Will you be calling MIL2B and FIL2B 'mum and dad'?

joannaspanner

mildred1978 wrote: »

Likewise (married 8 years). My sister in law (with my BIL a lot longer) still calls them Mr and Mrs D!!!

I sometimes in a jokey way call her 'Ma' like Nick Cotton from Eastenders, it started when on Xmas Morning I uttered Nick Cottons famous 'Merry Christmas Ma' line

jemb

No way. You're born with one set of parents they bore and raised you. I would never call them Mum and Dad. Wouldnt expect my OH to call mine that either as they're not.

Sorry, I've just got really strong opinions against this!

johannalf88

No. First names only. My auntie calls my nana & grandad mum & dad, so never really thought it weird... But I won't be doing it! I have a mum & dad!

floss2

It depends - when I speak to them it's first names, when I speak to DH & his brothers about them it's mum & dad.

daisiegg

Not a chance! I personally would find it really strange.

dw85

i think i only every use it jokingly.
Its a great lil wind up for his dad...'oh dearest FiL2B, would you like a cup of tea?' lol but i think i will always address them by their first names.
(i do feel a bit sorry for them to get me for a DiL!:rotfl:)

As has been shown, everyone has different relationships with their Parents in Law!

Have to agree with Floss2...though its usually 'your mum/dad'...is that what you mean?

minerva_windsong

Nope - it sounds harsh but they're not my parents, so why would I call them mum and dad? If I'm talking to OH or his siblings about them though I say 'your mum/dad' (eg 'Are we seeing your mum this weekend?'), and if I'm talking to them I call them by their first names. OH does the same with my parents.

trinity_enigma

Ooh this is quite interesting to read. Despite a lot of people thinking you only have one set of parents technically they do become you PARENTS-in-law (which isn't the same thing as actual parents I know) but for that name to have come into use, it must have had some meaning at some point.

Some families will have the feeling of having gaine a daughter or son after the wedding and I really think that is quite sweet. I do have a better relationship with my future in laws than I do my other parents but I will be sticking to calling them by their first names- it would be too weird to change now!

nuatha

I've been with OH for 12 years, apart from the first couple of times I’d met them (Mr and Mrs) I've always used first names, after 5 or 6 years they inscribed the books they got for my christmas present as from “Mum and Dad” which I was really pleased by. But I continued to address them by first names, cards and texts are to/from Mum/Dad.

When sister in law 2B’s new bloke started calling them Mum and Dad (second time he met them) it caused a lot of upset. It was regarded as being far too familiar and pushy.

Now there’s just MIL2B, (FIL2B died last year, and my parents died 20+ years ago) she is usually referred to as Mum but I always call her by name, its what suits and works for us. (Incidentally my mother was Mam, so its not even not wanting to feel I’m replacing one with the other)

Timpu

First names at the moment, not sure I'd be fussed if they asked me to call them Mum & Dad.