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aqm i being stupid over contact?
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missscousemouse wrote: »i asked him to meet with me and get everything sorted once and for all but my boyfriend said it wont achieve anything and he would just try to bully me so would be pointless which i get now. all i wanted was to raise the girls in a way that is comfortable for all of us especially the kids. i was thinking mediation which il ask my solicitor about on wed.
Why are you letting your boyfriend make the decision for you? Seems like you've jumped into the fire.0 -
my partner is very worried for me as he knows about the way my ex is and is scared that il be in a position i cant handle he said he would come with me but the four of us together would be even messier.this years wins so far... judge espresso machine with ok mag. a bag of vasiline moisuriser products. a yogalates dvd.0
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Children have the legal right to build a relationship with the whole of their families. How will your children exercise that right (which includes new partners and their families) when it's only a short while at the beginning and end of the school day. Unless you sort it out for them.
I would suggest that as your children are not currently getting anywhere near 'normal' access to YOUR half of their family that mediation is possibly not the starting point. My preferred first option would be a blunt letter setting out the 'normal' guidelines for contact and that the children want the current situation amended so that they can have (insert list of activities they are currently unable to do>. That way he is in no doubt as to the legal status of his totally unreasonable demands but that it's not being changed for your personal benefit. It sounds as if he'd be unlikely to accept that but if he does it'll be a darned sight cheaper!Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants - Michael Pollan
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missscousemouse wrote: »my partner is very worried for me as he knows about the way my ex is and is scared that il be in a position i cant handle he said he would come with me but the four of us together would be even messier.
Yes it seems from what you say that you just give in to your ex all the time.
Mediation is the way to go and to get formal agreements.0
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