Sorry but i gotta rant

sandraroffey · 3 September 2012 at 5:49AM

maybe you should contact the home and ask them to repeat the questions to you???? they will want whatever cash she has to help pay for her care. maybe that was the reason they phoned in the first place. or is care covered by the state in scotland?

and yes, maybe a visit may be in order!!!!!! whether she is out of it or not.

rpc · 3 September 2012 at 8:37AM

If it comes to an intestate death (and it hasn't yet!) and there are no siblings or offspring of the aunt left, it may end up that the crown takes all. There is representation in the hierarchy of beneficiaries, so you make take your mother's share per stirpes but on the other hand if she is dead then I think she is skipped over.

Your sister can't disclaim on your behalf (will or no). If there is a will then it will be followed and if not then the intestacy rules are set down in law. If you are the closest living relative, then it may come to you to sort out when the time finally arrives- or to choose to pass on to someone else.

However, as others have pointed out, she is still alive and therefore there is nothing to argue about other than your family being vultures and your sister making statements on your behalf.

podperson · 3 September 2012 at 10:27AM

Did your sister tell you exact details of the conversation she had with this relative? If he was just dealing with inheritance then it would make more sense to sort that out after your great-aunt's death as then there would actually be one rather then speculation. I'm wondering if he was calling more to inform her that your great-aunt is in a home, is not well and that you two are now her closest relatives in the hopes that you might take a bit of responsibility - either in terms of helping to deal with her affairs if she's no longer able to or by expressing an interest in her care or in visiting her.

maman · 3 September 2012 at 4:33PM

I think you need to be in contact with the care home. Inheritance is way down the line. If you really are listed on their records as next of kin then they'll need your contact information and to be in touch with you over your aunt's ongoing care.