Help with 3 year old please

purplepatch

Lyndsay_21 wrote: »

the problem me and DD have is we need space from each other and we clash as we are so similar this sounds so silly seeing as i'm talking about a 4yr old but its true.

Lol. Doesn't sound silly at all, exactly the same as us, love her to bits but she drives me crazy sometimes :rotfl:

mae

Just caught up with this thread thanks for your replies.
Purplepatch.... yes she does start school this time and nursery say the same about her thats shes never naughty they just say she asks alot of questions and sometimes wants to know 'why' alot, but thats fine.
Lyndsay I know what you mean about clashing at times, the trouble with my daughter (well not trouble its good but hard work) is that she can argue her point perfectly she is such a clear thinker and at times it can drive you mad from a 3 year old!!! lol
I can't remember if I mentioned this but I had a word with a teacher at nursery and she said that next term they would incorporate some things about manners, treating people kindly and respectfully and nicely.
We've been away this weekend and she was very well behaved and polite I had a word with her about it not being nice to upset people etc and she seems to have taken it on board. She just had one 'episode' where we were sat outside at the hotel restaurant waiting to order and she kept walking off and refusing to come back then she said she needed the toilet so my husband got up to take her and she hid under the table and wouldn't come out (sounds funny now) anyway she ended up crying very loudly so we abandoned the meal ignored her and walked back to the room with her in tow mortified that she couldn't stay. We let her calm down and say sorry and went to a different restaurant where nobody knew us too embarrassed to go back to the earlier one where she caused the scene :eek:

Jay-Jay_4

I'm so glad I've found this thread! I have a three year old that sounds just like so many of your children. When she was born she knew the score, like she's always been a grown up trapped inside a baby's body and utterly frustrated at not having the same status as the adults around her.

The things you have said about your own clear thinking, independant and assertive children who have a strong sense of their own identity just rings absolutely true to me. I feel like I'm in a constant battle of wits with her because if you speak to her like she's a three year old she looks at you as if you're insane. I feel so relieved that I'm not on my own!

Mae, your DD sounds so much like mine. My eldest child is a perfect angel so I do get very embarrassed when I'm stood shouting at DD2 "come here please!" "will you PLEASE come here!!!" only to be completely and utterly ignored or else she will say "Ssshhhh! I'm BUSY!" :rolleyes:

Carmina_Piranha_3

Jay-Jay wrote: »

completely and utterly ignored or else she will say "Ssshhhh! I'm BUSY!" :rolleyes:

i know i shouldn't but that really made me laugh :rotfl: what must be frustrating to the parent is actually quite entertaining or those on the outside - i bet when you feel like everyone's looking at you half of them are just thinking how amusing and charming your toddlers are

canny_star

Hi Mae,I am late coming into this thread, but just wanted to stay stick with it, I have a tenacious 2 year old who is a very good (and loud) talker. And for that matter a tenacious 9 year old who is (bless him) a complete pain.
My daughter at 2 is cheeky in all the ways possible, which I am glad of, she is as stubborn as I am, speaks her mind, gets cross. All in all just like me.
My son at 9 is shy, sensitive, still speaks his mind, but cries if you say boo to him, thinks he is hilarious and wonders if he will have a girlfriend soon.
I remember being mortified when my son at 3 bit a fellow nursery goer, I thought that it was the beginning of the end (he would be a bad lad!) but it turned out the other lad wacked him first. Anyhow that was a one and only, and since then it has mostly calmed down.All in all being a parent is kind of like walking a tight rope while you have pmt an aching back and stuffing your face with chocolate (medicinal), but it is so much fun at the same time.
Not sure if that helped or not!!!

Snaggles

You have a 3 year old that demands salad?????

I wish you could pop round my house and have a chat to my 6 year old son, who despite me trying everything, will NOT entertain salad, or any kind of cold vegetables except carrots (although he will eat cooked veg no problem, and loves fruit).

Seriously, your daughter sounds lovely - kids are quite often outspoken at that age, and your daughter sounds very intelligent, which is probably why she questions everything. It's embarrassing to you as a parent, but most people will understand that she's 'just at that age' and the ones that don't understand are not worth worrying about.

mae

Thanks again for your replies.
Snaggles.. Yes she demanded salad she is abit odd like that she eats full peppers all to herself and I end up hiding the cherry tomatoes as she eats the whole punnet at once!! I'm not complaining though, I have encouraged it very much from weaning so its paid off. She does like the junk too though infact I can't think of anythng she doesn't like off hand. It feels like she has been eating solids, walking and talking since the day she was born she did everything so early infact I sometimes wish she had stayed a baby longer if that makes sense?

Carmina_Piranha_3

i bet she doesn't eat sprouts

my 20 month old is really embarrassing, last week i was in a grocers and he started eating cherry tomatoes while i was bagging up some carrots - just reached out and helped himself to them :eek: i was mortified, but the shop owner laughed and said you rarely see a child eating tomatoes, she didn't charge me for them

seven-day-weekend

Lyndsay_21 wrote: »

This is totally how i feel about my DD she has always been an early talker and very 'with it', the problem me and DD have is we need space from each other and we clash as we are so similar this sounds so silly seeing as i'm talking about a 4yr old but its true. She likes the structure of nursery and i think she will flourish at school.

OP- my DD was exactly the same as she's got a bit older it's improved, they just don't realise it's rude. i just say not 'thats enough' and she knows to stop.

My son was exactly the same; he could talk in sentences at a year and was always very fluent. We needed space too.

He's 27 now and still talks to me in monologues!

(I remember when he was fifteen months old, I had become a Christian and was being baptised by full immersion. My friend was holding my son and he said at the top of his voice 'Sandra, I don't want MY hair washed'!

Everybody fell about laughing. So my baptism was a very joyful occasion thanks to him!)

nearlyrich

I think when small children are really articulate people expect them to have the reasoning skills that go with the talking etc. She really is just a baby and probably gets frustrated that she can't always have the "adult" status.

I wouldn't worry too much about them saying things loudly, children are curious and if they can see something different they want to know all the ins and outs.