Claiming DLA for child with ADHD

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tori.k wrote: »

But ADHD is a behavioural disorder sometimes linked to Learning disabilities (high or low fuctioning) It is not an illness, These kids see life thru different eyes and some have a very black and white take on life, putting them thru the process to claim DLA (unless there are severe learning disability) does more harm then good in my eyes your just reinforcing the idea that they are ill not different.
I can inmagine it would be most confusing for a child to grow up being told there ill their whole life just to find once they become an adult things like ADHD aren't considered really an issue and the'd better man up. DLA money given to children with ADHD and high function spectrum disorders would be better spent putting a qualified child psychologist in school's offering coping methods then given to parent's because junior is unable to control his emotions and tossed his telly down the stairs, sometimes as parent's that is our issue to suck up.

But it is a disability ( not an illness ) and the benefit being discussed is called Disability Living Allowance so it makes perfect sense

mysterywoman10

CaF may give you some help and support on filling out the form for the DLA. They may also be able to put you in touch with other parents in the area for mutual help and support.

I hope you manage to get the support and help you need.

trying2staypositive

My daughter has adhd she is 7, she has tried to drown her 4 year old sister in the bath (that could have been fatal), yes i was right there having to restrain her it was a split second, i was reaching over her to get the soap so,not neglect...i think you should live my life for just 1 day.....you will probably only last a few hours!! I have 3 other children too.my daughter with adhd has no sense of danger she has night terrors..has left my home a number of times during the night,so now i have to key lock us all in!!.....her dla i a,m appealing as they say she is not a danger dispite all evidence all i can say is come and see for yourself.............

mysterywoman10

If it helps I know many parents that get DLA for a badly affected ADHD child. It's a wide spectrum and it is a question of demonstrating how the child is affected and how that means they need a significant amount of extra care.

This guide is quite helpful

http://www.cerebra.org.uk/English/getinformation/publications/Pages/DLAGuide.aspx

Nada666

Gosh. Fancy having to lock the front door. How terrible.

My parents weep with frustration and regret when reading these threads - if such funds were available when I were a child they would be laughing all the way to the post office then staggering all the way home from the boozer.

mysterywoman10

tori.k wrote: »

But ADHD is a behavioural disorder sometimes linked to Learning disabilities (high or low fuctioning) It is not an illness, These kids see life thru different eyes and some have a very black and white take on life, putting them thru the process to claim DLA (unless there are severe learning disability) does more harm then good in my eyes your just reinforcing the idea that they are ill not different.
I can inmagine it would be most confusing for a child to grow up being told there ill their whole life just to find once they become an adult things like ADHD aren't considered really an issue and the'd better man up. DLA money given to children with ADHD and high function spectrum disorders would be better spent putting a qualified child psychologist in school's offering coping methods then given to parent's because junior is unable to control his emotions and tossed his telly down the stairs, sometimes as parent's that is our issue to suck up.

I'm somewhat confused by your somewhat abusive post telling parents to suck up.

People with moderate/significant LD whatever the cause require considerable amounts of extra care over and above what a "normal" child may do.

It's not a question of "sucking up". Their educational needs are nothing to do with additional care that they may require outside of education time.

trying2staypositive

It's very important that the money gets used to help benefit the child,my daughter was doing horse riding partly funded by dla and a charity,this has now stopped it also helped to buy art materials such as paint, not to mention pay for the damage she has done not only to her room but to other peoples properties, i don't drive so the money helps towards train journeys some days i would get the children and just travel around and doing as many activities as possible to keep her stimulated and tire her out!! Just so it stops her hitting us,smashing up our home and constantly hitting her sisters..what i could really do with is some respite but no one will have her!! It's hard she dosent have many friends and now i am at home,had to drop my studies and it can be lonley. ,my neighbours are aware but my home is chaos the medciation she takes lasts for 12 hours she only takes it monday to friday as it messes with her appetite so weekends is when she can eatmore.she is more focused at school now but the night terrors disturb the whole family and i have to stay up with her so i am like a zoombie on most days............

nannytone_2

Nada666 wrote: »

Gosh. Fancy having to lock the front door. How terrible.

My parents weep with frustration and regret when reading these threads - if such funds were available when I were a child they would be laughing all the way to the post office then staggering all the way home from the boozer.

so that explains why you are the afult that you are .......you didnt get the necessary help as a child.

there is adult therapy available though ....

ComeTheRevolution

ADHD: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

A neurological disability often inherited.

Children find it difficult to concentrate, focus, absorb instructions and think before acting or speaking.

Adolescents have the additional problem of revision for exams.

Adults tend to be chaotic, forgetful and veer towards depression (that's the bi polar link).

They are still learning about ADHD but it is recognised as a disability and as such DLA may be claimed to relieve some of the problems, not least safety issues due to concentration.

It is not an excuse for bad behaviour, has nothing to do with 'hoodies' and is extremely distressing for a child who cannot understand why they keep getting themselves into trouble.

'Before every lesson I remember to be quiet and not do anything stupid so I can't understand why I always forget.' - it takes years for a child to be diagnosed during which time the child is in their own personal hell while the parents are accused of all sorts. They may find medication with manageable side effects that they lose when turning 16 - just in time for GCSEs.

Then there is the stigma due to people believing it is 'just a behavioural problem', due to bad parenting, an excuse, etc.

ADHD is invisible and involves a lot of assessment before a diagnosis is made. Often the diagnosis is only affirmed when medication that stimulates the part of the brain that is under performing is seen to work.

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trying2staypositive wrote: »

It's very important that the money gets used to help benefit the child,my daughter was doing horse riding partly funded by dla and a charity,this has now stopped it also helped to buy art materials such as paint, not to mention pay for the damage she has done not only to her room but to other peoples properties, i don't drive so the money helps towards train journeys some days i would get the children and just travel around and doing as many activities as possible to keep her stimulated and tire her out!! Just so it stops her hitting us,smashing up our home and constantly hitting her sisters..what i could really do with is some respite but no one will have her!! It's hard she dosent have many friends and now i am at home,had to drop my studies and it can be lonley. ,my neighbours are aware but my home is chaos the medciation she takes lasts for 12 hours she only takes it monday to friday as it messes with her appetite so weekends is when she can eatmore.she is more focused at school now but the night terrors disturb the whole family and i have to stay up with her so i am like a zoombie on most days............

You NEED some respite ASAP!!!

Do you have a social worker??? ... If not DEMAND ONE as it is in the best interests of the whole family for you to get some adequate respite...

Would ANY family members have her occasionally at least???

Have you had any sort of family holiday or break on your own??

These things are IMPORTANT , believe me .... When I was unable to have my Grandson due to personal circumstances my daughter started finding it EXTREMELY difficult to cope ... She already finds it very difficult but with me not around to help out it took it's toll as she was not getting a break at all & he IS exhausting , bless him!!

So I had to get myself back on the scene as fast as humanly possible for my daughters sake , my sake ( I was missing him like hell ) and his own sake too as 2 is always better than one and even THEN it is hard but you must try and get adequate support or at least ''nearly'' adequate support as sometimes I feel there is just not enough out there but will be doing more ''seeking'' myself as a support NETWORK is always the best even though I am there for her as much as I can be xx