Trying for a Baby Part 8

atton83

Have my fingers xd for you tea

tinkwings

Thinking of you Tea xx

amyloofoo

Hi everyone,

I'm going to try to respond to everyone again (I have a few days off work so have time to read and reply for once ), but I apologise if I miss anyone out, I'm pretty tired after the whole sister-birthing and husband-partying experience last night / this morning

QQ - I'm so sorry that things are still difficult. You were an inspiration on the TTC journey and you continue to be an inspiration with how brave and decent you're being throughout this desperately sad and confusing time. Hope your OH gets the chance to mull things over whilst he's away and comes back ready to talk - whether or not you're able to work out the relationship, you deserve to be able to talk about it like adults. I know he has his own issues which are influencing his behaviour, but it's so unfair that it's now impacting on you :grouphug:

Tink - Yey for DD being better, but booooo for you not feeling well :grouphug: If you're struggling to breathe then it's time to see a doctor hun, get yourself checked out so you're able to take care of yourself and your lovely LO. On a lighter note, those doggies are gorgeous!

Birdie - We demand hair piccies :j Your friend sounds like my sister lol, who despite being a professional hairdresser always manages to make herself sound incompetent right before doing something I'm nervous about :rotfl:There seem to be a few of us on here who're fancying a change... I'm having mine done tonight too, although I'm just having a few highlights to disguise my roots I have a lovely bright bottle of pink hair dye which is begging to be used, but I just know what work's reaction would be DH always says he can tell how much I've missed him by how big my hug for him is when he gets home... if it's bad then I'll nearly crush him when he gets through the front door

time2deal - Thank you for the lists, I love their new look And you're quite right, we should all definitely have a day in my honour _party_ I'm really glad your DH's test turned out to be a mistake.... who knew we'd be so happy to see an NHS error! Sorry to hear about the other less than glowing results :grouphug: but congratulations on being so positive and grounded (there you go, now it's my turn to be trite :rotfl:). I'm really glad you have a good support network around you, whether that online or with real-life people You (and the other helpful list-ladies) have been brill at doing the lists and staying on top of them, it must get very confusing with everything being constantly updated. I'm (sort of) happy to see that it's not just me who can't leave DH to stew in silence... why do we do it to ourselves when we know it's just going to end in a row?

Noangel - Congrats for first CD1 post-pill. Hopefully this is a sign of good things to come, and you will quickly regain your cycle

Hopelass - The distractions are a killer for posting on here, you wouldn't believe how long it's taken me to write this :rotfl: It's good to hear from you though - p.s. I have mental images of you talking to your cat now!

Atton - I'd be tempted to test but I can understand your reluctance. If not, then maybe you should see a doctor? If you're being sick and your temperature's all over the place then it's possible you could have an infection? Have you considered seeing an FS (sorry if you've already done / spoke about this, I have a goldfish memory), as it seems you have a lot of unusual symptoms quite regularly... maybe they could give you some answers?

mrshappy - :rotfl:Sorry to panic you - I'm doing K272 as well as K218 (I have no idea why I thought this was a good idea :eek:) and K272 is even more of a pain than K218... Have managed to get TMA1 in for both of them now, so have a little break from the assignment writing. I got 75 for TMA1 from K218, which I was quite pleased with as it was a little rushed and I wasn't really into the course material. I didn't put enough references / quotes in though, so I've got a smacked handie from my tutor. Are you waiting for K101 exam results? I'm really nervous :rotfl: I keep having dreams about getting 0! Hope you did well on your assignment and are generally enjoying the course Are you studying towards a degree in health and social care?

Courgette - I met Timmy Mallett when I was at uni and he 'bonked' me with his mallett... I was quite drunk and didn't really understand who he was :rotfl:

Becca - I saved the crumbly cake for DH and myself, and went out and bought one for everyone else :rotfl:Think they may have noticed but no-one said anything! Glad you have lots of PMA at the moment - hope that positivity pays off for you hun Sorry you're missing DH, but hopefully you'll have a lovely reunion

MV - Massive hugs - can't really help with the OV thing as I'm not even convinced I've been doing it Hope the others were able to give you reassurance though. Sending extra special hugs and best wishes to you, would be delighted to see an special sticky Christmas bean for you So sorry that you're still being ambushed with Facebook pregnancy announcements... maybe step away from the site from a bit? Sometimes it can be really unhelpful (but I'm guiltier than most for continuing to persevere past the point of helpfulness).

vic - Congrats on ov

Purcy - I think we're all looking forward to December, who knew November would be so miserable - but on to bigger and better things No SSing, as we know that's very naughty, but hope your symptoms really are a sign of good things to come

lemon - Sorry to hear you're having a bad AF. Hope things stop being painful for you, and that you get your Christmas wish I love homemade advent calendars, so cute! I'm constantly amazed by how many wonderfully talented ladies there are on this thread!

kellykins - Hope your night shift went well, and that your TTCing journey is short and blissful Are you another healthcare worker?

Leopardlady - Sorry to hear that PMA has gone - but I had to have a chuckle about the unfortunate toddler-meets-pool experience :rotfl:They are cheeky little monkeys at that stage

Vesper - Glad to hear you're getting help with the depression, and that it's not TTC related (although I appreciate that this probably doesn't help sometimes). I hope you know that you're always welcome to talk on here, whether it's TTC related or not :grouphug:

loulou - Congratulations on being sensible, but a massive fingers crossed for you Hope the knicker watch retires without any witch sightings and that you're able to finish November with a lovely BFP!

