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The 2 working parent family
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im not criticising, and each to their own, but would it not be better to work part time and look after your child during the day instead of someone else doing it? surely the marginal difference, if it is marginal, could be covered by a part time wage? then go back to full time when the child is at school/older
Thats part of my original query really
Better for whom? Maybe the parent doesn't want to be a full-time carer.0 -
Better for whom? Maybe the parent doesn't want to be a full-time carer.
Hmm, parents that dont want to look after their children
im not really sure what to say to this to be honest. I suppose it answers a few questions though about the general state of the country, not just the economy
could you explain further about parents that only want to look after their children on a part time basis?0 -
Hmm, parents that dont want to look after their children
im not really sure what to say to this to be honest. I suppose it answers a few questions though about the general state of the country, not just the economy
could you explain further about parents that only want to look after their children on a part time basis?
Plenty of parents look after their children part-time - if you have a family with one parent working, that parent is not looking after the child full-time, even if they are there at night to read them a bed-time story. Provided the children are happy and healthy, I'm not willing to criticise the parents solely for having a full-time job.
It's not about not wanting to look after your child, it's about not wanting it to be the only thing you do.0 -
loim not criticising, and each to their own, but would it not be better to work part time and look after your child during the day instead of someone else doing it? surely the marginal difference, if it is marginal, could be covered by a part time wage? then go back to full time when the child is at school/older
Thats part of my original query really
That depends what you do, how much you earn, and whether part time work is available in your line of work.I think the bit you miss there is this:
If you get off the career ladder for a while then you leave yourself at a huge disadvantage. It shouldn't be that but it is and any woman that doesn't realise that is unlikely to prosper in the corporate workplace.
True, in the corporate workplace. There are other careers in which a break of a few years doesn't do much harm, if any. Teaching is one such, especially if you teach a shortage subject, as I do.
It's very noticeable among the mothers I got to know when my own kids were small. We're all in our late 30s and early 40s now. There are several nurses and teachers amongst us, and we've all found decent jobs reasonably quickly and easily, part-time if we wanted them, at a similar professional level and salary to when we left a few years ago. The ones with difficulties are those who never had a "proper career" before kids, and the ones who want to change career now because their previous jobs would be too hard to get back into, or wouldn't be available part time. They find themselves having to look at NME jobs and finding the salary/childcare equation looks much tougher.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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What baffles me is the amount of people, including my friends, that both work full time, and put their child into care, at say £1k a month out of their net salary, automatically wiping out any gain from full time work. In reality, it would make more sense for one parent to take a part time role and raise their child at home, which would also free up more full time roles in the market
Just something I have been thinking about lately that I would appreciate some views on
What really baffles me is the amount of couples who choose to have children and then pass them to someone else to bring up.
Many say they need to work. Perhaps they could think about cutting back on the lifestyle, is it really necessary to run two cars? Holidays abroad etc.0 -
So why on earth did they have children?!?
My mother was a SAHM, my father worked full-time. Should he not have had kids? He was there during the holidays.
When I have children, I don't want to be a full-time SAHM either, I think I'd go spare, but I look forward to the idea of doing it part time.0 -
Judging by a lot of these post I still live in the 1980s. Have a milkman, coal fire and shop in the local butchers bakers and greengrocers with our nearest supermarket 15 miles away.
On the other point I also must have lived in a differnt world in the 80s as had a computer and tv in my bedroom. My parents had two cars and my mum worked. We also had central heating and towards the end Even a mobile phone.
Now I have on tele and my oh works part time so really must be back in the 80s. Most people are too greedy and materialistic. My favourite story was as my wife was going on maternity leave from deputy head role and lady coming back to that role from having a baby said I'm so jealous of you being able to give up work we could afford to do that even though husband was a dentist. Difference was when we found out wife was pregnant we cut back my wage was about 15k my wife's about 40k. We had a two bedroom house and new we could eat. They had the holiday of a lifetime and moved from a 4 bed house to a 5 bed house. It's all about priorities.The futures bright the future is Ginger0 -
My mother was a SAHM, my father worked full-time. Should he not have had kids? He was there during the holidays.
When I have children, I don't want to be a full-time SAHM either, I think I'd go spare, but I look forward to the idea of doing it part time.
lets just hope you have that as an option then0
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