bullying dilema.

Saint_Chris

My 6 year old grandson is being bullied at school, he's only been back a week and the lad has got him a few times, he hits, kicks and spits at my grandson, and has threatened him, that if he tells his teacher he will do it worse.

Now this isn't my problem, wrong it is, and my daughter and s-i-l are sorting it, so called.................never was sorted last year though, with the school.

Now my problem is i have a group of good friends, and on a sat we all go to the local social club, but the young lad who is bullying my granson, is the great grandson of a friend of mine who will be out tomorrow, and the nephew of the bar lad, i like these people.
but the way i feel now, i think it would be best for me not to go out tomorrow, hubby says i should go and let school sort it.
But after seeing my grandson upset today, it tugs at my heart strings, and after a few vodkas i know i wouldn't be able to hold my own.

Would you be able to go out tomorrow, or would you stay away?

CH27

I would go. I would hold my head up & keep my gob firmly shut.

Barneysmom

Go, it's not their fault the boy is a rascal. Do they even know what's been going on?

Saint_Chris

thanks
no they don't know what's been going on.
It's just i know me, and it's playing on my mind, and all night i would be looking at him, and wondering if they know there grandchild is a bully.

Yorkie1

If you don't have the self-discipline to be able to avoid stirring it once you've had a few vodkas, then you either have to exclude yourself or drink less.

You will not contribute anything useful to the resolution of the bullying (which isn't nice, I know) by speaking to them as you might wish to do.

jm2926

Yorkie1 wrote: »

If you won't be able to avoid stirring it once you've had a few vodkas, then you either have to exclude yourself or drink less.

You will not contribute anything useful to the resolution of the bullying (which isn't nice, I know) by speaking to them as you might wish to do.

Exactly my thoughts

mrs_sparrow

The problem is that the school may not be sorting it and these people might not even know. ETA _ Already answered. I would go and say nothing. Yes it is hard but this is not their fault, they are not the parents of this horrible child.

It's hard to know what to do for the best. I am going through the same thing at the moment but my friends son will actually bully my kids while we are there - if he is with me I will tell him to stop but wait for my friend to tell her son when together - but it goes on and on before she says anything. I am getting a bit tired of it now, she tells him off but it still continues - short of not seeing her anymore, I am not sure what to do. My daughter said he made her cry today. While I like her as a friend I do not like her son. He twists and turns things to make it look like he is being picked on but actually it is him doing the picking. And then he cries when the other kids do not want to play with him.

Sorry to hijack, kind of just wanted you to know you are not alone in this. Not that it helps much as I do not know what to do either, other than to stop seeing my friend. Sorry.

warehouse

Barneysmom wrote: »

Go, it's not their fault the boy is a rascal. Do they even know what's been going on?

A rascal? Bullies ruin lives, they're little bas*ards, not rascals. Other than that I agree with you.

If the school haven't nipped this in the bud already then I'd be seriously concerned OP. Tell your daughter to get serious with the school and stop !!!!!footing around.

nuttybabe

mrs_sparrow wrote: »

The problem is that the school may not be sorting it and these people might not even know. ETA _ Already answered. I would go and say nothing. Yes it is hard but this is not their fault, they are not the parents of this horrible child.

It's hard to know what to do for the best. I am going through the same thing at the moment but my friends son will actually bully my kids while we are there - if he is with me I will tell him to stop but wait for my friend to tell her son when together - but it goes on and on before she says anything. I am getting a bit tired of it now, she tells him off but it still continues - short of not seeing her anymore, I am not sure what to do. My daughter said he made her cry today. While I like her as a friend I do not like her son. He twists and turns things to make it look like he is being picked on but actually it is him doing the picking. And then he cries when the other kids do not want to play with him.

Sorry to hijack, kind of just wanted you to know you are not alone in this. Not that it helps much as I do not know what to do either, other than to stop seeing my friend. Sorry.

i had the same thing a while ago. in the end i used to tell the child to stop doing it or they would be leaving my house, the mum did nothing :mad:. luckily we dont see them now and they moved schools.

OP - go, enjoy yourself, try not to say anything. sounds like your daughter is getting it sorted with the school,she just needs to keep on at them to make sure its done.

Saint_Chris

I kept quiet last year, when it was going on.

(when i say him, i mean his grandad, his grandma died 18 months ago), we've been friends for 15 years.

But now i want him to know what a bully of a great-grandson he has, i want him to feel the pain i feel when, my grandson cries on my knee, because he doesn't want to go to school, and he tells you what this child (sorry animal) does to him.

There's a meeting at school on tuesday morning, with parents, head teacher and govenor. But till after this meeting, we've been advised to keep our grandson off school.

mrs_sparrow

nuttybabe wrote: »

i had the same thing a while ago. in the end i used to tell the child to stop doing it or they would be leaving my house, the mum did nothing :mad:. luckily we dont see them now and they moved schools.

OP - go, enjoy yourself, try not to say anything. sounds like your daughter is getting it sorted with the school,she just needs to keep on at them to make sure its done.

Thanks and sorry to hijack OP. I fear this is going to follow us for a long time yet though, friends or not..... he is going to end up at the same high school.