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Fleago

I'm utterly fascinated by this thread So I went googling to find out about wedding favours nowadays. And I'm completely gobsmacked at the lavishness of some suggestions and the costs of some of the favours :eek:

In Scotland, years ago, wedding favours were routinely given out, but only to the ladies, not the men. The favours then were more like cake top decorations - it's the only way I can think to describe them. Things like little silver (plastic!) bridal shoes, or little sprigs of artificial heather or a wee feather knick knack thing in the bridal colours. Utter tat of course, but must have only cost pennies

Engraved champagne glasses etc! Blimey :eek: I'm glad me and the other half ran away and got married in secret and then went to the races :rotfl:

Fleago

VickyA_2

Fleago wrote:

I'm utterly fascinated by this thread So I went googling to find out about wedding favours nowadays. And I'm completely gobsmacked at the lavishness of some suggestions and the costs of some of the favours :eek:

You understand my problem! My chief bridesmaid gave everyone a lottery ticket - there were 150 people there = £150 :eek: The engraved champagne glasses I've already ruled out................................ :rolleyes:

I may well go for nothing. They'll get a 3 course meal, as much wine as they like and a free boogie. In the evening, there's going to be a hog roast. They should be able to deal with that?

Fleago

Quite right too, VickyA - I think your guests are getting a jolly good day out I wouldn't get them favours either :T

Fleago

emma_b_4

HI

we are getting married 30th june next year and mum and dad have given us, well have said they will, £3,000. we have booked a local holiday inn hotel which is lovely and i reckon the day will be about 2500 this will be

the civil ceremony wedding

3 course meal for 70 people (we have 56 on list but they have min of 70 for the toom, my mate is the manager and hoping she can swindle us outts this one, and if they are children in the numbers they dont count as a full price meal)

wine at the meal and toast

night time food, which is either bacon and sausage butties (OH idea) or a BBQ

i think this figure does sound a lot but its all on the food, we are saving, well planning to save, for the rest so we will have dress photographer cake favours invites suit hire to pay for. not having a wedding car.

im hoping to do all the above for as little as possible to be honest.
i like the idea of getting a dress for a bargain off ebay but how do you do that?! how do you know what it will look like and itll fit??

im 12 weeks preg at the moment and wanting to get my dress ASAP as ive only got 8mth after the birth till the big day (nothing like a bit of pressure!) so then i will aim to get back down to the size i am now and hopefully look okay (im size 12 and 10st)

i have got a trade card for a place called country baskets who do flowers and invites etc so im planning to try and do things like myself, and the cake i will be happy with three plain white cakes from ASDA/ M&S and get some fancy decorations, which they sell down on the market.

my friends have all had very glitzy weddings one cost 20k so i cant really ask them for advice on moneysaving........

andycarmi

VickyA wrote:

I may well go for nothing. They'll get a 3 course meal, as much wine as they like and a free boogie. In the evening, there's going to be a hog roast. They should be able to deal with that?

That sound great to me. Its your day. As long as your there, theres a bar... :beer: People remember you and your enjoyment not what they will be getting out of it. Enjoy yourselfs... :j :j

Queenie

november wrote:

I've only just heard of 'favours' too and I'm 46, been married before (28 years ago :eek: ) and been to quite a few weddings. Buy everyone a present for coming It seems a bizarre idea to me.
....
I'm sure its a new idea isn't it although I've heard people use words like 'etiquette' or 'tradition'?

In good old fashioned tradition, the *favours* I gave all my guests ...


... were the invitation in the first instance and the reception!!


As I child I wasn't given party bags for going to a party - I took a gift for the birthday child!
At weddings, I didn't get "favours" to take home (other than the memories)
At birthdays, people treated me to a treat/drink and I wasn't expected to buy every one else a drink!

The world has turned upside down if you ask me! And it's all based on commercialism!!!

It's a nice touch, if it's your families tradition/heritage/custom - but then so is the Greek custom of pinning money on the bride but that doesn't seem to have taken off in quite the same way as American favours have.

If it isn't your custom/heritage/tradition or you simply have enough on your plate organising the fun day for all your guests (when in reality the only people who *really* matter are the bride and groom!!) then you shouldn't feel under pressure to do it.
If it is the tradition - be a rebel! - break with it if it doesn't fall in with *your* budget/plans/dream wedding.

If a memento of the occasion is what is required - they have that in the form of their invitation, any pictures they may take/purchase and the memories (and priviledge) of sharing in your wonderful happy and momentous occasion.

VickyA - I know how much energy, time and effort you are commiting already; please do not add to your stress by feeling that you *have* to compete with your peers and their choices for their special day. Yes, giving everyone a lottery ticket is a great idea - but do you really want her credit card bills/loan repayments too Do what you and your partner are most comfortable with. If it isn't how your peers do it, just tell them you didnt' want to be like "everyone else" and wanted *your* day to be unique

Katyag

Queenie wrote:

VickyA - I know how much energy, time and effort you are commiting already; please do not add to your stress by feeling that you *have* to compete with your peers and their choices for their special day. Yes, giving everyone a lottery ticket is a great idea - but do you really want her credit card bills/loan repayments too Do what you and your partner are most comfortable with. If it isn't how your peers do it, just tell them you didnt' want to be like "everyone else" and wanted *your* day to be unique

I couldnt agree more!! We had our wedding the way we wanted it. We paid for it all ourselves too but it was worth it to have no one telling us we 'should' be doing this or we 'ought' to do that!!! Guests do damn well out of weddings so yes there is no real need for favours unless you really want them.

Hope you have a fab wedding!!!

Spendless

Fleago wrote:

:eek:

In Scotland, years ago, wedding favours were routinely given out, but only to the ladies, not the men.
:rotfl:

Fleago

That would explain why the only time I've seen favours done was at a Scottish wedding.

Last time we went to a wedding was 3 years ago and none there. We are invited to one this year so I'll see if they do the 'favours'.

Vicky-I think it's fine not to bother with them-don't worry.

Emms

Were getting married next May and were doing the favour thing. Seen lots of ebay shops that sell wee boxes and im going to buy a big tin of roses ( or something to that nature ) and just put a few choccies in each one. Sugared almonds are horrible so I would much rather give choccies as every one can eat them and enjoy.

Some people get their wedding cake cut up and give it away as a favour. You can get wee cake boxes really cheap on ebay.

Emma

VickyA_2

Queenie wrote:

VickyA - I know how much energy, time and effort you are commiting already; please do not add to your stress by feeling that you *have* to compete with your peers and their choices for their special day. Yes, giving everyone a lottery ticket is a great idea - but do you really want her credit card bills/loan repayments too Do what you and your partner are most comfortable with. If it isn't how your peers do it, just tell them you didnt' want to be like "everyone else" and wanted *your* day to be unique

Thank you Queenie