I have a friend ............

Torry_Quine

poet123 wrote: »

With respect, the mother daughter relationship could be just as easily destroyed by the mother being kept in the dark, to say nothing of the aunt's relationship with her sister. The child may just want an adult to take responsibility and sort it out rather than just saying you must do as you see fit.

We have no way of knowing the dynamic between aunt and niece or mother daughter, or the maturity or otherwise of the child. So, imo it is entirely down to the aunt to gauge the situation and act accordingly.

The aunt is in a better position than us to know and so its not wise for us to second guess how the family dynamics work. The aunt may be the sister of the father who hasn't been mentioned or the sister-in-law of either parent.

It is entirely up to the aunt to gauge if its appropriate but without us knowing far more information we can't ever know that.

Person_one

verysillyguy06 wrote: »

Parents are in a difficult position. If they are aware of their underage children having sex they could theoretically risk prosecution for aiding and abetting the unlawful intercourse.

It is not all plain sailing for that irresponsible mother either...what an awful situation for a young teenager to be involved with.

My heart goes out to the 13 year but without knowing alot more, it is very difficult to advice.

It is a potential Police situation or two young teenagers being 'foolish'...it cannot be deduced from a few posts on a discussion forum. I do hope the Aunt knows the law better than people on this thread.

The 'lad' could also be in deep trouble...was a lot of alcohol involved? With no adult supervision?

If nothing else, the parents are not given a message that those people are dangerous to their children....

Depending on the circumstances, anything could be the right decision...

Are we all so hang up about 'privacy' that we do no longer know what is 'just right ' to do?

I would err on the aunt telling the 13 year....I am sorry but your parents need to know...I am there to support you but they do need to know

Mature enough?


You people do make me laugh...do you know how you would react in that situation?

...at 13??

How does she know if she needs support?? She is a young girl frightened to death most likely.....

Well VSG, as the only person who has posted their own experience of teenage pregnancy told us emphatically how important it is that the decision be the girl's and the girl's alone, I stand by my belief that pregnant women, whatever their age, have the right to make their own choices regarding that pregnancy.

Face1992

It is rather strange that 13 year old KIDS can go off and have abortions without their parents ever being told, but parents can be prosecuted if said 13 year olds play truant from school.

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Well VSG, as the only person who has posted their own experience of teenage pregnancy told us emphatically how important it is that the decision be the girl's and the girl's alone, I stand by my belief that pregnant women, whatever their age, have the right to make their own choices regarding that pregnancy.

This is not a pregnant woman but a pregnant child. There is a real difference.

Person_one

Face1992 wrote: »

It is rather strange that 13 year old KIDS can go off and have abortions without their parents ever being told, but parents can be prosecuted if said 13 year olds play truant from school.

Not really.

Childhood to adulthood is a gradual shift, not an overnight thing.

Bodily autonomy and the right to make your own medical decisions comes before the right to opt out of compulsory education.

13 year olds can turn down heart transplants or chemo, or consent to donate an organ, but their parents could still technically be prosecuted for leaving them at home alone.

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

This is not a pregnant woman but a pregnant child. There is a real difference.

Its still happening to her body, therefore its all up to her.

See my post above.

verysillyguy06

Person_one wrote: »

Well VSG, as the only person who has posted their own experience of teenage pregnancy told us emphatically how important it is that the decision be the girl's and the girl's alone, I stand by my belief that pregnant women, whatever their age, have the right to make their own choices regarding that pregnancy.

Blind leading the blind.....It depends on each situation. Just to make oneself feel ok, it is never alright to assume one knows best because it worked for a, b and c....

As a professional one should never be thinking 'I know' best...not worth their weight in skittles imo.



Each person is an unique individual

verysillyguy06

Person_one wrote: »

Well VSG, as the only person who has posted their own experience of teenage pregnancy told us emphatically how important it is that the decision be the girl's and the girl's alone, I stand by my belief that pregnant women, whatever their age, have the right to make their own choices regarding that pregnancy.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=55581333&postcount=42


This poster seems to think differently....who is right?


No-one , it depends on each situation. I personally would rather risk a relationship than the same experience but like I said, it would really depend on each situation and the information.

verysillyguy06

Person_one wrote: »

Not really.

Childhood to adulthood is a gradual shift, not an overnight thing.

Bodily autonomy and the right to make your own medical decisions comes before the right to opt out of compulsory education.

13 year olds can turn down heart transplants or chemo, or consent to donate an organ, but their parents could still technically be prosecuted for leaving them at home alone.

We dont even know if she was 13 at the time....we know very very little

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Well VSG, as the only person who has posted their own experience of teenage pregnancy told us emphatically how important it is that the decision be the girl's and the girl's alone, I stand by my belief that pregnant women, whatever their age, have the right to make their own choices regarding that pregnancy.

So now you believe that personal experience is more valid than opinion?

Whilst the poster on this thread may believe that there may be countless other pregnant teens who told a trusted relative so that they would take away their need to solve the problem personally. So that (despite their protests) they would mediate between them and their parents, be a conduit. Whose opinion is most valid then?