope you gave her a major rollicking. A bump on your car is a far better option than two compound fractures of the legs which is what happened to the son of a friend of mine in much the same circumstances.

As to who is to blame it's careless driving on one side and careless child control on the other so I would thank your lucky stars and accept responsibility for half the damage costs. See if your friend's OH can assist with repairs otherwise get a quote for your own repair and see if it's worth claiming on the insurance.