legal rights to stay in house with my child as house in ex's name

must*save*money

I have just split from my partner and need all the advice I can get as to my rights. The situation is that I moved in with my partner 7 months ago and we had decided to get a larger house together so put our names down for a new build 9 months ago. I have rented my flat out to tenants, and for convenience at the time my partner purchased the new house in his name, by part exchange for his old house, and all the deeds and mortgage are in his name, on solicitors papers I am listed as living in the house. I also have a 7 year old child from a previous relationship. We also got engaged a week before we moved into the property in June. Since we have decided to split my partner wants me out of 'his' house and is threatening to throw my possesions out if I refuse to allow him to return to the main bedroom tomorrow night. I am quiet taken aback by the threatening nature and need advice asap please. I need to consider that it will take time to relocate schools (as currently fee paying as will no longer be able afford on my own) and find suitable accommodation for myself and my daughter. We had relocated in good faith that we had found our forever home and kept my flat as investment. I have no intention of returning to my flat and this has a 2 month notice period on it anyway. Any advice will be welcome asap. Thankyou

Fire_Fox

Welcome! If the house is in his name and you have only been living together for a few months he does have the right to ask you to leave. Your child is your child. What money have you put into this house, did you share any of the legal costs? Why do you expect him not to sleep in the main bedroom of his own house? That is bound to get his back up and have him kick you out.

NewKittenHelp

You're living in his house and have tried to force him to leave his bedroom? You've got some nerve!

Money_maker

No intention of returning to your flat but want to kick him out of his home? Parasite springs to mind.

Marisco

You've only been with him in the house 7 months, the child is not his, the house is, and you have a flat of your own. Give your tenants notice and move back to your own flat.

Tiddlywinks

I presume (very much hope) that you have your own income which is funding YOUR child's private education, upkeep etc so... you will have the necessary funds available to rent somewhere and move out!

It is possible to rent and move in quickly as some properties are up for rent after renovations.

In the meantime, can't you appeal to your ex's better nature by giving him back the main bedroom and moving in with your DD while you find somewhere new. You've got a cheek to expect your ex to be the one sleeping on the sofa in his house.

If you're really stuck move in with friends, relatives or put stuff into storage and use a Travelodge until you find somewhere.

You need to move out - your DD doesn't really need to see you making matters worse does she?

DVardysShadow

must*save*money wrote: »

I have just split from my partner and need all the advice I can get as to my rights.

Tell us what your now ex partner's rights are in what you refer to as

'his' house

Once you have grasped that, your rights fit around his rights.

must*save*money

Thankyou for your replies, some seem a little harsh!
I should clarify that my ex willingly moved into a spare room (it is a 4 bed house!!) as I have had recent major surgery and needed the space and comfort while recovering, he now wants the room back stating his rights to be in his bed. I do not have a problem with this, more that he is so demanding without the need to be, and threatening to throw us and our things out!
Yes the house is his, I am contributing to bills, and I pay fully for all expenses for my daughter, he makes no contribution to her and I do not expect him to. I will not be able to afford education if I have to pay rent elsewhere as the costs are overall greater than the shared costs of living together, that is all.
My concern of going back to my flat are issues with schooling in the area and childcare facilities (hence why I moved areas in the first place) as I do work shifts/late hours.
My asking for your for help was in relation to how long I can reasonably stay in the house to find somewhere decent to live without upheaving my daughter to halfway houses, family/friend sofas and lodgings etc, and the right to non harrassment by my ex in the meantime

mountainofdebt

must*save*money wrote: »

Thankyou for your replies, some seem a little harsh!......


......My concern of going back to my flat are issues with schooling in the area and childcare facilities (hence why I moved areas in the first place) as I do work shifts/late hours.
My asking for your for help was in relation to how long I can reasonably stay in the house to find somewhere decent to live without upheaving my daughter to halfway houses, family/friend sofas and lodgings etc, and the right to non harrassment by my ex in the meantime

Whilst some of the replies may seem harsh their sentiment is correct.

Bluntly put, you have no rights - you may ask your ex partner for a little time to get things sorted but at the end of the day it is down to his goodwill as to whether he is willing for this to happen or not.

Perhaps by agreeing to move into the smaller bedroom this may sweeten him to agreeing to this.

NewKittenHelp

must*save*money wrote: »

Thankyou for your replies, some seem a little harsh!
I should clarify that my ex willingly moved into a spare room (it is a 4 bed house!!) as I have had recent major surgery and needed the space and comfort while recovering, he now wants the room back stating his rights to be in his bed. I do not have a problem with this, more that he is so demanding without the need to be, and threatening to throw us and our things out!
Yes the house is his, I am contributing to bills, and I pay fully for all expenses for my daughter, he makes no contribution to her and I do not expect him to. I will not be able to afford education if I have to pay rent elsewhere as the costs are overall greater than the shared costs of living together, that is all.
My concern of going back to my flat are issues with schooling in the area and childcare facilities (hence why I moved areas in the first place) as I do work shifts/late hours.
My asking for your for help was in relation to how long I can reasonably stay in the house to find somewhere decent to live without upheaving my daughter to halfway houses, family/friend sofas and lodgings etc, and the right to non harrassment by my ex in the meantime

You have no rights to stay in the house. None. If you don't wish to be 'harassed' then leave his house and stand on your own two feet and support yourself. If you can't afford private education for your daughter then that is tough titty I'm afraid.

DVardysShadow

must*save*money wrote: »

.... My concern of going back to my flat are issues with schooling in the area and childcare facilities (hence why I moved areas in the first place) as I do work shifts/late hours.
My asking for your for help was in relation to how long I can reasonably stay in the house to find somewhere decent to live without upheaving my daughter to halfway houses, family/friend sofas and lodgings etc, and the right to non harrassment by my ex in the meantime

Everyone should be put back where they were before. Except that things have moved on. So your ex won't be back in his old place - even if that is what he might now prefer.

You can go back to your flat after giving your tenants notice. You don't actually have to go down this road. But it is not reasonable to stay any longer than this would take. So if you can work out something better, you need to do it within 2.5 months or so.