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Divorce/house and equity issues. PLEASE HELP

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  • Bettyboop
    Bettyboop Posts: 1,343 Forumite
    MJMum...that may seem a simple solution....but I can't live without her. It's not about money.

    He doesn't have the time or patience to have her full time.


    For God knew in His great wisdom

    That he couldn't be everywhere,
    So he put His little Children
    In a loving mother's care.
  • arthur_dent_2
    arthur_dent_2 Posts: 1,913 Forumite
    if you are keeping the house together, (with or without you in it) but you are not paying towards the mortgage, how about suggesting that he keeps on paying the mortgage and you continue to hold a half share? He can choose to improve it if he wants but you would still have your half share. If he can afford house improvements then he can in effect afford to pay you £350 a month for your daughters future.
    Loving the dtd thread. x
  • Bettyboop
    Bettyboop Posts: 1,343 Forumite
    arthur dent....I have suggested that before. He doesn't want me to benefit from any futher proceeds of the house. He isn't happy because I don't contribute towards it now..and holding a half share with him doing the improvements is a big NO NO for him.

    It wish it was as easy as that. Thanks.


    For God knew in His great wisdom

    That he couldn't be everywhere,
    So he put His little Children
    In a loving mother's care.
  • susy_2
    susy_2 Posts: 467 Forumite
    MJMum wrote: »
    Perhaps your daughter could move back in with your ex? Then maybe you could get a full time job to support yourself.


    ????????????????? What?
  • Hi Bettyboo..........your situaction sounds like mine well similar........I found out my husband was cheating on me on Mothers day!!!!!!! and i chucked him out....We have a girl of 4 yrs old which she stays with me during the week and at weekends he looks after her so i can work...Been solicitors and can get legal aid also we are going to try mediaction! I am trying to keep the house and mortgage but at the moment he pays mortgage and i pay the bills wont last long so am desp trying to sort myself more hours and claiming everything...Do you mind me asking why you left the home as there is no dought in my mind i had to stay?????for my daughter and myself (is there anyway you can get back in Your home) xx
  • kent_lady
    kent_lady Posts: 112 Forumite
    Hi there

    I'm sure that the law on property is that you BOTH own ALL of the house (if you bought it together and both names are on the deeds). So as far as I'm aware you don't need his permission to move back in as it's as much your house as his.
    Back in the Midlands! :j
  • pinkshoes
    pinkshoes Posts: 20,607 Forumite
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    Surely if he's expecting you to pay half the mortgage to keep your half of the house, then he should be paying half your rent too?

    You said before that it's not about money, so for the sake of your child and to prevent life being a financial struggle, then why not take up your husband's suggestion? Take the current market value of the house, find out what the equity is, then get him to buy you out at an agreed percentage (50%?).

    Ask him to also pay child maintenance.

    That way you can use the money to either pay your rent, or be a decent deposit on a new house.

    Good Luck!
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  • kent_lady
    kent_lady Posts: 112 Forumite
    Hey Bettyboop, how are things? :cheesy:
    Back in the Midlands! :j
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