Will you be calling MIL2B and FIL2B 'mum and dad'?

PolishBigSpender

BugglyB wrote: »

As above, just been suggested to me by mil2b, I think its lovely, what will you be doing?

It's customary here in Poland, but my husband refused to do it and is using first names towards my parents. They're okay with it.
He's an orphan, so I don't title his parents anything, but I think it would be first names as well, as apparently it is normal to do so in Scotland.

BugglyB

Wow! Looks like I'm kind of on my own here. I am kind of surprised I thought it was more common than that.

I suppose mil2b and fil2b are kind of like second parents to me as I have known them for 10 years and they have been very good to me. I have a very loving (in a grown up sort of way) relationship with them and with my own parents. I don't get the feeling that my parents feel threatened by the affection I have for my in laws.

I do feel like their house is a third home to me. OH has lots of siblings and when we are all at their house it feels natural to chime in with the 'mum and dad'.

BugglyB

johannalf88 wrote: »

That's the same for me. Its first name for his parents, but 'Grandma'! I have a granny and a nana, so grandma is ok.

We are blessed to have a gran, a nana, a granny and a nannan between us

johannalf88

Well until 2 days ago we had a granny, grandma, nana and a granny 'jones'... I will be attending my first funeral an wedding within one month!!

Yellowstar_2

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

My FIL texts me occassionally. Before the wedding he always signed off with "T...". After the wedding he started signing off with "dad". I asked DH to ask him not to do that any more as I don't like it. It's not for me, personally.

I call my MiL2Band FiL2B by their first names. And only when I have to call them anything - generally I try to avoid it (not because I don't like them) because I don't really know what to call them! When I introduced my inlaws-to-be to my parents I used everyone's first names.

As for whether any of this changes after we're married - I suppose I'll find out!

Funnily enough - My Hubby2B has had kind of the opposite of the above. His father always used to sign birthday cards, emails, etc. to my Hubby2B as "Dad", but since we got engaged he signs them with his first name instead. And these are things that are sent only Hubby2B (not to both of us). We don't know why!

double_mummy

have called MIL2B mum since i had my first LO no FIL2B to worry about lol

usually call MIL2B by her first name when she is being bad (she has been told not to pick up DS as he is too heavy for her back etc) but we are very close and she is much more like a mum to me than my own is

(and flickering the eyelashes and saying mummy generally gets me night of her babysitting for me hahahahahahahahahaha)

[Deleted User]

If people want to, and like doing so, why not? And if you don't want to, dont!

My in-laws are Nepalese and it's universal to call most people by kinship terms with first names being very rarely used, so yes, when I see my MIL & FIL I call them "Mother" & "Father". I also call my Nepali female relatives of a similar age "sister" etc etc. They even have separate terms for older/younger sister, BIL etc etc. It's rather lovely :-)

dingdongavoncalling

Just first names for us.
I think I'd cringe if I called them Mum or Dad!

daisiegg

Yellowstar wrote: »

I call my MiL2Band FiL2B by their first names. And only when I have to call them anything - generally I try to avoid it (not because I don't like them) because I don't really know what to call them! When I introduced my inlaws-to-be to my parents I used everyone's first names.
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My mum and dad have been married 25 years but I have never heard her call my dad's dad (his mum is dead) by his first name...like you she just completely avoids having to address him as anything I think! I have occasionally heard her call him 'dad' when she's shouting for him to come down for dinner or something, to get his attention, but not to his face in conversation. I think she doesn't really know what to call him (he's a bit formal and a bit of a patriarch so I don't think she'd feel comfortable calling him his first name) so has avoided the matter for 25 years!

My OH's family don't live near us so I have only met his mum a handful of times and I don't think I have ever called her anything either.

On the flip side, my mum's brother has always called his parents by their first names! Apparently it stems from the fact that he worked for his dad (my grandad) when he was a young man and didn't want to call him 'dad' in the workplace, so it just stuck!

split_second

i cant imagine anything more odd, luckily i know there is no such expectation as i will be the third son in law (2 of future mrs s.s's sisters are married already) and we all call future f.i.l by his first name.

my parents are the same, she gets mum off me but wouldnt expect it off anyone else