when you reach breaking point

mardatha

"The thing is because they are black and im pale pale you can see my skin through the holes otherwise i wouldnt bother repairing and just carry on wearing"
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I would never, ever, EVER be tempted to dab a finger into black ink and on the leg under the hole. No, never.
fibber :rotfl::rotfl:
I'd wear black tights under them

Gigervamp

I would make a little patch to go on the inside of the trousers and use fusable webbing tape instead of sewing the patches on.

lostinrates

I wear tracksuit trousers or fleece pjs almost every day because they are immansely wash and dryable and can be picked up inexpensively (though i feel guilty about doing this). They do not last that long. They get wet most days and covered in muck (hence washability is important) and they get holes in them very easily.

Imo, its worth repairing 'proper' trousers, but wear joggers as they are, with tights if you want, for housework and lolling, and have smarter clothers for wearing out of the house.

I do feel bad that i do not buy 'better clothes' and that by fay the majority of time my husband sees me my hair is screwed into a rough bun or plaits and i am in filthy pjs:o:o but in all seriousness, if i bought 'better clothes' they would get ruined as quickly and be harder to take care of.

I do need some new things for this winter and i am considering getting some semi smart yard clothes....

GreyQueen

mardatha wrote: »

"The thing is because they are black and im pale pale you can see my skin through the holes otherwise i wouldnt bother repairing and just carry on wearing"
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I would never, ever, EVER be tempted to dab a finger into black ink and on the leg under the hole. No, never.
fibber :rotfl::rotfl:
I'd wear black tights under them

Have you been reading George Orwell's Down and Out in Paris and London? In it, he describes watching how a vagrant gets himself attired as smartly as possible and the final touch is getting out a pot of black ink and touching-in the skin on his ankle which would otherwise glimmer through the hole in his sock.

LiR trad countymen like my grands and great-grands (one was the head horseman on a farm with working horses) used to wear boiler suits over their work clothes to take the worst of the filth. Would something similar be possible for your situation?

lostinrates

GreyQueen wrote: »

Have you been reading George Orwell's Down and Out in Paris and London? In it, he describes watching how a vagrant gets himself attired as smartly as possible and the final touch is getting out a pot of black ink and touching-in the skin on his ankle which would otherwise glimmer through the hole in his sock.

LiR trad countymen like my grands and great-grands (one was the head horseman on a farm with working horses) used to wear boiler suits over their work clothes to take the worst of the filth. Would something similar be possible for your situation?

I have a boiler suit but it makes me a bit claustrophobic....:o. its because i am overweight i think. They are made of that heavy cotton stuff, and inflexible, where as i like some give in my work clothes, because otherwise things rub and pull on alarming places :eek: While a fleece boiler suit would be less practical it would be more comfortable (just imagining how many species of animal hair i could get to stick to that. I think it probably is a good solution though, if i could bring my self not to have the heebiejeebies in one.

chirpychick

You guys are brilliant, the ink thing is a great idea. I'm going to go get some thread tomorrow and I will let you know how I get on with hubby's trousers

I think I will have a sort out and keep the holey ones of mine to one side and non holey ones to the other so i have some for wearing out "in public" and some for housework/dog walking etc.

thank you again

I remember pre IVA days where I used to easily spend £100-£200 a month on clothes :-O I did work full time then but even so! Now I don't even spend that in a year. Sometimes I look at others my age and admire how "trendy" they are and things but my priorities are so different, I usually get hand me downs from my MIL who is 50 years older than me LOL but like this weekend she gave me 3 long jumpers and 2 t shirts, none have ever been worn. She is terrible really, she orders from catalogues and then can't be bothered to return them when they don't suit or fit her! She is about 2 sizes bigger than me but as I am pregnant the jumpers will be perfect in a few weeks time with leggings when the weather drops in temperature. And to be honest even when not pregnant, with a few extra layers underneath they'll be fine.
I do sometimes feel bad for my poor hubby too lol but he understands and i think in some ways admires me for the complete turn around.
He even cuts my hair, except for once a year when I have to go and get it thinned out (which I am currently desperate for as all the elastics are breaking)!
I think he gets more clothes than I do, all his work polos are free thank goodness and steel toe cap shoes are free upto £25 but sometimes he will pay £10 toward them (which is still cheaper than buying new). His mum is wonderful, every birthday she will give me £50 - £100 and I have to go out and buy him new socks, pants, trousers & T shirts, jumpers, coat anything that he needs and then she wraps them up for him LOL. But it's actually a massive help and although he would prefer the money he would only flitter it away.

