I Think It's Time To Cease Contact But I'm Confused!

Yorkie1

Have you checked whether your phone(s) can block particular incoming calls? Seems a pity for you to have to go to the hassle of changing your number if there is a less extreme way to achieve the same result.

Likewise, I think that email addresses can be blocked.

chirpychick

I just wanted to thank everyone for all the help and advise.
I have blocked her on FB and limited my settings so nobody can send me messages or anything that aren't friends.
I have also blocked her emails so they get deleted straight away and don't go to spam (that way I don't read any and get hurt/upset/angry).
I have switched the answer phone off at home so she can't leave any messages (and hubby and I are discussing/looking into changing our number).
I just need to look into finding a way to stop her contacting my mobile, I really don't want to have to change the numbers, but will if needs be.
So it's a bit like a waiting game now, waiting to see how far she take the drama and what she will do, it fills me with dread which only reaffirms my reasons for doing this.

londonsurrey

Well done.

All those memories of how she used you to lie, etc, with you between her and your mother, use them to understand that if you don't cut contact, she will just use the child the same way, between you(in place of your mother) and her.

Don't forget, all the negative feelings and negative memories, although unpleasant, you can channel into strength of resolve against her.

marisco_2

chirpychick wrote: »

I just need to look into finding a way to stop her contacting my mobile, I really don't want to have to change the numbers, but will if needs be.

Phone your mobile provider and see if they can just block her numbers. I think this is a relatively easy process. Why should you be inconvenienced by changing your contact details because of how another person behaves. Well done on taking such positive steps to stop her from contacting and upsetting you. I imagine a huge weight feels like it has been lifted already. Hopefully she will get the message quickly and leave you alone.

Penny-Pincher!!

OP, I cut all ties with my sister 2 years ago and had an injunction taken out on her due to harassment and other stuff that Im not going to post about, but its the best thing I ever did and I don't feel guilty at all!

Why should you tolerate it, just because she's family? Its your life...live it!

PP
xx

LisaLou1982

OP do you have a smartphone? There are apps you can download that block calls and texts from numbers xx

Hermia

londonsurrey wrote: »

All those memories of how she used you to lie, etc, with you between her and your mother, use them to understand that if you don't cut contact, she will just use the child the same way, between you(in place of your mother) and her.

My grandfather was a horrible bloke, but my mum let me see him (she was a very dutiful daughter who believed blood was thicker than water). She assumed he wouldn't be horrible to me because he was now old and presumably harmless, but he was just as spiteful to me.

paddy's_mum

Can you find a few quid so that you can be away from home during the August Bank holiday weekend? Even if you borrow a tent and camp on a friend's lawn?

Kind of hard for this person who dares to give herself the honour of being called Grandma to come and stay the days with you if you aren't there, the house is locked, the car gone ...

chirpychick

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

OP do you have a smartphone? There are apps you can download that block calls and texts from numbers xx

I have an Iphone, could you recommend one? (preferably free!)

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Can you find a few quid so that you can be away from home during the August Bank holiday weekend? Even if you borrow a tent and camp on a friend's lawn?

Kind of hard for this person who dares to give herself the honour of being called Grandma to come and stay the days with you if you aren't there, the house is locked, the car gone ...

I wish I could!!
Unfortunately we don't have the money but we also have plans to visit the inlaws on one day and I think we will take the dogs out for some walks and try and stay out as much as we can!


I have tried now blocking the numbers to my mobile but vodafone say its not possible.

Penny-Pincher!!

You need to focus on your future and that of your babys. You don't need negative energy around something so special.

A basic solicitors letter can be drawn up for around £120 here, but if you're short on cash, then I would write up a basic letter stating that you're wanting to decease all contact and that she is not to contact you in any form or you will bring legal proceedings. Just keep it simple and precise and do NOT apologise in anyway. Stand firm!

PP
xx