Sorry but i gotta rant

Muscle750

In our house we struggle every month as i know many others do we have a nice house and have four wonderfull children now grown up, we have no money for holidays we have no money spare whatsoever we both have jobs fortunately althou mine is looking unsafer by the day ive been there 24 years
A close family member whose O/H is on a huge salary and has been for the last twenty plus years and is in the public limelight to a point are constantly on about their properties abroad the large house in one of the most affluent areas in the uk etc.
Ive recently discovered that our mothers sister whom we havent seen for years and i mean years like 30 or so, her husband died 15 years ago and my sister has recently been contacted by one of his relations saying that our mothers sister is in a home in the middle of nowhere in the highlands and is now 87 and has completely lost it mentally and that myself and my sister are now basically the next of kin when anything happens to her her estate is estimated at around £70k. My sister then turned round and said that she told them that we werent interested and that as this relation of her hiusband had been sorting things out they should have any inheritence etc
Now dont get me wrong im no gold digger but im just fuming that i didnt even know about this until after it had happened.
Our daughter got married 18 months ago and it was a real struggle financially for all concerned and we are still suffering if thats the right word their son is getting married next April and already im been told of how huge the wedding and the venue etc will be
Im just tired of struggling and believe me we are. It was that bad a few weeks ago i couldnt buy my wife a small birthday present i went for a walk the night before nearly in tears, eat me if you want tell me to gtf up but thats how i feel.

CH27

Your sister cannot refuse your inheritance on your behalf.
If you have been left money in the Will solicitors or Executors will contact you.

melanzana

Everyone understands that everyone needs a rant now and again. It keeps us sane!

I think in your case, the law, or a will might sort out your aunties estate.

I have never heard of anyone refusing an inheritance while th person was still alive.

Or am I missing some important point here?

Are you and your sister beneficiaries of your aunties estate?

Muscle750

The husbands relation has said we will be the beneficeries of the estate as there are the closest relatives when anything happens to her, and from my sisters point of view its "Dont bother youve done the donkey work you might as well have it ill let my brother know"
One point id like to ask is the law any different in scotland?

daska

How dare she presume that because she isn't interested in her aunt that you aren't. How did she know that you might not want to get in touch with her?

In terms of money it hasn't even got as far as there even being an inheritance yet! And legally, if there were, she is not allowed to refuse it on your behalf. Tell her to get over herself already.

The law in Scotland is different to England, there are set rules as to how parts of estates can be left even if there is a will. If she dies intestate, which is the implication, these are the rules: http://www.scotland.gov.uk/Publications/2005/12/05115128/51285

Muscle750

I would say thou that i personally dont know what is in the will or does my sister come to that i believe its just going on the opinion of the husbands relative

ikkle87

If your aunt is mentally unfit she wouldn't be able to change her will anyway, therefore I should imagine you would be contacted by the executor/solicitor and would then be able to say yes or no. Your sister is unable to act on your behalf.

melanzana

Muscle750 wrote: »

The husbands relation has said we will be the beneficeries of the estate as there are the closest relatives when anything happens to her, and from my sisters point of view its "Dont bother youve done the donkey work you might as well have it ill let my brother know"
One point id like to ask is the law any different in scotland?

I don't know anything about Scottish law, but I'm sure if you google intestate in Scotland that will help. I get the feeling that the lady has no will, so therefore her estate will go to the next of kin.

Your sister cannot disclaim this on your behalf.

Is there a Scottish CAB that you could contact?

pimento

She's not dead yet. Blimey.

melanzana

pimento wrote: »

She's not dead yet. Blimey.

That is the whole point.

How can someone disclaim something they don't have, don't know they're entitled to, and the lady is still alive!

Brother, get on to your sister and discuss this. Stat. Might not be the most pleasant of convos, but could it be worse that your sisters controlling decision on your part?

But she cannot do this anyway, so it's not a runner.

End of.

I_wanna_live_for_free

Feel sorry for the mother's sister myself.
OP your sister cannot speak for you re any inheritance, once there IS an inheritance ie the person has died. The Executor should contact you once that happens.

Your own money worries are nothing to do with this. I can understand how you feel, I've been there, I do know.

Thinking of you. All the best x