And I used to feel like I needed to wear make up everyday but now psoriasis stops me from being able to wear anything around my eyes and if I get a spot I might cover it up or apply a little blush on a particularly pale day if I am going out or something but generally I don't bother anymore either.

Sometimes it feels like letting myself go but actually I feel like I wish everyone felt that make up everyday was unnecessary. I see one young lady a couple of years younger than me and she is beautiful but when she puts all her make up on she really looks awful! I wish she saw what everyone else see's. I am not saying I have a huge amount of confidence but more an attitude of "if you don't like it then don't look" LOL :rotfl:

Sorry I got a bit carried away chatting there! You lot are such a lovely bunch I feel like I have just sat down in the living room with a cuppa and chatting to old friends

PipneyJane

chirpychick wrote: »

Sometimes it feels like letting myself go but actually I feel like I wish everyone felt that make up everyday was unnecessary. I see one young lady a couple of years younger than me and she is beautiful but when she puts all her make up on she really looks awful! I wish she saw what everyone else see's. I am not saying I have a huge amount of confidence but more an attitude of "if you don't like it then don't look" LOL :rotfl:

I know what I'm going to say is well off topic, but you are so right. What is this fashion for caking on the makeup? One of my friends calls it "Veal dressing as Beef"!:rotfl:

We were at a confirmation recently (a family "do"). At least 3 of the 20-odd little girls were dressed "my big fat gypsy wedding" style, complete with enough makeup and spray tan to provide every other woman in the congregation with a healthy glow. I'm sure they thought they looked gorgeous, but really they just looked as if their faces would crack if they smiled.:eek:

Butterfly_Brain

I have heard of mutton dressed as lamb, but veal dressed as beef is a new one on me :rotfl:

Out,_Vile_Jelly

gailey- you mention the £9k tuition fees, but these are not required up front- you will only have to pay this if you end up in a job earning more than £21k. Please look up the Open University, as they have subsidised courses for those on certain benefits. It's also extremely flexible and supportive.

It makes me sad to hear parents beating themselves up so much about Christmas. My mum loves Christmas (possibly to the point of being slightly unhinged), and I was brought up to love it too, but we didn't get huge expensive presents. Most Christmassy things are FREE: looking at lovely shop displays, picking ivy and holly from the common, the smells of Christmassy foods, cheesy choons on the radio (admission- I listen to Christmas songs all year round), making paper chains from seasonal catalogues, making present tags from last year's cards.....

My bestest ever Christmas present was a Sindy horse. The manufacturer had stopped making them, so my mum advertised for local second hand ones and paid a fiver for it. He was called Thunder and he's still at my parents' house. Kids don't always remember the big expensive gifts.

lostinrates

I agree with out vile jelly. Its not the gifts at all, its parents happy and
Aughing, group snuggles and walks to kick
Eaves in autumn, crunch snow, or just see nature on cristmas day, with mugs of hot soup afterwards.

My parents often invited people who were far from home (people posted to a strange country for work) or people who were single, or maybe couples. And i remember explaining customs of decoration and food. I think fondly of one of my teachers who came with her husband, her child was in china, and her husband ate the whole christmas pudding because he thought it was one portion, but he loved it and we had another. I am glad i learned christmas was about celebrating and being happy and sharing. Tbh, i only remember two christmas presents, mainly because I sold both later on.