Your opinions on generational attitudes?

Mojisola

balletshoes wrote: »

I don't know anyone who makes a pot of tea, we all just drink coffee or tea from a teabag in a cup .

Well, you wouldn't get your Brownie badge! :rotfl::rotfl:

burnoutbabe

teens can generally manage to all sit on one seat together rather than a whole sofa. I know I have done this with my sister at xmas when both 30s.

being dragged to relatives houses when younger, your role is generally just to sit there whilst adults talk about stuff that doesn't interest you, not be unpaid skivvy! Especially if reason why is that the 40 year old is too drunk too help!

londonsurrey

Mojisola wrote: »

Well, you wouldn't get your Brownie badge! :rotfl::rotfl:

Can you just imagine a disgruntled mother on Freecycle, asking for an old teapot as she doesn't want to buy one just to let her daughter practice for her Brownie badge.

londonsurrey

burnoutbabe wrote: »

teens can generally manage to all sit on one seat together rather than a whole sofa. I know I have done this with my sister at xmas when both 30s.

being dragged to relatives houses when younger, your role is generally just to sit there whilst adults talk about stuff that doesn't interest you, not be unpaid skivvy! Especially if reason why is that the 40 year old is too drunk too help!

The inebriated 40 year old was their mother. That comes with rights. Lol.

euronorris

balletshoes wrote: »

I don't know anyone who makes a pot of tea, we all just drink coffee or tea from a teabag in a cup .

Lots of people still do it. If we are gathering around the table, then we will often have a couple of pots available so people can top up as and when they please.

And I have one of the smaller pots, with the cup sitting underneath the pot (which detaches, of course), which is just big enough for 2 cuppas. I like using that when home alone

art_for_arts_sake

He's no longer a teenager, but my son who has moderate learning difficulties is expected to make a drink after meal times. It's all about setting the rules and what's expected of them. Not all teenagers behave badly, I'm really impressed by the politeness of many of them, though those whose parents give in to their every demand seem to be the worst. We've only ourselves to blame for having low expectations of them if they then behave badly. Respect is a two-way street.

euronorris

burnoutbabe wrote: »

teens can generally manage to all sit on one seat together rather than a whole sofa. I know I have done this with my sister at xmas when both 30s.

being dragged to relatives houses when younger, your role is generally just to sit there whilst adults talk about stuff that doesn't interest you, not be unpaid skivvy! Especially if reason why is that the 40 year old is too drunk too help!

How many teens on one seat are we talking about here? 2 is doable, but uncomfortable. Anymore than that is silly, and probably not good for the chair.

I always found ways to busy myself at such events. Usually by helping with drinks (which I was more than capable of doing from 8/9 onwards as Mum had taught me to). And it's not about being a skivvy - it's about being respectful and HELPING OUT (note, not getting all drinks for everyone - just helping out) when needed. A necessary life lesson to be learned. Always offer your help, where you can.

ETA: I still did this when I was a teen. I had always been taught to act that way, so I knew it was expected of me. It was second nature, if you will. It never occurred to me not to help out.

And yes, sometimes parents drink a little too often - I'll never forget my Mum getting drunk on a family holiday in florida. I'd never seen her drunk before (and rarely since - she's such a lightweight though, she'd only had 2 glass of wine! lol), and all of a sudden she was talking about aliens coming through the ventilation system (???) ! Funniest night of the holiday!

aliasojo

I'd be ashamed of mine if they sat back whilst people in their 70's waited on them, related or not.

Thankfully, they have better manners than that and wouldn't need telling to offer to help or make sure elders had the seats.

It's all down to lesser standards these days imo. With each passing generation comes a further slip in morals and standards.

Imo.

j.e.j.

londonsurrey wrote: »

How about the 40 year olds? Would you expect the teenagers to give up the seats to someone who is fit, but older?

Speaking as a 40-year-old I think I'd be a bit embarrassed if someone got up and offered me their seat. I'm not that old and frail, yet! :rotfl:

mumps

We are all differnet, I am a granny and often sit on the floor to watch tv and if we have a houseful of guests. I hate people cluttering up the kitchen if I am making drinks, trying to remember who likes coffee, who likes tea, who has milk or sugar. So if you are in my house please don't think I am less able to sit on the floor and if I smilingly decline your offer of help with the drinks don't insist on "helping" as it will only annoy me.

On the other hand my OH is disabled, couldn't sit on the floor to save his life, well he couldn't get up again anyway. He likes being waited on so if you offer to make him a drink he will be most grateful.