Suitable punishment for eldest son...

heartbreak_star

My mum always says it's stories like this that made her thankful for me. I was noisy, grumpy, messy, awkward...but I loved her and she always knew where I was and who I was with.

We also had adult negotiations... at 16 - "Mum, I'd like to go to a karaoke night on Thursdays. It's in a pub, the King's Head." Mum - "What about homework, and who are you going with?" Me - "Going with X, Y, and Z, and I won't be drinking, I just like karaoke. All my work will be done before I go - you can check. I'll get a taxi home, be in by 10, and I'll come in half an hour early every other night." Mum - *rings X/Y/Z's parents to confirm* "No problem, but you know what'll happen if you break this agreement."

I never did break it - the year before I'd come in half an hour late after telling my mum I was going to X's house. We never thought to tell our parents we were going to the beach and they were frantic. I lost my games console for a week and was grounded for the same time.

I knew where my boundaries were and the punishments - OP, I think that's what you're going to have to reinforce, but I also communicated openly and honestly with my parents and I think this is what you have to encourage.

Good luck - teens are 'orrible little oiks sometimes.

HBS x

DVardysShadow

danlojo wrote: »

Give him a copy of this :

My promise to my children.

I am not your friend.
I am your mum.
I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare & hunt you down like a bloodhound when needed because I LOVE YOU!
When you understand that, I will know you are a responsible adult. You will NEVER find someone who loves, prays, cares and worries about you more than I do!

My reaction wearing the goggles of a 14 year old: Puke! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

The sentiment is fair enough to express to a mother. It is an OK card for a mother to hang up and maintain a bit of inspiration from. But you only give that to your kids if you want them to run away and join a circus.

danlojo

It was said in jest.

I'm fortunate that my son who is also 14 hardly goes out. I moan constantly that he should be making new friends and going out but now when I see this I'm actually quite thankful that he stays in.


Ranting and raving gets you no where as my son takes more notice of me when I 'talk' to him than his dad who goes off the handle

globetraveller

DVardysShadow wrote: »

My reaction wearing the goggles of a 14 year old: Puke! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

The sentiment is fair enough to express to a mother. It is an OK card for a mother to hang up and maintain a bit of inspiration from. But you only give that to your kids if you want them to run away and join a circus.

Have to agree with you.

danlojo

It was a joke................can you not read my reply...........jeez

globetraveller

actually- as a punishment you could enter it on his facebook page:rotfl:

DVardysShadow

globetraveller wrote: »

actually- as a punishment you could enter it on his facebook page:rotfl:

I think there is something in that. Probably the threat would be enough ....