Mother is coming!

ceebeeby

londonsurrey wrote: »

This just made me laugh in a really self depreciating way - it hadn't occurred to me that the mother didn't mean it, but could just be stirring up drama.

This is despite me thinking that I'd finally got the handle on my narcissistic mother(NM), and totally forgetting how they can just barefaced lie simply for the sake of it! DOH!

This just reinforces exactly how right it is to have severed ALL contact with my NM, because apparently, I can STILL fall for these
blatant untruths without it even occurring to me that you can't believe ANYTHING they say, which is plain silly, because they do it MOST of the time. Double DOH! :rotfl:

This is so true too ... !!! She tells so many untruths, I actually think she believes them. I once broke my leg and was plastered from toe to thigh, instead of sympathising, she told people I now knew how she felt when she tripped over my door-step and broke her leg. When I eventually recovered enough to challenge her and say she had never broken her leg, let alone at my house, she told me it had been diagnosed 6 weeks after the fall by which time the fracture had healed all by itself

This is one of the funnier stories, some of the others are much more upsetting.

I hope you're right. How can I not show though that I want this to be a lie. If for a second she thought I didn't want her, she'd deliberately move next door

bargainbetty

If she is that bad, why not let her get the better of you, temporarily. Tell her you are looking at moving to another town (find one with appalling public transport links to yours) and go so far as to say that you have been to view a few properties etc. If she wants to be nearer to you, then perhaps she should look there instead if she wants to be closer to you in future. That'll keep her busy for a couple of years....

Or, alternatively, say to her outright that you don't feel your relationship would survive living near each other, that the distance between you allows for privacy and independent life and that you are not responsible for her loneliness, nor will you be if she moves nearer. Suggest she trys night classes before relocating.

Or, thirdly, tell the emotional vampire to get knotted, and that the day she moves in, you'll put your place on the market.

I'm so sorry. My mum is ace, but I've dealt with a narcissist and it's so damn difficult to handle.