Claiming DLA for child with ADHD

trying2staypositive

I Have been asking social services for help they say there is no funding..I Really need some support my hair is falling out,my 4 year old has been punched and kicked all day by my daughter with adhd. Not nice to see.my children are not getting enough attention because of it .Kids company in london are trying on my behalf( to get someone to take her for a couple of hours per week)...don't want my other 3 daughters resenting her....feel like i live in a war zone constant shouting,swearing,physical abuse e.t.c..........i want better for all of them, only so much i can do...but i won't give up some things got to give........CAMHS are doing what they can...........I do have an aunt who will come down at least once per week and just help out with housework cooking,or just sit with them whilst i have a bath without been disturbed...(lil angel), little things such as that make a huge difference....I am glad your daughter has you......x

seven-day-weekend

mysterywoman10 wrote: »

I'm somewhat confused by your somewhat abusive post telling parents to suck up.

People with moderate/significant LD whatever the cause require considerable amounts of extra care over and above what a "normal" child may do.

It's not a question of "sucking up". Their educational needs are nothing to do with additional care that they may require outside of education time.

My son, now 33, has mild Aspergers Syndrome (not known about as a condition when he was at school). Giving me extra money for this when he was young would not have helped in any way at all with his condition, other than there would be more in the general pot.

Having a funded qualified learning mentor for him at school, however, would have helped a lot.

I know this is just my experience. I am just pointing out that sometimes the money could be better spent than giving extra money to the parents.

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trying2staypositive wrote: »

I Have been asking social services for help they say there is no funding..I Really need some support my hair is falling out,my 4 year old has been punched and kicked all day by my daughter with adhd. Not nice to see.my children are not getting enough attention because of it .Kids company in london are trying on my behalf( to get someone to take her for a couple of hours per week)...don't want my other 3 daughters resenting her....feel like i live in a war zone constant shouting,swearing,physical abuse e.t.c..........i want better for all of them, only so much i can do...but i won't give up some things got to give........CAMHS are doing what they can...........I do have an aunt who will come down at least once per week and just help out with housework cooking,or just sit with them whilst i have a bath without been disturbed...(lil angel), little things such as that make a huge difference....I am glad your daughter has you......x

You're gonna make me cry now! .... I'm lucky to have her too - I love her company as I live on my own and I go and visit , stay over , then come home for a 'break' but as soon as am home I miss the both of them BADLY! lol

I'm glad I can help out and support her and 'fight her corner' with her as she does get exhausted and stressed and worries about my Grandsons future as well

The social services only seem to help when something ''goes wrong'' and you have serious trouble coping whereas if they gave support when asked for things possibly would not have got bad in the first place! ... It does all boil down to funding but it is about peoples LIVES here and the family network as a whole , that said there is limited support available anyway which is worrying!!

About extra funding not helping , it comes in handy for ALL sorts of things , classes for LO to give Mum a break or a chance to chat to other Mums , cab fares as my Grandson REFUSES to go anywhere now ( and it is not naughtiness lol , he just can't deal with it any more ) whereas in a car he is absolutely fine although we do have trouble getting him out of the car , baby wipes as he is still in nappies , stair gates , window locks , specially suited toys and IT stuff , a special needs buggy is needed now with no chance of even hiring one in our area let one getting one for free and the list goes on! x

bestpud

I fully appreciate the problems for children and families and with ADHD but overuse of the label (officially and just from parents who don't know how to parent their exuberant child) has caused the general public to view it negatively.

The damage works to undermine the efforts of those struggling to bring up very disruptive children.

However, the ones on the more invisible end of the scale are also affected. Not all children with ADHD are running round like headless chickens and generally being a pain the the rear. Girls especially can have huge problems but manage to contain them to a point.

That said, I don't think DLA is helpful to all families. Being in the background can sand does impact on the way parents view their child and how they manage their behaviour too.

trying2staypositive

my daughter who has the adhd is 7 nearly 8, i have 3 other daughters who are ok and normal, To help myself and daughter i have taken part in the parent child game, a course with the maudsley to help me deal not only with the child with adhd and conduct disorder but with dealing with the other's when she kicks off. i know not all children with adhd are like my one..my parenting is very good and i often get complimented about it i have done many other parenting courses and to help restrain her correctly..They were so impressed by me they are using our sessions which were all recorded for training!....i will do anything for my children to have a positive up bringing..and to be honest at first i thought i may have been doing something wrong, i do my very best and my best is all i can do and any chance of making improvements i will look into.......after all i am setting my children up to go out into the big world to be positive,independent and confident people.......thats my job as their mother....i feel many are quick to judge and criticize..not all people are the same....who feels it knows it!! just saying:j

trying2staypositive

keep strong xxx

bigboybrother

No wonder I am confused with this post. I just couldn't work out what the OP had to do with the current discussion, and then I realised that some dozy.... has tagged on to the end of a post started 6 years ago!!!

LunaLady

bigboybrother wrote: »

No wonder I am confused with this post. I just couldn't work out what the OP had to do with the current discussion, and then I realised that some dozy.... has tagged on to the end of a post started 6 years ago!!!

You were probably confused that you had read the OP when you were another of you alter ego's and you were getting a sense of deja vu.

LunaLady

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

My son, now 33, has mild Aspergers Syndrome (not known about as a condition when he was at school). Giving me extra money for this when he was young would not have helped in any way at all with his condition, other than there would be more in the general pot.

Having a funded qualified learning mentor for him at school, however, would have helped a lot.

I know this is just my experience. I am just pointing out that sometimes the money could be better spent than giving extra money to the parents.

Sometimes I agree with this, although I dont know if you can equate mild AS with severe ADHD.

I always say that I would give my DS's DLA back if the support service we needed were provided adequately. For example we have had to use it for private OT because there is none available in our area due to cuts.We have also used a private SALT and private Ed Psych as well as other private therapies to try and help him develop.

Then there is the childcare issue, but I will stop now before I bore you all and I cry :rotfl:

bigboybrother

LunaLady wrote: »

You were probably confused that you had read the OP when you were another of you alter ego's and you were getting a sense of deja vu.

??????????????????? Has something been added to the drinking water with all of these rather strange comments from posters about me?