Tealover - Grrr for internet, but thinking of you for your FS appointment, hope things go well for you and your OH and you start to get some answers. It's totally understandable that you're nervous about all the options, but I hope that you get the decision you're looking for and that it's very successful and brings you what you're dreaming of. I love that you're knitting when you're working from home! What are you working on?

AFM - I'm about to set off shortly to go and see my new little niece. She was born at 5am and weighs 5.1 lbs. Mum and baby are both doing well, going to drink about a million cups of tea and steel myself to face this gorgeous little baby, my mum who knows my concerns about TTC and my work colleagues all at the same time :eek: Things have gone a little bit Jeremy Kyle with my sister's birth mother threatening to visit along with her boyfriend, who has convictions against children - think I'm going to have to inform the ward that he's not a fit person to be allowed around the babies and new mums.

DH's birthday meal went well last night, right up until the point when he started crying and telling me that he knows I'm going to leave him... Wine was most definitely involved, so I just cuddled him, reassured him and let him sleep it off. He snuck off to work this morning before I was even up, so I presume he's a bit embarrassed today

lemonmelon_2

Thinking of you tea, I'm always nervous about consultant appointments. I hope it goes well and you can have a nice quiet evening to digest what they say.

Qq sending you great big hugs and good wishes, look after yourself lovely.

I've had a morning off and I used to take every towel, pair of jeans and jumper we own to the laundrette and came home with lots of lovely clean warm dry clothes, its made me so happy to not have anything on a radiator - it all takes so long to dry in this weather!

QQuaver

TTC40 wrote: »

Hugs Q. It certain doesn't fall into 'normal' behaviour. Have you any further insight from his mum or other family members/ friends about why he is doing this?

His mum seems to be oblivious as to what's happening, so I didn't enlighten her.
One of his oldest friends (since they were teenagers) said DH was never a talker, and can be stubborn.

What do you want to happen?

I don't want a divorce until I find another man tbh:p
Marriage counselling would be ideal, but I doubt he'd want to 'waste' time on that.

Separation for a while? Then if it needs to be, a divorce. I'll sign the papers without any issues, don't want any of his money.

Did you start any cinversations which he didn't respond to?

He's been ignoring me, so only thing I said was hello, good morning, good bye like always (no reply), asked what he wants for breakfast (he replied) that sort of thing.

He doesn't look as though he was in a talking mood, so I didn't ask the obvious question - why divorce?

I checked the history of his PC (sorry, but desperate times) and he was searching for divorce, some unsavoury sites, infertility, and risks to older women in pregnancy.

QQuaver

tea_lover wrote: »

We have our next FS appt at 4pm today and I'm very nervous. Nervous they'll say they can't do anything at all, nervous they'll say we need ICSI but the waiting list is 5 years, nervous they'll say we don't qualify for any NHS help at all, nervous they'll want to start ICSI straight away. Basically bricking it about all possibilities today lol.

On my first FS appt, I cried:o
I'll be thinking of you (((hugs))).

TeamLowe

oh tea lover i hope this afternoon goes really well and you have the best plan of action ever at the end of it

QQ I'd say the infertility and risk to older women in pregnancy seem to suggest a panic about your TTC and he's done the typical man thing and made a split second decision then completely closed in on himself- i like to refer to this as being in his cave lol
although how you get them back out the cave i've no idea
x x

time2deal

QQuaver wrote: »

On my first FS appt, I cried:o
I'll be thinking of you (((hugs))).

So did I. But then I go through random crying phases these days. The joys of TTC!

Good luck at the FS today. Not much advice to give, other than have the courage to ask as many questions as you can think of. Not like me, who clams up and then thinks of hundreds after I have left!

victoria270385

Hi All, im new to this message board on the forum. Me and my husband have been trying for just one month, due for ovulation next week so fingers crossed this month will be in.

I know its way to early to be thinking about it but i have a question about bedroom sharing. Basically my husband has an 11 year old child, we have a 2 bedroom house. My step son only stays over once a fortnight (husband see's him every week though). We cannot afford to rent a bigger house so wondered if anyone else is in the same situation as me with an older child sharing a room. I dont see the point in moving and paying an extra £100 - £150 a month for an extra room when the current one is only being used 1 night a fortnight. I dont want his son thinking he is loosing his room though as his mum has shacked up with my cousin (too close for comfort) who has two kids and a new one between them so they have 4 kids in a 2 bedroom house (although the two dont stop that often) which i know my step son hates. He has been majorily playing up and being hard work for his mum and i just dont want the same to happen at ours but i cant see any way around it other than them sharing rooms when the baby is out of our room. Sorry im rambling on now. Victoria xxx

codemonkey

hello and welcome Victoria. Hope you won't be here too long.

Bear in mind that pregnancy will last 9 months and then the baby will be in with you for a while anyway so need to worry just yet. Perhaps you could offer an incentive to your stepson for sharing his room - like redecoration the way he wants or something like that. It's so hard in blended families for the existing child who can feel pushed out to make way for the new baby. When I was a kid, my parents were always taking in waifs and strays, usually family, and there could have been about 10 or 12 of us in a three bedroom house and as a result I was always giving up or sharing my room and bed and as a result I never really felt like I 'belonged', if that makes sense. I know it's not the same but it's important that he still feels like it's his room too, even if it's shared with the the little one.

tea lover good luck with the fs today.

qq sorry about your oh. Do you think he's decided that he'll release you so you can have a baby with someone else.

Waiting to hear from a specialist - my eye test yesterday turned up a problem with my eye and now I'm worried they won't let me go on holiday. Working from home in case they wanted me to go in today and teared up at a soppy movie on Christmas 24.